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Topic: My Stubborn Bull
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trinityfuse
Knowflake Posts: 33
From: Los Angeles, Ca
Registered: Feb 2003
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posted March 25, 2003 11:02 AM
 
So anyway, I dont know if any of you remember me or my situation...but I am a capricorn female with a taurus male. Rescently, he went through a great depression because of his job, living situation, and friends. Which he blamed me for losing all his friends and said he gave everyone up for me and for our relationship. Suddenly he began going out a lot ( something I was not used to) and speaking to this female friend ...way too much. SO I was living with him and moved out new years day! Now I live on campus and rarely see him but he calls me all the time and always offers to help me out finaicially. When he went to Vegas on a business trip...he called to say that he realized that he would rather go there with me. So...things work out...then I bring up his friends ...particualarly that girl...and he goes off and says that my actions cause him to doubt our future and our relationship. Last night, after that argument (which i started...as usual) he drove 30 miles to see me and told me that everything in his life right now is temporary and his search for jobs is depressing. In addition, he said he is using his friends for the time being because he has no one else...and that he loves me and that he is sorry. ..then he gave me 20 bucks because he said that he did not want me to financially struggle.
So, you see, Ive noticed..when I dont call and just listen and act sweet to him, he comes around...which I dont mind being patient.
But, when I bring up problems or HER he goes off on me and reveals his doubts...I mean I have no idea of what is truly going on. Ohhh then he begins talking about our future and how things will get better....does anyone have any advice on all this? IP: Logged |
Nebel
Knowflake Posts: 218
From: Australia
Registered: Aug 2002
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posted March 26, 2003 12:14 AM
G'Day Trinityfuse 
I don't know how useful my advice will be - but firstly i wish you all the very best with this. Sometimes people are so confused with their own lives and problems that they tend to blame those who are closest to them...
Being a female Bull i guess i can understand a 'little' where this guy is comming from. I would guess that being without a job - out of his comfort zone - he is feeling vulnerable and he is striking out at the people closest to him - YOU.
My advice is that you are a beautiful woman
- if you aren't being treated how you would like to be treated - leave, move on whatever. He's had his chance and no amount of time will make hime change his mind. However. Moving on may make him realise what he is missing out on. Either that or you will meet someone new and terrific Take care and the very best of luck
Nebel ------------------
If you want to view paradise - simply look around and view it! IP: Logged |
Nikky
Knowflake Posts: 87
From: mo,usa
Registered: Sep 2002
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posted March 26, 2003 04:41 PM
Hi beautiful !!!
Well! let me try this. I have had problems with three different taurus people in last two years. Two females and one male. My experience tells me that taurus is very stable with their relationships.
If for once they have been honest about their feelings no matter how they behave they will be with you, if they believe that you are the one for them.They don't like change in their lives. They might go after something new very rarely but it never last for long if they have that cosy and comfortable person back home.
General nature of a person during stressful period is to blame the closest people for whatever goes wrong. They don't mean any of it but it helps to get the frustration out of thier system.
If he was friendly with this friend of his, probably she helped him to divert his attention away from all the misery that he was going thru, she might have been a source of distraction thats all.When you bring up her subject he probably feels challenged and tries to runaway to avoid confrontation with you.Give him time so that he can come out on his own and tell you what she means to him and what happened.
Probably its nothing  he is always coming back to you which means you have something that he needs. Now I would not ask you to spoil your life in false hopes for there are many handsome guys who would want you as their lovely wife. The wise old saying; "If you love something, let it go, if it comes back to you, it's yours, if it doesn't, it never was.".
may true love find you 
nikky IP: Logged |
trinityfuse
Knowflake Posts: 33
From: Los Angeles, Ca
Registered: Feb 2003
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posted March 28, 2003 11:16 AM
Well thank you for your replys Nebel and Nikky..I am slowly trying to see the big picture and not be so selfish with my judgements...but it is hard sometimes. The good thing is that I have gotten my own life back and we do get along a lot better...the way we used to.  IP: Logged | |
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