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Topic: Synastry/Astrology - I put too much trust into it and now I am HURT - Please reply
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lovestruck
Newflake Posts: 11
From: los angeles, ca usa
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted September 14, 2012 06:44 PM
  
Hi all:
Obviously,I put too much trust into astrology reports and now I feel very hurt.The girl I like has her Sun in my 7th house, Moon in 8th , Venus in 6th,
Mars in 9th and Jupiter in 7th.
Sun trine my Venus
Mars tine my Uranus
Mars conjunct my Mars
Jupiter trine my Venus I have my Sun in her 7th, Moon in 11th, Venus in 4th and Jupiter in 7th Her natal Venus is in Leo and my Moon is in Leo.
She is a co-worker and we have 16 years age difference - She has 2 kids from previous marriage( I am 51 she is 35 ) She has been divorced for 5 years.
I never married
The very first time I saw her, I fell for her.
I heard that if someone's moon is in your 8th that person will be
attracted to you and feel bonded. Well I know she likes me as a person and only talks to me in the office
about her life etc and sends numerous e-mails to me.
Sometimes she calls just to see how I am doing - She works for same
company but across the street from building I am in. After about 3 months of getting to know her, I asked her out.
She sent an e-mail saying she was happy that I asked her out and would
go out with me.
That weekend she was busy and would go some other time - This she said via e-mail.
10 days later I asked her again. This time she sent an e-mail saying
that she has known someone ( from same country as hers )for about 2
months and he asked her out and she will be dating him.
It was a long e-mail - she mentioned how nice, caring and affectionate
person I am and that she knows it will be her loss not to go out with me
- Now this was 3 weeks ago.
Since then she still talks to me the way she used to - emails etc. I also do call and e-mail quite often.
Yesterday, she mentioned that she is dating this other guy - The first
time she went out with him was on Sept 2, 2012 I am heartbroken - I have no idea why at first she said she would go out
and then she changed her mind. Our solar return and progressed charts indicate that we both will meet
someone at work and of different cultural backgrounds
and with significant age difference .
Well, we our from different cultural backgrounds with 16 years
difference. So, I kept my hopes very high !
So, Astrology does not work or what ? Would like to hear from females to see how females think and also by
astrology's perspective.
Thanks, IP: Logged |
hippichick
Moderator Posts: 1682
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Registered: May 2009
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posted September 14, 2012 09:28 PM
Hi! You might have more responses if you were to post in personal readings and post a synastry chart.Astrology aside, she sounds like a flake. At her age, she is not going to change...once a flake, always a flake. best of luck and blessings! t~~~ IP: Logged |
redshift
Knowflake Posts: 203
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Registered: Jul 2012
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posted September 14, 2012 09:57 PM
It's tough being rejected, no matter how nicely it's done. It's also tough to accept that we can not know for certain why people do what they do, no matter how much astrology we study. We can understand their tendencies, things that are likely to be important in their character etc...but a mind is complex and feelings are complex.
You have been rejected as a love interest, and that hurts. I'm sorry that happened. If you want to, you can learn from the experience about what it is you need from someone, what you want from someone and what makes you feel good. Think about what you like about her and what feelings you want have with a mate that she helped you experience. Then, when you find it again with someone new(and you will), you can try again and have success the next time or learn something new the next time, either way, always getting closer to your goal 
Astrology is a tool, not a bible in my opinion. It needs to be used properly and in the right context to work best.IP: Logged |
lovestruck
Newflake Posts: 11
From: los angeles, ca usa
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted September 16, 2012 09:10 PM
RedshiftThanks for your reply - I really appreciate it. You made a lot of sense - and Yes, I am still very hurt. What makes worse is that I am the only one who would drive her kids back and forth from school and baseball games when needed.
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Mystic Melody
Moderator Posts: 397
From: IL
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted September 16, 2012 11:17 PM
lovestruck, she likes you a lot, she just had something else already started and felt she had to follow it and see where it led. The two of you were not quite there yet but she obviously thinks enough of you to want to make sure you remain friends. I think if it does not work out with this guy she will be ready to date you. It sounds like bad timing, that's all.
I am completely losing faith in synastry and beginning to think it is a lot of hooey after thinking it was The Answer for many years and I STILL think this girl is interested and your meeting has just had bad timing so far.
I say that you should work on making yourself your best self so if the chance comes around again you will be ready! If not, it will lead you to the right place/next place on your path anyway. <3IP: Logged |
redshift
Knowflake Posts: 203
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Registered: Jul 2012
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posted September 17, 2012 12:01 PM
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Originally posted by lovestruck:
RedshiftThanks for your reply - I really appreciate it. You made a lot of sense - and Yes, I am still very hurt. What makes worse is that I am the only one who would drive her kids back and forth from school and baseball games when needed.
It's really nice that you show you care through your actions to her and that you are sensitive and loving. If this woman isn't ready or can't fully appreciate that, there will be another woman that will, guaranteed. Right now, you need to be strong with your boundaries with this woman. Find a way to be kind, since you care about her, but protect your own feelings and think hard about your limits of what makes you feel sad or used. It's okay to say no or pull back a bit for your own sake. To help your hurt heal, it's important to put yourself first. Focus less on feeling she doesn't appreciate you fully and more on whether or not you are being kind to yourself And I don't think we have to give up on synastry. Like I said, it needs to be used as guideline to tendencies in relationship dynamics, not absolute truths. It's a very useful tool for getting the idea about how two people can relate or are likely to relate.
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lovestruck
Newflake Posts: 11
From: los angeles, ca usa
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted September 17, 2012 09:09 PM
Mystic Melody:I think you are right.
Just bad timing. I waited for over 3 months to be sure that she would go out with me and when she said she would and would look forward to it, I was VERY VERY happy. On her Birthday on Sept 7th, I brought a big cake for her and bought lunch for 25 people in her department and gave her a nice gift
She gave me a big hug and a kiss on cheeks and told me that she was very happy to see what I did for her.
As I mentioned before, I was always there for her - Giving her kids rides to and from school etc. I guess, you can make someone like you BUT you can not make someone Love you. To be honest with you, I just adore her.
There is something about her that I just can not explain - May be the way she talks etc
I truly believed that I had finally met my soul mate.
What is worse now is that she did not bother to reply to my 2 emails - It seemed that until yesterday we could still talk to one another. This is Sad - very Sad for me.
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