posted May 10, 2015 09:21 PM            

but wonder...

Do you have Cancer in your chart... ?

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Nothing is permanent in this wicked world; not even our troubles.

posted May 11, 2015 10:52 PM            

It's said that emotions are the true source of power and that if you want something, it must be supported by emotions and feelings. This is why prayer can sometimes be a mental exercise but devotion never can.

posted May 14, 2015 04:04 PM            

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Originally posted by bansheequeen:
Did mr Pisces just swim off without tying loose ends or letting you get in your word? Because I think this causes fixed sign people to not be able to let go. When we are with someone that can't draw the line and they won't get us draw the line they hook us on a line for a long time...

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This x100.

You'd be surprised how "loose ends" can make it much more difficult to let go. Clear-cut endings are usually much easier to let go of, precisely because you know why it's over, what happened, and how both people feel, etc (of course it's not always as "clear" as we'd like, but still, boundaries in general are much more effective when it comes to releasing attachments).

I believe MineAgain has a Cancer ASC and a Scorpio stellium. Not surprising.

As for your question, MineAgain, I would say the reason is first - as bansheequeen mentioned - the lack of closure (though I'm not 100% sure that's what happened in your case) and perhaps even more importantly - the lack of a fulfilling relationship. A crush is not powerful enough to make you "forget" about that person because the crush doesn't actually meet your needs and can be perceived as potentially dangerous (emotionally speaking - they can reject you or mistreat you, for example). He's still mainly a projection of your own desires (and fears, probably). It's not "solid" enough (in my opinion, of course).

So, you go back to that "safe" feeling of "love" for that Pisces man, because you've been used to it, and it feels familiar and maybe even pleasant. There's not much fear or pain involved because of the lack of threat of being actually hurt (since he's not in your life anymore).
It's a kind of "soft cushion" to fall back on when things in real life don't go according to plan or when you feel like protecting yourself from potential harm by romantic partners (Hello again Cancer ASC... actually, scratch that, it's not limited to Cancer energy).

Even though a happy relationship wouldn't necessarily take away your feelings for the Pisces (and I think they aren't really feelings anymore, but memories of the feelings you used to have that you still cherish); you would inevitably think less and less about him because your mind and heart would be focused on your partner.

That's my take.

ETA.

Another thing.
As humans, we are generally more attracted to the things we don't have, can't have, or almost have/had but not quite.
It's a weird thing, and honestly I find it quite disheartening, but it's very common.

So if you were never really "together" but that there was a quiet promise of a romantic connection being made and sustained, that can be difficult to let go of, because it's like a dream you have to crush, a hope you have to kill. The "idea" of being with someone is often more invigorating than the actual act of being with them (the mind is a very powerful thing, really). We don't always value what we have as much as we should, sadly, and instead idealize that which "might have been".

posted May 30, 2015 10:10 PM            

I was hurt by a double Taurus and he disappeared on me too.

The difference between me and you in this situation? I actively sought closure despite major blockages obviously.

I texted, called, him for 8months straight until I finally got a response one day only to find out he moved on and was now happily in love with his new girlfriend.

I won't go into detail because this post isn't about me, but what I can say is, one day you will wake up and realize it just isn't worth your energy anymore.

Sure the pain and thoughts will still be very much apparent, but the change in mindset and/or perspective makes a major difference.

Yes, he hurt you.
Yes, he abandoned you.
Yes, he probably made you feel utterly worthless because of this but you have to know that this is just one person out of billions.

Are you really going to let such a man have control over you? He doesn't deserve that. Don't let him win.

I do not know the full story so I am speaking simply based on what you've put in this post as well as relating it to my own experience so I apologize if I said something that may have offended you or anything of that sort (just an FYI).

You have the comfort of this forum if nothing else.

If you're anything like me, lindaland plays a major role in my every day healing.

Focus on things like that to fill your heart where it's now empty.

Fill yourself up with love. Feel that pain because you deserve to connect with your deepest emotions. You deserve that. You deserve it because as human beings and beings in general, we have to know ourselves, inside and out.

Love yourself to the core.

Sometimes I literally hug myself! You have to realize that you have a friend in you. You are all you need.

Create a warm bubble of love that surrounds you and fills your heart with joy and happiness.

& if this helps, you are not alone. That pain is real.

After 2 1/2 years of internet stalking, wishing, hoping.. I am finally at peace.

Who cares what he did to me? It's over.
Wo cares what he did to you? It's over.

You are wiser because of it.

If he didn't mistreat you, yoy probably wouldn't fight for your self worth as I think you will do from now on.

That type of pain forces you to grow because you want to do everything you can to not feel that pain anymore. Do it.

Of course you can't avoid heartache, but you will certainly find happiness in knowing you consciously dodged a bullet that not only pierced your heart, but destroyed it just moments ago.

Get your strength back. I know it feels impossible but take it day by day. Things will eventually get better fof you.

I have a Taurus ASC, Scorpio stellium, square saturn, conjunct Pluto so I definitely feel your pain.

Heal peacefully. <3

posted June 03, 2015 11:19 AM            

We might just be holding on because we really don't want to let go.

It might be just that simple.

Your brain knows you need to let go because he obviously doesn't care for you or he would've tried to work things out.

Your heart still longs, hopes, and wishes..

Just be patient.

You will find peace once again.

You will appreciate the pain once you've made it to the other side. Be patient.

I promise it doesn't last forever.

posted June 05, 2015 08:45 AM            

I am pisces girl and I dissapered to my scorpio, almost 3 years ago. I think he hasn't let go of me, and certainly my heart still pounds for him but...

He was so insensitive, keeping distance, not showing feelings, not interested in communication with me, not....so I just had to swim away.

posted June 05, 2015 02:58 PM            

We haven't had sex, I don't know why, he never initiated it, no matter how strongly he wanted me.