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Topic: the unhappy archer
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MoonPixie
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posted October 21, 2005 05:02 PM
  
So, my Archer friend has just been crushed by this Libra girl he's been waiting for and yes, I said it: A Sagi waiting for 1.5 years, commiting himself to go pick her up, bring her to music fests, hanging out with her everyday almost...for 1.5 years. 1.5 years. It's a confusing story, but what basically happened is that when she finally realized "Wow.. he must like me." she totally turns cold towards him. She hasn't hung out with the group in 8 weekends. She's nice to him, you know: saying hi in the hallway, random IMs online, etc. But she totally doesn't let him have a conversation with her.
She first said that if she ever started dating, that she would go with my Archer friend because she liked him. Then she took it back. Then she lied to him about going on vacation during the dance so he wouldn't ask her to go with him. Then she went with some guy who randomly asked her when we were in a parking lot.After all this crappiness started, I tried to help my Archer friend feel better. Then he started to like me, but I knew it was only momentary because Libra just broke his heart and he was looking for some loving support. We still talked, though, but after I told him that I understood why she didn't want to date anyone in high school because I didn't want to date anyone in high school either, he stopped talking to me and now we don't even say more than 3 sentences to each other. All three of us have strong plutonian influences, so this situation was overly emotionally dramaticized. My question is, however, what gives??!! The Sagi wants to commit for once but doesn't get what he wants, the Libra is being dishonest and is isolating herself from everyone, and I don't want a relationship at all because I feel fine on my own for the moment. ------------------
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whiterabbit
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posted October 21, 2005 05:53 PM
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The Sagi wants to commit for once but doesn't get what he wants
two possibilities:
1. he's just one of those Sagittarians who can commit.
2. he really is the fickle type, and as is common with them (us) he is drawn to the one person who won't have him. It's very alluring when you're subconsciously aware that you cannot commit, to be drawn to the one person who won't allow you to commit. Why? Well it makes perfect sense, that way you can get romance (albeit unrequited) without being tied down.
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the Libra is being dishonest and is isolating herself from everyone
I have a lot of close female Libra friends. Remember that they love "love", but they don't always go for the thing that may bring them that love (another person). Then there's the problem with making up their minds. Also, I find a lot of Libras, and air signs in general, also suffer from what the Sag might be doing- not wanting to be with the people who want them but with the people who don't want them. All of this is especially common with young air signs (under 25).
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I don't want a relationship at all because I feel fine on my own for the moment.
Well, this is not really a problem- self-imposed, happy solitude is one of the best things in the world.
I hope things get better between the three of you as friends. Though they may never go back to "normal". Good luck!P.S. Do you have feelings for the Sag?
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MoonPixie
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posted October 21, 2005 06:02 PM
Umm... yeah. For four years actually...Last year, one of my friends told him that I liked him and he started blowing me off just like the Libra is blowing him off now. So, I pretended like I didn't like him. I then dated his best friend. Well, after 7 months, I broke up with his best friend and then two weeks later the ex tells him that I did like him and...yeah... He stayed friends with me... but he told me he wouldn't date me because he still liked her (libra) and then I said that it wasn't a big deal and that it was just a little crush... So, then he started liking me when I were becoming really good friends again.... Gosh- I need a three day nap from the world. lol. ------------------
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whiterabbit
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posted October 21, 2005 06:08 PM
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I then dated his best friend.
 good revenge. Wow. This IS a messy situation. Sounds to me like everybody involved is a little guilty of mind games and manipulation and dishonesty.
Which of these people really matter to you? The friendship with the Libra, or the Sag? Probably not the ex, I suppose? Hmmm.. what does your chart look like? Check out your progressed moon as well as transits. You can do all of that on astro.com As I mentioned, I really think it's the kind of situation where you have to decide which, if any of these relationship matter to you enough to struggle through all this junk and stick around. Often trials like this leave you in a place where you know who really matters to you, and who you matter to. IP: Logged | |
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