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posted December 26, 2005 09:30 AM            

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I need help! what is the deal with those cusps? His birthday on March 23 and I am on March 3 . I am so head over heals with him. He knows that I care a lot about him, but he keeps our relationship confused and casual. We talk on the phone almost everyday or every other day. He says let's try to be friends first snd then see what happends. HE talks a lot about us going there, doing this but it;s just talk, and I so upset with his behavior sometimes. He knows what I want from him , it's serious relationship. I need to know what should I do or how should I act with those type of people(cusps)I don't want to loose him. I want to show him that he can loose me if he will not start giving me more attention! He feels very comfortable that I always available and like him, and his ego is so high.
Please help

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posted December 26, 2005 01:17 PM              

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Cusps...aside for a moment.
If you've made it clear what you want from him and he keeps flip flopping, is he really worth it?
I think the only way to deflate that Ego of his is for you to tell him again what you want and if he skirts around the issue...walk out...you'll find someone who is amazing and who'll give you everything you need.
The only change we can facilitate is in ourselves...

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sensitivity isn't about being wimpy. it's about being so painfully aware that a flea landing on a dog is like a sonic boom.
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posted December 27, 2005 10:46 PM              

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True, walk out now, if he knows what you want and he is not serious about the relationship.
He being not serious is a good indicator that he is not interested in long term. Maybe spend less time with him and talk less and see if his feelings changes positively (in terms of having a relationship).

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posted December 27, 2005 11:00 PM            

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He says let's try to be friends first snd then see what happends.

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If he asks to be your friend and see how things develop, then why are you trying to read into something he hasn't said?
Trust his words.
Relationships develop from friendship anyway, so try to put aside your compulsion/attraction and need for a long term thing, and just spend time with him, share with him. See what develops.
Patience.

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posted December 28, 2005 08:38 AM            

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We mostly talk on the phone and see each other once twice a month. Our friendship kind of strange, He was at my house only one time, I came over his twice and stayed over night. It was after three months we met. I guess back then he needed to get laid?! Then we didn't speak like for 4 months. He called me after 4 months and we started talking since then(it's been 5 months now)in total we know each other 1year and 2 months. HE knows a lot about me, I know less than 50% about him.Lately he started picking on my words, critisizing me. Annoyed with me.I have been a b-tch to him at times. I met one Kabbala Rabi and he told me that this guy is in the book of destiny.Meaning that he is the one for me. I told this to this guy, he didn't freaked out. He told me that he is lost and confused about things. I have a suspicion that he might be bisexual. I am afraid to speak about this with him. Although he makes such weird remarks sometimes. He asks if we have cute girls, cute guys at my work? I say yes.and then I say OH My GOD! HE says you don't understand jokes? I didn't give you a reason to think about me that I might be gay. I am so confused with him. But I care for him a lot. I gave him a Christmas presents. his ego is now way on the top.(he knows how I fell about him and that was my mistake from the begining.) I said I do not excpect presents from him. Stupid. I am sorry for such a long letter. Thanks for all of your suggestions.
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posted December 28, 2005 12:26 PM              

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What is this guys birth information?
march 23...of what year? do you know what time he was born at?
the book of destiny...i don't know anything about the Kabbala. I think it's good to look for road signs in your relationships (astrology, tarot, numerology). But in the end you know all the answers to any question you have...
I don't think it's ever a mistake to let someone know how you feel about them. that's a very brave thing you did.
"Trust his words"
Pixelpixe is dead on saying this.
if he's just not ready, and confused that's what he is.
if he's picking on you he proablly knows that you have expectations of him and he's saying in a non-clear way that he might want you to back off.

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sensitivity isn't about being wimpy. it's about being so painfully aware that a flea landing on a dog is like a sonic boom.
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posted December 28, 2005 02:04 PM              

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Welcome lizkin33

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posted December 28, 2005 05:06 PM            

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he was born on march 23 , year of birth is 1973. I am on march 3rd 1974

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posted December 28, 2005 08:58 PM            

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his time of birth if I remamber corectly is 11am

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posted December 28, 2005 11:14 PM              

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with the info you gave his chart reads like this..

Sun: Aries
moon: scorpio
Mercury: Pisces
Venus: Pisces
Mars: Capricorn
Jupiter: Aquarius
SaturnL Gemini
uranus: Libra
neptune: Sagittarius
Pluto: Libra
Asc: Cancer
Check out http://www.astro.com/
they have free services with compatability charts. Or http://www.cafeastrology.com has a lot of good information about synastry and composite charts.

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sensitivity isn't about being wimpy. it's about being so painfully aware that a flea landing on a dog is like a sonic boom.
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