posted April 04, 2007 05:24 PM            

5 months ago I met a Gem sun/Scorp moon on a business trip. My Pisces moon immediately felt his intensity and something about him spoke deeply to me. While we only exchanged pleasantries at that time once I returned home I reached out and for the past five months we have established what I believed to be a pretty solid connection via email. Every day, all day long we would email about pretty much anything, he would phone me at work, etc. It was constant. He became a part of my everyday, and I of his.

After weighing all the various pros and cons I decided to book a trip (with a girlfriend) to get away and see him. He froze, it was like he absolutely became paralyzed when he saw me and realized that I was actually there. I was there for four days and we only spent about 15 minutes of total alone time together. The rest was spent with his friends, in a group setting where his personality is very different...jovial and light but shy(obviously a bi product of his Gem sun). It was like he saw me and there it was, right there in front of him and he just did not know what to do. At one point during a very intense moment where I asked him what was going on he was holding me so tightly I literally thought I would break in half, he said that he could not get attached and that it was a defense mechanism against getting close. When I tried to combat the point he told me not to bother, that he knew what I was going to say and that he has heard it before. He was looking so intensely at me and holding me for dear life.

Needless to say I am left devastated and confused. Confused about what the past 5 months really were, confused that I would travel a very long distance to see him and that he would be so careless of my feelings and flake out like he did. My moon senses his deep confusion and inner torment. I just want to reach out to him and let him know how much I feel his pain and want him to trust me, that I am here and that he can always be himself with me.

I returned a few days ago and have not heard from him, nor have I reached out. I want to email him but I am unsure if that is what he needs right now. I can't help but feel that he felt an overhwhelming sense of relief that I was gone and that makes me so sad. I am reading a lot on the board about the "tests" some of these folks like to put people through and also how moon scorpios do not like being ignored. I do not want him to think that I am ignoring him or that it's over or that I don't care, but I also do not want to overhwhelm him. I want to give him space as I don't even know how he is feeling about what happened. Can anyone shed some light on this situation? Should I reach out to him or has he already written me off as another person he has shut out? Any insight here is greatly appreciated, I am hurting and I feel as though I need some perspective from those who might know what is going on w/ him deep down. I should also mention that there is about a 3.5 year age difference between us, with me being older.

Thank you very much to all of you for any help.

posted April 04, 2007 07:27 PM            

Have you heard the expression, "I'm gonna go Alanis Morrisette on your ass?"

LOL if you havent listened to her album jagged little pill you should.

posted April 04, 2007 07:45 PM              

All I can say is tread very carefully!!! They will stomp on your heart with no remorse and play games with you IF they are the unevolved, immature type. It is a very intense moon for a Air sun to deal with, especially for a man so the guys I knew were very unbalanced and a lil psycho. If he has a penchant for revenge/punishment towards anyone that does him wrong, please RUN because they will sting you if you do anything to hurt them (even if its unintended or imagined on their part).

This guy does not want to get attached, so why bother. Its best not to play therapist to them because it won't work. It will drain your energy. Its not your job to help him get past his fears. He clearly isn't ready for a relationship or anything serious. A casual fling or pure sex with no strings attached is probably the most he can give you.

I have a Gemini rising and I know that I don't like anyone uninvited showing up anywhere near me. It gives me a feeling that I'm being choked, like a claustrophobic feeling that my freedom and personal space is being invaded. So I can definitely see why his reaction was not what you expected. If he had no idea that you was gonna show up on that certain day & time, I'm sure he felt what I described above. Because when I feel like that, my reactions are the same as you described.

Geminis need space, yet his Scorpio moon may not want that space. Its an inner struggle of closeness vs freedom. So he may have a Dr.Jekyll/Mr.Hyde twin personality that exhibits his inner struggle. I seen this in my exes and it is so frustrating to be on the receiving end of this. If you can get his birth time, do his birth chart and see if there's any strong negative placements. Also do a composite chart and synastry.

I would not contact him. You already visited him and now its time for him to reciprocate. Do not chase him, let him do the chasing.

If you choose to stick with him, as soon as you see anymore red flags (red flag #1 was his reaction to your visit and #2 was him telling you he doesn't want to get attached, #3 will be if he doesn't contact you), you should RUN and never look back! There are tons of available men out there waiting for you. Good Luck!

posted April 04, 2007 07:51 PM              

Avril Lavigne is also a Scorpio Moon (Libra Sun) and her music (well I haven't heard her current album but I have the others) is also very expressive in a Scorpionic way.

posted April 05, 2007 12:10 AM            

edit: Alanis also has a Taurus moon in the 8th like me but I don't see any of that in her music. I love metal, not a big fan of hers oddly. But Avril Lavigne i see it more in, and in her eyes too

posted April 05, 2007 01:58 AM            

"This guy does not want to get attached, so why bother. Its best not to play therapist to them because it won't work. It will drain your energy. Its not your job to help him get past his fears. He clearly isn't ready for a relationship or anything serious. A casual fling or pure sex with no strings attached is probably the most he can give you."

He's been honest with you. Don't think you have the magic touch that's going to change him. Very often, we women love to delude ourselves with this fantasy of coming into a man's life and opening him up. If he decides to move past his fears, he'll let you know. In the meantime, YOU move on.

posted April 05, 2007 09:30 PM              

Oh - and please excuse my english - it's not my first language.

posted August 01, 2014 11:34 AM            

That said, emailing can be very dangerous like texting and using social media to communicate. It is very freeing and safe to write and know that's all your doing.

I'm a Scorpio moon and I've heard about the testing thing but I've never been conscious about it in myself. I've never been afraid of commitment either. This guy's reaction to you was awful and I don't blame you for being devastated. If he knew you were coming, there is no justifiable explanation for his behavior.

posted February 26, 2015 10:31 AM            

As a Scorpio Moon female, I don't think I know any Scorpio Moon males. And it's probably for the best. I honestly feel like I can say something about every moon sign for a male except for Scorpio. Weird.

Yeah I wouldn't bother to pursue him.

posted February 27, 2015 01:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
Cool read though. "stay away from me" isn't that what Christian Grey says to Anastasia? haha

As a Scorpio Moon female, I don't think I know any Scorpio Moon males. And it's probably for the best. I honestly feel like I can say something about every moon sign for a male except for Scorpio. Weird.

Yeah I wouldn't bother to pursue him.

As a female with this moon placement, I find the whole "stay away" to be cheesy. Especially with movies like Twilight and 50 shades.

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posted March 13, 2015 04:48 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
Yeah, she's long gone.

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heh, or they can both be married and have 10 kids by now!

posted March 30, 2015 07:11 PM            

The reason he froze is because it wasn't meant to be an in-the-flesh relationship. It was meant to be an affair of the mind. You were meant to touch him and he you with words.

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They are tremendous flirts, as for them flirting can be a kind of intercourse which is an end in itself. This can be very confusing to the recipient, who may believe that they are being offered something that just isn't there. They have no way of knowing that what they are participating in is not a prelude to sex but an alternative to it.

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--Love & Sexuality, Babs Kirby & Janey Stubbs.

^^was said of mars in Gemini, but I believe it applies to Gemini generally.

posted March 30, 2015 07:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
For me, this had nothing to do with Moon in Scorpio and everything to do with Sun in Gemini. As a Gemini this story sounds very familiar; a deeply romantic relationship - all words & thousands of miles between us. Gemini's are capable of carrying on such an "affair" for years. I'm a Gemini and I've done it, more than once, more than twice. The surest way to end such a "relationship" is to make it real or bring the fantasy into reality.

The reason he froze is because it wasn't meant to be an in-the-flesh relationship. It was meant to be an affair of the mind. You were meant to touch him and he you with words.

--Love & Sexuality, Babs Kirby & Janey Stubbs.

^^was said of mars in Gemini, but I believe it applies to Gemini generally.

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Well. I'm Gem Sun, Scorpio Moon. And I broke up for lack of emotional connection and good sex. Does that sound like "an affair of the mind" to you? :-D