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posted June 20, 2006 11:47 PM         

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I've wondered about this for a while. Where astrology refers to 'marriages', what about the fact that nowadays marriage is less common? With people often living together in a long-term commitment without being married by law, couples having 'civil unions' rather than marriages in parts of the world where that is legally recognised, and so on, in astrology can we consider these to be 'marriages'? Would it better nowadays in astrology to use the word 'commitment' or 'long-term union'?

I ask this because I lived with somebody for five years and it was deeply committed, and what I would consider to be a 'marriage', except for the fact that we never exchanged vows or signed a legal document. The break-up felt very much like a 'divorce'. I read somewhere it's possible astrologically that I may have two marriages - I've always wondered about this, do I consider that first seriously committed relationship to be my 'first marriage'?

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posted June 30, 2006 12:02 AM         

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Um... anyone?

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posted June 30, 2006 01:09 AM         

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Hi GeminiLover You know, I would think that this is one of those issues, where the application would maybe be a bit more of a personal thing... not that the rest of the astrological pieces aren't but,...? I know about the 'committed' without the paper and, it was never an issue as we have always been devoted anyway... We got married, 'legally' by the books, on our 10th Anniversary We thought we'd make a flower girl and ring bearer first
Anyhoo, that's my own opinion... I'm not sure if any 'rules' actually apply astrologically, to this...
I say take it as You feel it ANyWay!

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posted June 30, 2006 02:46 AM         

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Yeah, I'm confused by it though! I just can't decide whether the first one I talked about can be considered a marriage or not! lol ... He didn't want to get married because he'd already been there and done that. I didn't think his attitude was very fair on me, especially since we were basically living as married anyway.

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posted June 30, 2006 03:54 AM         

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Well, if you felt that you were living in a married way, ( by your own definitions ).. then I would include it as such... but, that's just me Is it really only the paper document, and it's absence, that is confusing you?

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posted June 30, 2006 04:08 AM         

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Hmm yeah, that and the fact that he always backed away from the idea of getting married. But we did everything as a committed couple - we didn't pool our finances together though, although we were thinking of buying a house. And it was always a given that if one got a job in another city, the other would follow. But he also wasn't keen on having kids with me, or at least that's the impression he gave at the time. Now since we have split up, he's said that if I don't have kids with Mr Gemini and it all goes wrong and I find myself still wanting kids, he would do anything for me and would donate sperm (the clinical way of course) if I want! So I'm just not sure if that means he always thought of us as married or not... in some ways when I think back over it all I think he did, but didn't realise until it was all too late.

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posted June 30, 2006 05:16 AM         

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I understand that.
I s'pose it isn't something that I can make sense of for you GeminiLover... it is yours to do that with... Hopefully someone with astro know-how, can advise of any guide lines that may be used in this kind of thing... If I am not mistaken, I think that the 7th house takes into account ALL relationships... marriage, business and even 'open' enemies 8th house encompasses contracts such as, marriage, wills,...etc. That's about the extent of my own understanding though...

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