posted November 03, 2005 01:38 PM         

have seen about it in movies... have heard about it in songs... but...

is it really possible for a girl and a guy... who've been really good friends for ages... to suddenly become lovers??

good friend of mine relocated about 9 months ago... and i've been going there once every 3 weeks or so for the past 3 months... to visit him... but more so to just get away from my personal **** . i was there the past weekend... and dont know what hit me, but all of a sudden i was looking at him in a completely different light, and realized he's the guy i've been looking for all along.

i kinda have a feeling that he might be feeling the same way... but kinda not, because i have cancer rising and tend to think way too much into things... and top that off with my insecurity, so i never really believe that someone is actually into me.

is it possible?... or am i just so hungry/desperate for love that i'm imagining things.

is it even possible for two good friends to become lovers?... how do the two even go through the transitional period to become a couple???

posted November 03, 2005 04:06 PM         

That's how my Cappie and I started.

I think you just become so close and get to know one another so well, ... you slowly fall in love.

posted November 04, 2005 06:00 AM         

i've always had more guy friends than girl friends in my life... and with all my guy friends, i never ever thought any more of them than just friends. this leo guy is the first... a lot of our common friends always thought he's kinda too cool and distant... but i never felt that way. and it's funny how whenever i had problems before, just simply by seeing him would already make me feel better... plus he's a good listener and he genuinely cares. maybe that's how it all happened without me even knowing it.

the thing is though... i have a cancer rising... so i can never bring myself to make any moves on anyone because due to my fear of rejection... plus i don't know if he feels the same way. it's horrible because whenever it comes to relationship issues, i don't know where my aries sun went... the cancer rising always takes over!

posted November 04, 2005 06:02 AM         

how long were you and your cappie half friends until you realized it's more than friendship??

posted November 04, 2005 07:08 AM         

You may not have to make the 'moves'...just raise the green flag. Let HIM do the pursuing...he is the hunter and it is such a better feeling to have the guy wanting you...instead of you chasing him. Just give him the 'GO' signal and BE PATIENT. He may not want to offend you...however, real LOVE DOES find a way...it just does.

Good friendship is the BEST base for any lasting relationship...many people often skip this part and jump in too fast in the other areas...later wondering WHY there is no substance outside the bedroom. Nothing good long-term has ever lasted without a great base from the get-go!

posted November 04, 2005 03:24 PM         

My grandmother used to tell me that you had to be friends with a man for at least 1 year before you could let the sparks fly....that way you both could see each other at your best and worst.

As my life is right now...I really hope that that my friendship with a great Cancer will turn into a relationship. It is nice to have a history that does not envolve a phyical relationship but one that started out of respect and common intrests.

Good luck to all in their persuit of the love they deserve!

posted November 04, 2005 03:56 PM         

6 years? Wow. That is a lot longer than the Cappie and I.

We were only friends for about 8 months or so.

I had met him and we were just very intrigued with one another. We had so much in common... I swear I had never met anyone that would say exactly what I was thinking before

To be honest, I didn't even realize that I was attracted to him in "that way".

Oh, he is extremely handsome, smart, etc. but I didn't look at him physically. (weird... can't explain it) He was (is still) almost untouchable to me. (eeessh... this sounds mushy)

posted November 04, 2005 03:57 PM         

Anyway... we were out one evening, and he made the comment that I'm every thing that he's ever looked for. (Note: I don't think he said it to be coming on... just an observation)

Well, that gave me something to think on... then I came to realize... (almost a duh... why did it take me so long) he's exactly what I've been looking for also.

Sorry to say... it took liquid courage to get me to confess. It was well received.

The physical bit... just fell into place afterward..

Sorry about that long post...

I say, if you feel it... no matter how long it's taken you to realize it... go for it. Better late than never. Also, even if it doesn't turn out like you hope, at least you won't be kicking yourself wondering "what if".

Good luck to you.

Irish your grandmother is a smart woman.

posted November 04, 2005 04:49 PM         

quote:

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is it really possible for a girl and a guy... who've been really good friends for ages... to suddenly become lovers??

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I feel it's betetr that way sometimes because you can becomes firneds first get to know eachother alot. That way you will be able to work things out since you already good friends and will not want to loose the relationhsip.

feelings have to be mutual of course.

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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra

posted November 05, 2005 01:31 PM         

My present hubbie was only 17 when I met him and me a lot older, so I waited until he had grown up a bit....errrrr 19 TBH and then I asked him out.....and we are still together now after 16 years....he is a great lover as well as my best friend.....he is one of the best.....

If I found myself wihout him, (God forbid), mmmm...I would probably only have a relationship with someone I already knew, or maybe someone here on LL, who I had gotten to know first, if you get my meaning, well someone who I had a lot in common with.......hahahahaha....typical Scorp aint I......wanna know all about em first, be friends and then make my move.....hahahahahahahahaha !!!

love to all

posted November 05, 2005 01:55 PM         

i'll be seeing him in about 10 days again... this time i'll be staying at his place instead of at the hotel (he just got his own place after the relocation)... so i'm ultra-nervous about how it'll turn out. he told me about 2 weeks ago when he first moved into the apartment... that all he had was a tv and a mattress at his place since he's been super busy with work and had no time to even shop for furniture. we were on the phone the other day and he's like "yea you can stay with me... we just have to get a mattress"... grrrrrrrrrrrrrr~

i'll try my best to give him my oh-so-ever-green light... but seriously i have trouble doing even just that (why am i like that???)... sometimes i wish my cancer side is not so controlling when it comes to relationship issues.

on another note - does anyone know what a guy with leo sun and virgo moon is like?

posted November 05, 2005 02:15 PM         

thanks for sharing your story... like you, when my leo guy and i met almost 6 years ago, we instantly had a connection... mostly because our background is similar, our interests are similar etc etc... we were always kinda close... but not as close as we are now...

then i moved away for 3 years in between but kept in touch with each other... and about 2 years ago, i moved back here again. we'd gotten even closer this time around because we lived in the same neighborhood... and we worked in the same area. so we would go get lunches/dinners/drinks together all the time.

oh wait!... i just remembered - he cooked for me once too!... one night when it was raining, we couldn't think of a place to eat... so he decided to get some groceries and cooked for me at home (i absolutely DO NOT know how to cook at all!!!)

just like you... i really didn't even realize... or i genuinely don't think i was attracted to him in "that way" at that time. and i mean my leo guy is also very handsome, creative and talented (i used to always tease him about the girls flocking towards him)... but i never looked at him physically either!... weird thing, huh?

but i know whenever i needed to talk to someone, he'd have ways to make me feel better. he's always supportive and is always on my side no matter what (that's very important to an aries like me... to be on my side!)... and i know he takes care of me... when i was visiting in his town about two months ago, he was really tied up with work and couldn't meet me for dinner one night... so i told him it was okay coz i was with a few people whom he knows as well... and he's like "ah okay... so they've been taking care of you?...good."

in the past few months... he asked me the same question everytime we spoke/emailed... "seriously, when are you moving down here (i happen to like the place a lot too and had considered the thought of moving there a while back)?"

i seriously dont think that question meant anything though...

anyways... whoa!... this is such a long post!... guess i was really in the mood to share!!

posted November 07, 2005 02:19 PM         

Glad to hear that attraction issue isn't only me.

Have fun and good luck. Let us know how it goes.