posted September 26, 2006 05:43 PM         

Anyway, I got me this adorable, MarsScorp Virgo boy that I work with, whose last day is very, very soon. I gave him lots of indicators that I am interested, and he hasn't written me off, and sometimes seems downright affectionate, thrilled to see me/be w/ me, etc.

But I want to leave the doors of communication open...any suggestions for Virgo-friendly ways of doing this?

posted September 27, 2006 10:51 AM         

I am a Sun/Merc in Virgo- Mars in Scorpio.
But I'm a female... I attract a lot of Scorpios into my life. One of the most profound relationships of my life was with a Scorpio sun/ merc/ mars... just like you There are HUGE differences between genders of both these signs... so it is hard to comment... but the first thing that came to mind was that if he is going to work elsewhere, is it still in the general area? I mean he's not going to be working in another state is he?
Is he involved with someone else? Virgos can be just as private as Scorpios. They are just as loyal too.
I would be straight with him. The hardest thing for me at least when involved with a Scorpio is the feeling of a hidden agenda. It sometimes just feels like it is hanging in the air. I do however, respect upfront, no sugar coating kind of info. I like to think my "gut" feelings are right. But often need that reassurance that I am on the right track... fear of rejection and the like. I am very analytical and sometimes it takes a day or two for things to soak in an be processed.

posted September 29, 2006 03:56 PM         

You aren't a triple Scorp. To be a "triple" sign, you would need Moon and Asc in the same sign as the Sun.

posted September 29, 2006 07:41 PM         

Scorpionic: Yahh, triple scorp my booty! Geez, I had a feeling I had that wrong. I don't know what I am, but I sure feel scrambled a lot of the time. The Scorpip/Gemini/Aquarius nonsense makes me feel like a real nutcase...all that emotional-intellectual-emotive-intellectuality!!! (LOL )

and Stargazer: thanks to you, too...I think you're onto something with the whole "reassurance that I am on the right track... fear of rejection and the like" -- I'm a little frustrated, though, and don't know what/how to reassure him. He's awful hard to read! There's closeness, and even something like affinity/affection, but so guarded. Yes, patience is the hallmark, I think.

"Is going to work elsewhere, is it still in the general area?" -- he's going to grad school right across town, so no, he's not moving away (thank goodness!).

The other night when he left after cleaning off his desk, I had drawn a boundary so I could focus (we've also been working on some intense projects, and talking alot too)...I also was starting to panic about him leaving, tho he'll be back one-last-time on Monday 10/1. I had my iPod on, and was literally trying to ignore him, which I know was mean, but I just couldn't deal...I was in profound pain, and couldn't bear to crack...

He kept popping in, and asking questions, "Do you want these maps?" "Here's some CD-Rs!" and the truly puzzling, "I hope you're not taking me seriously...?" with a very odd expression. We were both trying very hard, I think, to control our emotions.

Finally, when he was ready, he just stood there next to me, rocking back and forth, until I yanked off a headphone and blurted (in a cracked voice horribly close to tears), "Is there a reason you're standing there?!"

(i.e. If he wanted to walk me out of the bldg, only to leave me open mouthed when he said, "Okay, bye!" and darted off, like the last few times, no thanks!)

I said "Bye, have a good weekend," and he the same.

posted October 01, 2006 08:09 AM         

After living with a Virgo man for going on 18 years I feel he needs praise although you would never know it, he is quite self effacing, very mature in some ways and not needy...

But I have noticed that when praise is given, he is very much grateful for it.

He is moving into a new office tomorrow and I have bought him a small gift and card to wish him well....he will love this. Its a statue of a wizzard. One of his friends call us Merlin and the Witch...haha....

I know he will be very moved, even though he wouldnt show it.

Virgo people, to my mind are very honourable and I have never known one to be anything but decent and honest.

Oh btw, I am a Scorpio woman too.

posted October 02, 2006 01:27 PM         

But I haven't gotten a chance to apologize for last week's attitude, and I think that's how I'll lead into my spiel about being friends outside of here. I want to keep a positive attitude -- I'm struggling to do so, because he's being so resistant. He did mutter, "Catch you later" as he was walking out to lunch with the dude, though.

posted October 02, 2006 04:42 PM         

My Virgo husband is a little like this....he lets few close to him and I sense he has always had an inner loneliness. I heard him say to one of my friends the other night that he needs big space around him, but then we he has it, he misses me a lot.....????? Another Virgo man I know also says this, that he wants space from his woman and then when he does, he wants to be with her!!!

He has just moved his office out of our home to town. I went in today to take him a gift and as soon as I walked into the room, I thought to myself "he is gonna so miss working from home"....and yet he needs to work in a separate place. We spend too much time together....

Virgo....quite difficult to suss out...challenging and never predictable...

Good luck, good loving...

x

posted October 02, 2006 05:28 PM         

Seriously sweating bullets, there was this freelance tech in the tech room, which is where I was going to stage the speech, but this freaking guy WOULD NOT LEAVE!!! I was in a total panic, because C was going to be going to do his programming homework w/ a fellow colleague, and my chance would be lost...

FINALLY, the stupid guy left, the heavens parted, and I waved him in there, practically about to have a heart attack. I must have been covered in sweat! He said, "What's up?" and I was a total mess, felt like I was gonna cry, puke, fall over...but I said it. "I figure I don't have anything to lose, so I'll just say it..." (staring into a cieling-high pile of old printers) "I really, really, really, really want to hang out with you...after...um, now..."

Long story short, he was impressed. ("I'm very impressed, and glad you said something. I wouldn't have had the courage...I would have been too much of a coward.") But he stressed he wants to hang out as "friends" because (get this) between early August and now, he met a girl on the Internet!!! Does she live in Sweden? NO, she lives right here in NYC. Has he met her? "Eventually," he says. Errah...

No matter what seems to happen with this guy, no matter what a huge putz and bad decision-maker he is, I can't seem to shake the feeling of warmth and satisfaction I get just by sitting by his side. I told him the truth as best I could, especially after another tech came in and totally intruded on the conversation. It helped me to relax a lot...we just had to stand there, helping this guy out, while we digested what had just happened.

By the time the interloper left, I could actually form a full sentence, and look him (sort of) in the face, but he sorta beat me to it..."You're one of the coolest people I've met in a while."

"You too...I mean, same for you. You're one of the most intriguing people I've met in a long time."

"But..." he began, and started in on Internet Girl. I'm not surprised, for someone who spends as much time playing Guild Wars as he does, it makes perfect sense. I, OTOH, have a life, and am pretty richly engaged in the process of living it. It's something I think I can offer a potential suitor...something like heaven right here on earth. Presence, engagement, helpfulness, respect...true partnership.

For some reason, though, it didn't pack a wallop. Right now, even, feeling him elsewhere in the building, I sense that same feeling of warmth and solidity, something I sorely need.

posted October 02, 2006 06:15 PM         

And I got a little more proof of this...he was walking out w/ the programming guy, and they stopped in the office pantry behind me about 100 feet. I heard them, but was checking email and totally relaxed, feeling normal and relieved. Soon, though, I hear my name called, and I turn...

"Take care...see ya..." with his smile warm and golden, waving. I felt myself emit an earnest, heartfelt and crooked grin. He did the same.

posted October 04, 2006 12:10 AM         

As a Virgo I can sort of tell you where he is. It's the start what I finish with people thing. He likes you, but I call it my car buying syndrome. See, I wanted a white Camaro. So I went on Cars Direct.com. The sales guy was so helpful, nice and really worked hard to acommodate me. But, he could only find me a black Camaro. My second choice. Anyway, my brother and I took the financing check to an actual dealership who was not only going to give me the white Camaro at the same price but one with leather seats and CD changer! And guess what? I felt like I'd be betraying the Cars Direct guy if I bought the white Camaro, so I didn't. Same thing with my Scorpio current roommate that it's now gone all South with. I think our relationship would've been much different if I didn't have this internt guy I was wrapped up in, but never saw in person at the time, when we first met. The only thing is I told the Scorpio that I chose the other guy but still wanted to have an affair with him. I don't think he really ever fogave me that. That was 3 years ago. He still wants to punish me but I'm through being whipped. Where on the eve of his moving out with all the hostility attached and he's still lashing out at me! Anyway, off the subject there :-) Just realize that this thing with the other girl may more than likely turn out to be nothing. Believe me, he's weighing you in. He's all confused now. The problem with internet dating is you only know what the other person wants you to know and that's all the good stuff, the compatible stuff. Once I saw that other guy, I was sadly disappointed. He looked like a gerbel and sounded like one. I was not at all attracted. He looked nothing like his picture. It was like a whole other person was courting me, not that person. So, give him so time. Believe me, it's the honor, my word thing that he's going to see through. It's just in us. :-)

posted October 06, 2006 12:10 PM         

***As a Virgo I can sort of tell you where he is. It's the start what I finish with people thing. He likes you, but I call it my car buying syndrome. See, I wanted a white Camaro....."

Natural111: This is one of the reasons I love Virgos. So detailed, yet so completely extraneous! The level of near-nonsensical inquiry and analysis that goes into just about anything is second only to...Scorpios!!! Thanks for the Virgo warning, too, but dare I say (tho perhaps my GemAsc/AquMoon are making me a tad foolish, my Merc/Mars/SunScorp are pretty freaking convinced) I'd be willing to take the risk of being lashed to this guy's ankle for the duration of my time here on Earth...he's pretty freaking special.

***NOW, your going to have to be patient...lol It seems to me that the Internet girl was a "take away" of sorts.***

LadyDee: Not sure what you mean by "take away"...like in the case of a chicken vindaloo? Or in the case of one-upmanship, or something to make me suffer/long some more? In the latter case, it's sort of working. They're backing up his PC data right now to reconfig the machine, and I'm hovering over it like a vulture, clucking, telling them, "Back that sh** up TWICE!!!" Wow, I'm toast...

Right now, I'm trying to not check my email. after sending him one before he even left the building Monday (!). If I'm gonna have to be patient (which I think I can be, it's no fun, but if it's what I have to do...), I need to start now.

posted October 06, 2006 01:12 PM         

Yes indeed, after having several hundred serious meltdowns in quick succession, convinced he wouldn't reply to my lusty, flattering exultations (now that we don't work together, I can barely contain my squashy compliments and praise).

And of course, he replied in his own very conservative Virgo manner. But he wasn't cold. I called off the trip to the tech convention I invited him to, because it didn't seem very interesting. His Cancer Venus/Moon make him SO DODGY...he's a slippery fella! A real sidestepper. I asked him to use his amazing talents of discernment to choose SOMETHING we could do together soon, PLEASE!

And then today, I discovered he basically engineered the necessity for his returning to the office...I managed to accidentally break the DVD burner in our disk imaging server (which he lovingly built from scratch...I'm pretty sure it was unconscious clumsiness fueled by sadness from his absence). In his email, he gave some tips at how I might fix it, one which required opening the server, and the drive. However, the server has a big ol' lock on the side of it. Who do YOU think has the key....?

posted October 07, 2006 11:20 AM         

Comments welcome!!!

posted October 09, 2006 12:44 PM         

I have an eerie feeling my boy may be by the office this PM...and with him, he's delightful predictable! (he's got a program due tomorrow, and the programmer dude to help him) I posted this elswhere, but here's his deets (no exact chart but hopefully soon...

Sun Virgo
Asc ?
Moon Cancer
Venus Cancer
Mercury Virgo
Mars Scorpio

posted October 09, 2006 10:47 PM         

I think it's time to back off, and maybe take a reality check. I don't think he's into me "in that way," which is a bummer, but a fact I guess I need to reckon with. When asking someone out, or trying to get them to do something, I think it's safe to say that "no answer equals no"...

posted October 11, 2006 12:05 PM         

I'd love to hear more from Virgos about their emotional natures. The ones I've known have stayed pretty far outta that territory, but a Sun/Merc Virgo + Moon/Venus Cancer?

Thanks also for the time check...I really have an awful tendency of thinking that millennia have passed when, in fact, it's barely been a WEEK!!!! I wonder, is that my Gemini Ascendant/Aqua Moon thing? My patience in the love department is sorely lacking. He's probably reeling over the new knowledge that I've been crushed on him this whole time...I'd be shocked if I were him.. It's like when he kept saying I'd miss him when he was gone, and I said I was...he wanted to hear it, but when he heard it, he didn't want to anymore...maybe he couldn't believe it.

posted October 22, 2006 06:09 AM         

He needs big space and then when he is away from me, he thinks about me all the time and wants to be with me!!!

Not boring or predictable though...can be quite bemusing though for a Scorpio gal....

(ps must add he has an Aqua moon which makes it all the more challenging)!