posted May 19, 2007 05:18 PM              

Is about a guy I like (very much). He is taurus with a libra mars, cancer venus and leo moon - quite in the end of leo could be chance to have a virgo moon, but most probably leo.

Was his birthday, and because I couldn't find his phone number or his mail address to have a chance to wish him "happy birthday" especially because he made a nice number of years! Next morning I left a gorgeous red rose on the wind screen of his car!

Now I am going mad trying to figure out the impact will have on me/(us?). Are plenty chances to realize it was from me, but we are not very close, don't keep in touch. Even he think was me he can't be sure!... and I don't know what he can do ...

And the problem is that I still don't know if was a good gesture to make, or I made things worse if he realized was me! Thinking from my point of view - was just a nice gesture and only trying to tell I didn't forgot his birthday! ... ok maybe a little more than that, I mean is a red rose!!! But I don't know how a man can see this and how will react! I don't think he is a kind who ever received flowers from women!

So if this happened to you guys, what would you think / react on ? Of course I know each person can react different but still .. You will be glad / pleased / happy / scared / frighten / encouraged somehow / or you don't bother at all / ???? Do you think is too much from me in this situation - we are not talking too much and suddenly I send him a rose on his birthday! I just can't think clear if I overreact and can't see at all from a man point of view.

I will deeply appreciate any of your oppinion!

Thanks!

posted May 20, 2007 01:39 AM              

You are looking at this from your own point of view. Try looking at it from his point of view. He comes out to his car and there is a flower on the window. How did it get there? Was it blown there? Did it fall off a flower truck? Did someone leave it there? There is no way to know. There is no note, message, etc. on the flower to explain. So he may just ignore it and let it go.

Another possibility: after you left someone came up and took it. After all, it is a free red rose lying on a car.

Another possibility: the wind came along after you left and blew it off the car into the street. He never saw it and drove over it when he left.

You don't know unless you decide to ask him...and I think you have decided that you are not close enough to get into the whole "left you a rose" situation on your own!

Let it go. Next time, make sure you keep his phone number and mail address handy so you can send him a card and call him up to go out to dinner. And maybe he'll give YOU a rose to celebrate his birthday!

Rosily,

posted May 20, 2007 11:32 AM              

I was thinking as well to all the possibilities you wrote there. Anyway I fixed the rose by the wiper ... but you are right - could also someone took it from there! Even he should reach the car in short time after I left it there.

posted May 20, 2007 01:33 PM              

I originally said:

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He comes out to his car and there is a flower on the window. How did it get there? Was it blown there? Did it fall off a flower truck? Did someone leave it there? There is no way to know. There is no note, message, etc. on the flower to explain. So he may just ignore it and let it go.

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How could he guess it was from you? Did you mention you were going to give him a flower on his birthday? Have you done so before? Are you going out with him?

You said:

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we are not very close, don't keep in touch

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Indicating the answer to all these question is "No". So he has no way of knowing how the flower got there, unless you tell him (and that is assuming that he even saw the flower).

Again, you are trying to interpret this from what you WANTED to happen, and not from what COULD have happened. Without a previous relationship or some type of card on the flower, there is no way for him to guess who gave him the flower, or even whether it was a man or woman who gave him the flower!

Next time you do this, decide what result you WANT to get, then do something to get that result. If you want him to know your gift was from you, attach a card. As you know, if anything is going to happen with him, at some time you're going to have to tell him how you feel about him. And then, at least, there will be no more confusion!

Unconfusedly,

posted May 20, 2007 02:02 PM              

During each last few years I used to wish him Happy Birthday! in different manners, only now he had phones changed, no e-mail and so on.

posted May 20, 2007 06:12 PM              

I thought you were asking for my opinion about the situation!

OK, OK we'll play it your way!

SUPPOSING he found it and SOMEHOW knew you had sent it to him, I SUPPOSE he would know you were really interested in him. And then he'd have to decide whether or not he was really interested in you. And that's as far as I can suppose since I'm not him!

Supposedly,