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Topic: Is it possible for someone to love 2 people at once?
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Cardinalgal
Knowflake Posts: 54
From: Lincoln, UK
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted June 29, 2005 09:53 AM
 
Just musing on this and wondered what everyone's thoughts are. Can you still love your ex whilst being in love with/loving a new person?IP: Logged |
aries-chick
Knowflake Posts: 1057
From: The Ocean
Registered: Jul 2003
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posted June 29, 2005 10:34 AM
I'd say so. Only to me it's a different kind of love..the love of someone who meant a lot to you at some point in time.. it's a lot more like 'caring' than real love..That's the way I feel anyways. The only guy I've been in love with besides my bf (he isn't my ex) but I'll always care about him a lot..though I hate him too. It isn't the love I feel for my bf..it's a love of something that was special 'then'..and wont be forgotten.. That doesn't mean it means something to me today..but it's there in a memory drawer and there is feeling attached to it.. IP: Logged |
Tranquil Poet
Knowflake Posts: 1088
From: New york City.........sometimes in hell!
Registered: Apr 2005
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posted June 29, 2005 11:37 AM
I'd have to agree with aries-chick
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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, Taurus moon IP: Logged |
Cardinalgal
Knowflake Posts: 54
From: Lincoln, UK
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted July 01, 2005 10:04 AM
Just had a bit of an epiphany (must be something I ate!  ) re this.Suddenly thought about the whole situation and realised it's ok for him to feel a little bit wistful for his old relationship as it was special and meaningful in a different way to ours. It doesn't necessarily mean that ours means nothing to him, just that it's special to him in a different way. He told me that one of the reasons he loves me is that I allow him the space to be himself; the freedom to just be. He also told me that I mean everything to him so that can't be bad I guess! I've had moments where I've been wistful for aspects of my old relationship - we used to (and still do whenever we talk) have tremendous laughs together and I suppose that can be awkward for my present partner to take (although he's far too grown up and Aquarian to be jealous!  ) I've realised in my demands for fairness as a Libran, I've rather forgotten to be fair to him. Oops! I've forgotten to allow for his feelings - just because he doesn't show them often doesn't mean they don't exist. Just posted this because it's really helped me to get some perspective and hoped it might do the same for anyone else going through a similar experience.  Love to all 
Sarah xx IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 1283
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted July 02, 2005 08:21 AM
I understand how you feel Sarah, but I do believe you can love a few people at a time, especially if you've a big heart! When my husband says he loves his friends (male or female) I know its a different love for what he feels for me and our son. It is just learning not to be threatened by it. Dont worry girl I am 46 and still get challenged most days by love - such is life hey - love Sue xxxIP: Logged |
elemiah
Knowflake Posts: 14
From: spain
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted July 02, 2005 10:51 AM
Hey, Cardinalgal!! Just checking on you!! How is everything going with your Aqua man? Something seems to still be bothering you?
Best of luck, anyway, enjoy the weekend and please, keep me updated!!IP: Logged |
ariestiger
Knowflake Posts: 608
From: UK
Registered: Jan 2004
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posted July 02, 2005 10:59 AM
I'd second aries-chick. You can feel a little bit of affection towards your ex, but you (or at least I) couldn't feel all-consumingly passionate abt. 2 people at the same time.IP: Logged |
Cardinalgal
Knowflake Posts: 54
From: Lincoln, UK
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted July 02, 2005 05:27 PM
Thanks everyone for your replies Yep I'm starting to learn to accept a great deal more than I ever did before. By this I mean that I had a very black and white view of loyalty with regards to relationships before this one I'm in, but now my understanding is really starting to expand and I've learnt such a lot from the whole experience. I've been helped by all of you guys in this and I'm truly grateful. Promise to stop being such a bore herewith!  Lots of thanks and love to you all xxx IP: Logged |
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