posted January 28, 2016 07:30 PM            

But if there's anything occult here (which doesn't have to be conscious) then there is something that can help (it worked for me, though my sitch wasn't identical to yours), and might even be helpful if it is just a wonky brain that can't accept it's over. I made a poppet that included the energy of that person in me (drawings and such while focused on the person). More on making the poppet:
http://paganwiccan.about.com/od/poppetmagic/ss/Build_A_Poppet.htm

I think it helped that when the feelings and thoughts on that person were powerful then I'd hold the poppet, and try to get that energy within me to flow into the poppet, and any and all cords between me and that other person being transferred to the poppet (while strengthening my own aura).

posted January 29, 2016 10:46 AM            

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I was wondering though if burning the poppet could damage one's capacity to have loving feelings?

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No.

Well if you want to get technical, I suppose anything "could" happen, but I'd think you have to approach it really wrong for even a slight chance of that happening (and if it does then it can be repaired).

Burning the poppet should be focused on any psychic links and obsession, not love itself. If anything, it should restore the ability to find love in someone else. Of course I'd be wary if I felt like diving back into the single's scene instantly looking for someone else, in which case something probably is wrong (though probably not with the poppet itself, but something else). A time to reflect (and thus learn) and heal is, of course, necessary...which happens best after the infection is burned out.

posted January 30, 2016 09:28 AM            

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Originally posted by Astro keen:
Thanks! Will give this a go and see how it works out .

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posted January 30, 2016 08:16 PM            

@ PixieJane, I was wondering whether breakups, where inevitably one person, at least, feels rejected, would result in bad karma. Take us, for example: we could continue with some degree of contact, but that won't do me any good. So I must let to go completely, which will hurt him. So, wouldn't that result in bad karma for me?

iQ advised that forgiving yourself and him is the foundation for cutting cords without any karmic consequence. He suggested Ho'oponopono forgiveness meditations for this purpose. What do you think?

posted January 30, 2016 11:03 PM            

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Originally posted by Astro keen:
@ PixieJane, I was wondering whether breakups, where inevitably one person, at least, feels rejected, would result in bad karma. Take us, for example: we could continue with some degree of contact, but that won't do me any good. So I must let to go completely, which will hurt him. So, wouldn't that result in bad karma for me?

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Simple answer: no.

Regular answer: it depends on how you go about it. Cutting him off completely can be less cruel than letting it linger (gods, have I learned that lesson well, I will never make the mistake again). Of course, if you go out of your way to be cruel about it, WANTING him to suffer, then that's just begging for negative consequences (both natural and metaphysical), what you'd call karma. But otherwise, the faster the break is complete, then the faster you can both heal with less resentment and move on with your lives. If he can't move on with his, then that's on him, not you (I'd say the same if the sitch was reversed). He'll find it easier, and there will be a lot less resentment, if it's done cleanly than letting it linger grudgingly, and out of fear (of bad karma) rather than love.

And karma isn't all about bending over backwards for everyone. Life is messy, painful, and complicated, and you have to consider yourself as well as those around you, and that sometimes doing the nice thing is the wrong thing that does more harm than good in the long run (IOW, being nice can generate bad karma for everyone involved, when it's ill-advised).

Furthermore, life never was meant to be happy all the time, and the attempt to make it so only cheapens and even prevents happiness. The capacity for happiness is also the capacity for grief and such. To censure one inevitably censures the other. The more pain we know, the more joy. That's not a platitude, it's an experience I've learned, and it's something many who have endured tragic loss have also talked about as something they've learned. Of course people can shut down from too much pain and all that, but they can also recover. And literal or metaphorical, it's easier to recover from a clean break than a slow, lingering death (as in trying to force something to exist that no longer does).

posted February 02, 2016 03:14 PM            

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Originally posted by Astro keen:
Yes, of course! Agree with all that you've said. Just needed to hear it from someone.

You're a Star!

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posted February 04, 2016 09:51 AM            

I used a candle instead. I have attended healing courses and am familiar with the starting ritual - stating one's intention/ asking for help, grounding and opening and cleansing chakras. I then requested the angels to detach the cords from me and even him. I saw the cords, white and thread like, hooked into various points in the body with little hooks. They were everywhere! Thereupon the angles, lots of little people, unhooked the cords and gathered them into the candle. The white candle got filled with white cords from both of us. I then set the candle alight, asking for the angles to take away the attachments. While the candle burned, I visualised white light entering and washing over both of us, healing and strengthening. The white light formed a sort of cocoon or orb around each of us for protection and separation. Finally, I stated that I was healed and strong, etc. I let the candle burn all night.

The immediate effect was that I felt much calmer and got a good night's sleep. There was, however, a sensation of being hollow and drained of energy an hour or so after the candle began burning, but I rested and did not experience it again. I'm not sure whether this denoted something had gone amiss.