posted January 14, 2008 12:07 AM            

If someone explicitly tells you that a certain matter is "none of your business".. Do you continue to pry, either overtly or undercover? Do you think this behavior is *ok* and can be classified as 'well meaning concern'.. or would you describe it as completely inappropriate?

What are your Sun/Moon/Asc?

posted January 14, 2008 12:20 AM              

I also feel it is inappropiate for the same reason you gave. It is an infringement on a person's personal boundaries.

posted January 14, 2008 12:45 AM              

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posted January 14, 2008 01:01 AM              

I don't give a pig's a$$ who is sleeping with who at work, or who had a nose job. I have much more important things to think about and be aware of :P

HOWEVER, when it comes to ex-lovers or potential love interests, my Venus and Uranus in Scorpio can't help but spy sometimes - just to see what they're up to

posted January 14, 2008 02:11 AM              

During our relationship he constantly needed to know my whereabouts but would get annoyed if I wanted to know of his.

posted January 14, 2008 02:43 AM              

I google everyone. EVERYONE. I don't consider even getting past a first meeting unless I've googled them!

We soooooooooo baaaadass.

posted January 14, 2008 03:28 AM              

I (or the government for that matter)could download a keylogger into your hard drive with a simple e-mail, and then read all your personal emails,see what porn sites you like to visit.. read EVERY word you type on your computer.

If I have your name and location, I could run a background check on you for around 40-50 american dollars.

I could find out your phone #, and about all of your DUI and domestic abuse charges, that you don't want anyone to know about

HMMM...I wonder if it really matters if it's none of my business or not...The government doesn't care.. why should I?

P.S. I get A LOT of hits on my Myspace page from New York

posted January 14, 2008 06:42 AM              

So I guess if you are friends, it is curiosity---and you probably wouldn't mind telling them; if they like you and you don't like them, it is an attempt to gain your friendship; if they don't like you, it is information-gathering for a power trip. The latter wouldn't describe me though, because I usually don't talk to people I don't like, but if I have to, I'm not usually interested in their personal lives.

And, if I were told that the matter is none of my business, I would believe that the person and myself are not friends, and that she has no interest in sharing her personal life with me. Which generally puts her into the third category above, or at least the non-entity category.

posted January 14, 2008 02:38 PM              

I am not nosy at all. in general i dont care what anyone is up to. i also dont like anyone prying into my business. My husband on the other hand has to know what everyone is doing especially the neighbors. Such as is that a new car? Did so and so get a new snowblower and look they have company over there. he is

posted January 14, 2008 03:54 PM              

I get obsessive - seriously OBSESSIVE - over snooping people's info/background online. Especially over guys that I am interested in..and it's just because I really want to know everything I can about that person. I've gone to such lengths as creating new personas/alias and stalking/talking to them secretly online to get more info out of them. I used to spy/stalk/constantly prank phone call love interests in middle school LOL. Those more outward nosiness qualities have subsided as I've grown up..now I just keep it super secret

My brother is Scorp sun w/ Scorp mars, and he's nosy..and sneaky about it.

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posted January 14, 2008 04:26 PM            

Well, I don't consider myself nosy at all, but I am curious about people and their personalities. Honestly, most people I simply don't talk to in general, because I hate small talk. However, if it's a person that I know fairly well (has to be more than an acquaintance), I don't mind asking questions. I will ask follow up questions to things if I sense it's something they want to talk about. Part of this is due to the fact that I have a degree in Counseling, so I naturally just ask questions that probe deeper (though I really do try to stifle that tendency when not counseling).

However, I'm mainly of the opinion that if a person doesn't want me to know they'll tell me so, and I think this because that's what I would do. If I don't want someone to know something, I tell them it's not up for discussion. It's really not that hard to be direct, and *most* people will respect you. (I think the Aries moon part of me is what makes me so direct).

But, on that same note, I'm not going to go up to a person and ask them about their sex life or anything. I honestly don't care.

posted January 14, 2008 04:37 PM            

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I believe when someone tells you its 'none of your buisness' its usually because they want you to ask again. if they dont want you to know they will probably say something else that would be clearer or more polite.

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Offtopic:

I REALLY hope that you change that view and mode of thinking hidey... Because that is where stalkeresque line of thinking takes its origin from; The so called "He/She really doesn't means it that way" premise. Rude or not, when a person says "its none of your business," you just take it as they say it and respect their space.

posted January 14, 2008 07:47 PM            

One woman I work with...I know that as soon as I tell her something, off she runs and tells two or ten people. Yes, she's that bad. I've learned to share the bare minimum just to be sociable and otherwise keep my cards close to my chest.

posted January 14, 2008 11:55 PM            

I must admit though, that it's probably easier for me not to be a prying type of person than it is for others b/c I'm not really interested in that surface stuff about people. By surface, I mean the who's, where's, when's, and what's about a person. The facts. I don't really care! Not that I don't want to know it. If someone wants to share, I'll listen and be interested in what they want me to know about them. But the way I see it, you can know all those factual things about a person and still not know them. The facts aren't even close to being half of the story. To me, a person is more their motivations and interpretations. All that underlying psychological stuff. Their life's internal story-line. That, I'm very much interested in about people. I feel like I learn far more about a person by, for example, listening to his reaction to a movie he saw than knowing who he boinked last week.

To say I dislike when people ignore my boundaries would be an understatement. It seems to me that when people do that, they're using other people as a means to satisfy their curiosity. Edit: By that, I mean that instead of two people relating, it seems more like the prying person perceives the other as a research project. The lack of warmth turns me off.

This is sorta an issue of mine. That's probably obvious.

Sag...Leo...Scorpio