posted May 24, 2007 08:09 AM              

I know I am asking too much of your time and effort but I would really really appreciate it if you guys can please give me an honest opinion on this composite? I see a lot of squares and it looked really scary to me.

This is one guy I will always regret losing... I can't seem to get over him. There will never be anything between us now, but I am doing a post mortem. I guess you can say that I am looking for closure as best I can.

Many many thanks.

Composite Horoscope midpoint method

PLANETARY POSITIONSplanet sign degree
Sun Aries 3°04'21 in house 8
Moon Aquarius 21°39'01 in house 6
Mercury Pisces 15°49'01 in house 7
Venus Pisces 1°54'00 in house 7
Mars Gemini 18°57'59 in house 11
Jupiter Gemini 11°02'09 in house 10
Saturn Pisces 16°39'37 in house 7
Uranus Virgo 14°27'18 in house 1
Neptune Scorpio 20°50'33 in house 4
Pluto Virgo 15°46'01 in house 1
True Node Gemini 8°11'16 in house 10

HOUSE POSITIONS (Placidus)Ascendant Leo 26°38'03
2nd House Virgo 22°08'15
3rd House Libra 16°40'18
Imum Coeli Scorpio 12°55'11
5th House Sagittarius 13°13'23
6th House Capricorn 19°16'26
Descendant Aquarius 26°38'03
8th House Pisces 22°08'15
9th House Aries 16°40'18
Medium Coeli Taurus 12°55'11
11th House Gemini 13°13'23
12th House Cancer 19°16'26

posted May 24, 2007 09:21 AM              

Let me give a try? I may be wrong, but it seems to have no major/fatal/long term aspects involved? not much of pluto or saturn aspects to venus or moon or even sun in a close orbit. No aspect between moon and venus but You have Moon trine Mars:
*Taking a risk now and then brings out your love of adventure. Your instincts will likely tell you just how far to go in making a dream come true. A playful way of disagreeing is part of your humor. You prefer to be on the same team as your partner, rather than competing for your own point of view. People will often admire the plans you put into motion together. Your innate sense of wanting to be happy and fulfilled, makes others want to support you. You bring out fun-filled romantic imagination in each other."

You have nepturn square moon, this could be very difficult to overcome as there is a feeling of being cheated or weakened through the relationship and is often a big problem. To make it worst, saturn is in 7th house..

I know how you feel, we often look back and think what if...how can we have a closure? I wish it were simple like just clicking the delete key and erase all memories, I always train myself to forget all the things that make me sad, perhaps, you can find comfort in the knowledge that our pain and memories will fade with the passage of time...

posted May 24, 2007 11:02 AM              

This is soooo true:

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You have nepturn square moon, this could be very difficult to overcome as there is a feeling of being cheated or weakened through the relationship and is often a big problem.

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Mind if I ask why Saturn being in the 7th house is bad?

Thanks again,

posted May 24, 2007 11:44 AM              

You are most welcome! Actually saturn in 7th is not that bad cause there are almost always strong Saturn interaspects in significant, long-term relationships..just that when we see saturn there, we feel a bit scared, it kind of feel like saturn is transiting your 7th house. But Saturn here can also bind two people together, because it signifies that together you will have to face certain difficulties and responsibilities. You are tied to each other by duties, obligations, and responsibilities, in addition to any feelings of affection that you may have. In fact, the seventh-house Saturn can tie two people together even when they want to split up. (Perhaps this is one of the reasons why you are having difficulties letting go?)

But this placement can also signify that under some circumstances there will be no relationship at all between you...

posted May 24, 2007 03:08 PM              

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You are tied to each other by duties, obligations, and responsibilities, in addition to any feelings of affection that you may have.

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Just a slight twist to the above statement in that it's actually duties and responsibilities that split us up...

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In fact, the seventh-house Saturn can tie two people together even when they want to split up. (Perhaps this is one of the reasons why you are having difficulties letting go?)

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The difficulties we had was that we recognize that the feelings we had for each other when we were together was like no other. We had to put a stop to this in order to fulfil other duties and responsibilities in life. Our timing was all wrong.

Thank you for your input. You're very sweet.

posted May 25, 2007 03:59 AM              

miss_muffet,

'The difficulties we had was that we recognize that the feelings we had for each other when we were together was like no other. We had to put a stop to this in order to fulfil other duties and responsibilities in life. Our timing was all wrong.'

Doesn't that sound familiar, someone used to tell that to me..I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes, I wonder what is more important, to fulfill our obligations and responsibilities or to be true to ourselves, I guess it is a decision that each of us have to make ourselves and to live with that decision. In a situation like the one you described, if it were me, I would be glad that I have a chance to meet that special person, even if I could not be together with him, I would respect his decision, whatever it is, and I would hope that he would be happy with his choice, and I would be happy because he is happy. Once, a good friend of mine told me that the girl he was secretly in love with for many years was getting marry to someone else, I said to him,'you must be very upset...' he said, 'No, why should I be? I should be very happy, because the person I admire the most in this world could find happiness and a good home, I should be very happy for her.' After I heard what he said, I thought to myself, this is a really a great guy and I should learn from him! It is difficult to say that we should not be sad even when our hearts are breaking because we should be happy that the other person is happy. Perhaps, if we could really believe in that, we could also be happier ourselves?

posted May 25, 2007 04:11 AM            

"In a situation like the one you described, if it were me, I would be glad that I have a chance to meet that special person, even if I could not be together with him, I would respect his decision, whatever it is, and I would hope that he would be happy with his choice, and I would be happy because he is happy. "

posted May 25, 2007 07:33 AM              

Your friend is very wise. I hope he found someone to love him the way he deserves to be loved.

The problem with this ex I have is that I know he is unhappy but he is willing to sacrifice his happiness to fulfil his responsibilities... typical for Pisces Sun. The reason why I know he's unhappy is because he still calls me whenever he needed a friend or a shoulder to cry on. I am trying so hard to be there for him.

We have a very strong Chiron connection. According to him, I seem to have the ability to take away his pain and sorrows. I feel like a sponge. I soak up all his unhappiness and he goes away happy and ready to take the world again. But I end up being so drenched in the pain that sometimes I don't pick up the phone when he calls. And then I end up feeling like such a louse

Anyway... thank you for listening. All in all, I know I will be fine (my Scorpio rising speaking). And the sun will shine once again (Aries Sun).

Lots of love,

posted May 26, 2007 10:23 PM              

This is my guess only....You feel bad because you want him to be there for you too, when you need a friend, you don't want him to call ONLY when he needs someone to talk to, you may feel like, ' what am I? I am not a radio? you can turn me on and off any time? or am I some computer muse that you can click the button and shut me off any time?` You want him to be there to share more with you, just small things, everyday things...you would think to yourself, you want to be of some importance to him too, that he would give up something for you, that you are worth something to him, more than just someone to share his sorrows.
At least, you want to know he is happy, that your scarify is worth something, you want to have the knowledge to think that he is strong enough to seek for his own happiness...
and you want to be loved for simply the person you are, with all your imperfection..