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Topic: Libra Love
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tra929
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posted February 20, 2007 11:08 AM
 
Can anyone tell me about Libra men. I was dating one for a while and he was wonderful. But overnight it changed and he just backed off so I gave him the easy way out and told him he didn't need to feel obligated to call me. Haven't heard from him since. He was with me all the time and making plans for the future than told me he wasn't ready for a relationship. Don't understand this. IP: Logged |
libraschoice7
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posted February 20, 2007 12:02 PM
If you want we could look at the synastry and composite between you two? What are both of your birthdays, birth times'(if you can get it), and places you were born  ------------------
Sun in Libra
Moon in Cancer
Jupiter in Cancer
Venus in Virgo
Mars in Cancer
Ascendant in Cancer I "FEEL" therefor I am IP: Logged |
tra929
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posted February 20, 2007 12:09 PM
Thank you my birthday is 11/20/74 8:32 am his birthday is 10/1/78 not sure what time.
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libraschoice7
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posted February 20, 2007 12:11 PM
Need both birth places too  ------------------
Sun in Libra
Moon in Cancer
Jupiter in Cancer
Venus in Virgo
Mars in Cancer
Ascendant in Cancer I "FEEL" therefor I am IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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posted February 20, 2007 01:17 PM
My two longest relationships (three years and fourteen years, respectively) were with Libra men, and I've been friends with some of them, too. Here are a few general (sun sign) notes on things they had in common in their romantic relationships.-Libra men want EVERYONE to like them and they don't like to hurt anyone's feelings...they have a way of spreading themselves too thin trying to please people. They have trouble saying no and don't like to reject people...because of this love of harmony, they can get a bit passive-aggressive...for example, letting a relationship/platonic friendship they aren't really into drift along and hoping it kind of goes away by itself...backing away until the other person gives up. Basically, they hope they can get what they want without conflict and without feeling like they weren't "nice." -They can stay great friends with their exes, no problem. It sounds like with your Libra, you tried to be very respectful of his weird, sudden need for distance...but I bet if you want an explanation or you want to talk, he would be willing to answer your questions about what happened. -They respond well when you directly let them know what you want. But...they tend not to take the initiative in having a nice, clear discussion about what's going on. -Another way they spread themselves thin--they tend to turn on their friendly Libran charm with everyone...they don't even see it as flirting, but rather as just being friendly, and unlike a Gem or Sag, they aren't actually super-promiscuous in my experience (sorry for this generalization...it's just that in my personal experience, Gems and Sadges want actual open relationships...Libra will be quite faithful once he commits)...so, if you're dating one, it's hard to tell how much he really likes you. Because he treats EVERYONE like the love of his life...and then backs off passively and quietly if you're not. -Even if you ARE the love of his life, it's a good idea to clearly, directly tell the Libra what you're feeling and what you want from him. IP: Logged |
tra929
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posted February 20, 2007 01:52 PM
thanks that sounds true. He is a super nice guy just can't understand how he was always with me and told people how much he really liked me than within a day he just backed off. He used the excuse that he didn't want a relationship but I never said anything regarding that. I feel that something else happened and not sure if I should ask him. Its just that I am curious and just want the truth. Birth Place is Hackensack NJ for me and paterson Nj for him. IP: Logged |
triplecancer
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posted February 20, 2007 08:21 PM
I dated a Libra guy a couple of months ago. Wonderful in the beginning, but then he started to get confused about his ex-girlfriend and it all went down hill from there. i think what lucia said is very true, especially how they don´t start talking about what´s going on, but if you want to know they´ll let you know. I guess they don´t start a conversation about some conflict because of their need to have everything harmonious. If I hadn´t asked him about his feelings about his ex, he wouldn´t have said anything.
In the end, nothing happened with his ex-girlfriend but he ended up being a jerk, but not because he´s a libra.
I would ask him what´s going on with him, cause if you don´t he probably won´t talk on his own. IP: Logged |
DayDreamer
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posted February 20, 2007 08:32 PM
Sooo true...I gotta run this by my Libra uncle, who seems to be having troubles with his second marriage. quote:
Libra men want EVERYONE to like them and they don't like to hurt anyone's feelings...they have a way of spreading themselves too thin trying to please people. They have trouble saying no and don't like to reject people...because of this love of harmony, they can get a bit passive-aggressive...for example, letting a relationship/platonic friendship they aren't really into drift along and hoping it kind of goes away by itself...backing away until the other person gives up. Basically, they hope they can get what they want without conflict and without feeling like they weren't "nice."
Trying to please everyone isn't working out for him because he's had to do things behind peoples back and has gotten caught for it. Honesty is always the best policy. Now he just wants everything to be fine and dandy without doing anything to resolve the issue. He calls my father almost everyday about his relationship problems...I think my dad must be giving him bad advice because he keeps calling. IP: Logged |
Xodian
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posted February 20, 2007 08:39 PM
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-Libra men want EVERYONE to like them and they don't like to hurt anyone's feelings...they have a way of spreading themselves too thin trying to please people. They have trouble saying no and don't like to reject people...because of this love of harmony, they can get a bit passive-aggressive...for example, letting a relationship/platonic friendship they aren't really into drift along and hoping it kind of goes away by itself...backing away until the other person gives up. Basically, they hope they can get what they want without conflict and without feeling like they weren't "nice."
Untrue is many aspects considering offcourse as to what the ascender and Venus signs are ruled by as well. Yes Libras tend to try forging friendships rather than breaking them but Logic dictates as to what is worth staying into and what isn't and obviously anything that is corrosive to a Libra's wellbeing and the wellbeing of his/her friends and loved ones will be removed. Other than that... The rest is pretty accurate. IP: Logged |
tra929
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posted February 21, 2007 09:43 AM
Xodian I so agree with you about how they will remove you from there life. I found out the reason why it stopped just like that is because he said that someone told him something about me. That person does not know me but he took their word instead of just asking me. IP: Logged |
Xodian
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posted February 21, 2007 07:59 PM
Hmmmm... Unusual that he reacted that way. I usually credit any Libran for atleast taking the time to hear all sides of an argument before making a decision.Just out of curiousity, did you guys had any frictions in your relationships other than the distance aspect? You don't have to answer the question if its too personal . IP: Logged |
tra929
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posted February 22, 2007 09:47 AM
No, there was no friction at all. Everything was great he was with me all the time and really such a great guy. Then overnight he changed. IP: Logged |
Atlenta
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posted February 22, 2007 11:11 AM
He changed because he got scared.
It's fear. He's unsure and still trying to make up his mind. He's unsure if he can take up the responsibilities of a relationship, and how it might bode for the future. He prefers to think only of the present. Libra finds it hard to make long range plans, because they prefer possibilities to concreteness. Everything open.I have to disagree with "telling him what you're feeling and what you want from him" This will scare him right off for a long long time. Let him come to you.. contrary to popular belief, he doesn't like being chased. He can behave like a girl in a relationship, because his feminine and masculine side are very much in balance. He can take the role of the 'coy' mistress. This is his dark self he needs to conquer. It is due to insecurity within and has nothing to do with the other party. IP: Logged |
Dulce Luna
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posted February 22, 2007 11:14 AM
You know, I find that libra venuses can be the same way with the "trying to please everyone" thing.IP: Logged |
sue g
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posted February 22, 2007 12:13 PM
Just an observations I made....On another forum I post on there seems to be a lot of Libra males and Scorpio females....and they seem to interact well too....
Its a SEX forum btw....
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sue g
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posted February 22, 2007 12:14 PM
Just an observations I made....On another forum I post on there seems to be a lot of Libra males and Scorpio females....and they seem to interact well too....
Its a Love and sex forum btw....
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tra929
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posted February 22, 2007 02:21 PM
Yes Libra men and Scorp women are really good together.IP: Logged |
kaira
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posted February 22, 2007 03:31 PM
you just don't want to cross the line with us. we'll cling like there's no tomorrow, but when we break, we break as far away from you as possible, with no return. i think Libras are very underestimated, and that's not a big-headed comment. i know a few Libras that have turned from goody goodies, to complete hell bent psychomaniacs.IP: Logged |
Xodian
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posted February 22, 2007 08:23 PM
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It's fear. He's unsure and still trying to make up his mind. He's unsure if he can take up the responsibilities of a relationship, and how it might bode for the future.
Nah! I wouldn’t call it scared… More like contemplating Lol! (Just trying to defend my sign  .) Just to be fair to us guys, It ain't easy girls to pop the big question. There are so many uncertanties a guy goes through. Remember... we ARE talking about a life commitment. It takes a bit of time for any guy to finally convince himself that there are no flaws in his partner. Personally, I like open ended relationships better. What do I mean by open ended? Simply put I hold no restrictions on departure from a relationship. She is open to leave when ever she wants; No grudges, No hate. It makes it more easier on both partners to enjoy each and every moment without the fear of not living up to expectations. Just let things go on from there. quote:
I have to disagree with "telling him what you're feeling and what you want from him" This will scare him right off for a long long time. Let him come to you.. contrary to popular belief, he doesn't like being chased.
Actually I would say just let the guy know BUT don’t make it sound like a demand. Demands just throw any Libras off Lol! However on the chasing this, YES! Thankyou! Same with girls, when a guy says he ain’t interested, he means he AIN’T interested. quote:
On another forum I post on there seems to be a lot of Libra males and Scorpio females....and they seem to interact well too....
True. My first love was a Scorpio Lol! A very amazing woman. Leos and Scorpio females have a charm like no other.
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Atlenta
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posted February 22, 2007 09:58 PM
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Nah! I wouldn’t call it scared… More like contemplating Lol! (Just trying to defend my sign .) Just to be fair to us guys, It ain't easy girls to pop the big question. There are so many uncertanties a guy goes through. Remember... we ARE talking about a life commitment. It takes a bit of time for any guy to finally convince himself that there are no flaws in his partner. Personally, I like open ended relationships better. What do I mean by open ended? Simply put I hold no restrictions on departure from a relationship. She is open to leave when ever she wants; No grudges, No hate. It makes it more easier on both partners to enjoy each and every moment without the fear of not living up to expectations. Just let things go on from there.
Haha Xodian! But they "contemplating" takes forever. So usually the girl, thinking he is 'shy', will pop the big question, which will scare him right off! Yes i agree with expectations - he seems adverse to it. But then again it's alright because there's no expectations (at least not forced insist) placed on the other party either. IP: Logged |
DayDreamer
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posted February 23, 2007 05:08 PM
I cant stand Libra Sun/Rising men...one day they're professing their undying love for you and next they're back at square one...talk about indecisive. I wouldnt waste any of my time on any form of a relationship with a Libra man unless youre married to them. Gosh and I thought I was fickle with my Gemini Asc/Pisces Moon  IP: Logged |
Xodian
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posted February 23, 2007 08:02 PM
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Haha Xodian! But they "contemplating" takes forever. So usually the girl, thinking he is 'shy', will pop the big question, which will scare him right off! Yes i agree with expectations - he seems adverse to it. But then again it's alright because there's no expectations (at least not forced insist) placed on the other party either.
Lol! Not saying its easy being around us Libra men. Like everyone else, we have our flaws and usually we get picked out on the most just because we tend to weigh everything out before making a decision. I know it takes long but for something as important as life commitment, you have to take your time decising. I mean with a union there are two lives that are gonna be affected if things don't go so well and its kinda unfair keeping a partner unhappy in a relationship they don't wanna be in. So its kinda important to start things out right. So, you can't exactly blame us for being cautious now  . IP: Logged |
Atlenta
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posted February 24, 2007 10:57 AM
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Lol! Not saying its easy being around us Libra men. Like everyone else, we have our flaws and usually we get picked out on the most just because we tend to weigh everything out before making a decision. I know it takes long but for something as important as life commitment, you have to take your time decising. I mean with a union there are two lives that are gonna be affected if things don't go so well and its kinda unfair keeping a partner unhappy in a relationship they don't wanna be in.So its kinda important to start things out right. So, you can't exactly blame us for being cautious now .
Yes that's true.. but it's also very unfair to keep them waiting not knowing head or tail where it is heading. Whether to move on, or wait. It's like a standstill except life continues. Alot of people cannot handle that that's why they get loads of bashing for being fickle. Before the guy even decides, the 'relationship' might have already been over.. and to begin again requires 'patching'.. not exactly pretty, is it? Btw, this isn't directed personally at anyone here - But I must say thank you, for your perspective. IP: Logged |
Xodian
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posted February 25, 2007 04:20 PM
Oh I am quite cool with what you said and no I don't take it as an offense at all . Yes I see your points quite clearly and well... As I said; Its better to keep the relationship openended so that the partner has the opportunity to walk out if he/she feels that this isn't working for them.IP: Logged |
Farcyde
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posted February 25, 2007 11:38 PM
I am a Sun Scorpio with venus in Libra ascending which can be very hard most of the time because "I Do" try to appease people, and was just accused of being a jekyl n' hyde figure today. The point is as nice I try to be at times the scorpio seeps out and makes my harmonious actions look devious and deceptive.Fortunately I also have mars in my first house, which I believe should eventually clear up any misunderstandings.
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