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Topic: Same old Virgo
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sweetlibra
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Registered: Oct 2004
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posted April 25, 2006 06:10 AM
 
After 3 months of estrangement, we had a talk abt why did he backed off.
He said he cant keep up with my pace.
when he thinks 2 steps i'll b thinking the 4th (which cant be true since he's also libra mercury)
Another reason was I go after guys (I enjoy guy's company but never go after them!)
Finally, he feels inferior to me.
Which satisfied my ego for the time being, but I dont think he feels so.
If he did have any inferiority complex, he wouldnt hv approached me in the first place.
Anyway I didnt question much, since he hates questions.
I brushed off him saying i dont talk with inferior men. (That was rude
I think we have very negative karma beteen us.
I might hv treated him like sh*t in our last life.
Anyway I cant correct it in this life. My chance is over.
Will it be a good idea to keep no contacts?IP: Logged |
virgotaurustaurus
Knowflake Posts: 2252
From: anywhere but LL
Registered: Oct 2004
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posted April 25, 2006 10:37 AM
Yeah wow, do the Virgo a service and don't keep destroying him by contacting again, you sound kind of like an ******* . Any self-respecting Virgo wouldn't keep contact with someone who rudely broke off a relationship by calling them inferior. I think maybe you need to grow up before starting another relationship. IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
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posted April 25, 2006 02:02 PM
Just sounds like you're not the right fit for each other. It's okay, crap happens when two personalities don't mesh right and rub each other the wrong way. Good luck with your search.  IP: Logged |
pidaua
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From: Bisbee, Arizona
Registered: May 2002
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posted April 25, 2006 06:10 PM
VTT... I think you misinterpreted what Sweetlibra was saying.I believe she was putting down a dialogue that took place between the two with HER asking him why they broke up and HE told her that he couldn't keep up with her pace (she said that couldn't be true as they both have Mercury in Libra) Then she intimated that he said the second reason is the "guy friend" thing. He saw it as her pursuing men for something other than friendship. Lastly, he told her he felt inferior to her (not uncommon for a young Virgo man to vocalize that feeling - I was married to a Virgo that told me he always felt inferior). So, I think you may have jumped the gun in your attack on her. She seemed genuinely upset about his feelings of inadequacy while also angry that he insinuated she slept around with those guys. She added that she doesn't wish to be with someone that has inferiorty issues and attributes what is happening to a negative past life experience. Hmmm...... communication is always a b1tch aint it? ~pidaua
Sweet,
You have to look into your heart. Maybe you can speak with him as to why he feels this way. Also let him know that it's okay for two people to "not" be together even if they had a past relationship. I am assuming that the two of you were also not close friends before the partnership? Friendship is extremely important because if you can't imagine yourself as friends with the person that you are in love with, how can you really like them?
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sweetlibra
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posted April 25, 2006 11:12 PM
Pid, thanks for the clarification. That was actually a conversation between us.
I never said he was inferior to me. Infact I cant imagine to be attracted towards a guy who feels inferior to me.
After he said, he feels inferior to me,I just said that above sentence to finish the conversation.
Later I sent a text message apologising for that.
As for him he still thinks i am sleeping around with men.
This was the result of a honest conversation.
He assumed I'll be happy if he takes all the blame, and talked so. I didnt get any honest answer, but the answers which suggests that he is a playboy.
I know it is not true, because his eyes told different story. If he has to build up such a bad image, clearly he's not interested in any further relationship/friendship.
We were good friends for 2 years. The kinda friend, with who I can talk about my crushes and boyfriends. He was the most caring guy I have ever seen.VTT, I dont have any grudge against virgos. I love them and that is the sign I feel most near to. I guess, I need to improve my communication skills  ------------------
Libra Sun/Mercury, Aqua Moon, Scoprio Venus/Mars, Taurus Asc IP: Logged |
purple_scorp
Knowflake Posts: 391
From: Australia
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted April 26, 2006 12:14 AM
sweetlibra, he is playing a victim role by insinuating he feels inferior. He probably needs to do a bit of work on his own self-love. Sadly, it is friends like you that can support him through that process but well, we can't help every wounded bird. People need to want to help themsElves.Perhaps his role in your life and vice-versa has come to an end. I am of the opinion that if you don't resolve your differences in this life, you will meet him again in a future life for another chance. So, it would be my advice (if you want to break the karma) to try to finish with him on a positive note and then, let each other go. with love
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sweetlibra
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posted April 27, 2006 04:19 AM
purple_scorp, that is what I am afraid of. I dont want to meet him in another life to finish this karma.
But he is not helping at all.
He loves me like anything and he's trying to make himself believe that I am bad for him.
I heard him saying these sentences (not in that order)"You are intelligent and You are innocent;No one else can understand you because of this mix.
guys will always misunderstand you..
No one can understand you as much as I can
you fall in love with every guy, it is your age!
why dont you get married? I wanted to see you walking along with only one guy!!!! " I cant help him because he is feeling insecure around me and he wont acknowledge the fact.
Last time I went to speak about it, he denied he had ever loved me and asked me to let him live his life. The same guy said 3 months ago, if he gets me nothing in this world can stop him!!! When I went to his apartment last sunday, he told his friends that I cook very well.
Then while I was cooking, he was in the kitchen helping me around (ususlly he never gets into kitchen). And when I was lying on bed, he came and tried to hug me (his friends were in the next room)
I asked "you love me?"
he said "you know me better"
I didnt encourage him, and he left me like that. The next day when I asked why he said we were just friends and then made such a move.
He said he will do that with any gal if he got a chance 
I cried all through my journey. I dono how to balance this karma. Only thing I know is that I dont want to meet him in next lives.
Because I love this guy and if he did have a little faith in me, things would have been different because We have the same dreams and same views about life.
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sweetlibra
Knowflake Posts: 1315
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Registered: Oct 2004
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posted April 27, 2006 05:45 AM
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