posted September 21, 2009 09:45 PM         

It is indeed a relationship that started off hotter than hell, and for all intensive purposes we did get 'hitched' suddenly, for better or worse.

The cooling off is spot on - there are downright glacial periods that make me wonder if the end is nigh - yet he seems to treat it as a natural course in a relationship.

2 years into this, I did go through a period where attraction on the emotional/mental level waned for me, as per your analysis, and I kept that to myself (I know, bad thing to do) as I was mightily confused about it all myself.

Most of our disagreements stem form the 'independence' debate.The standoffish and silent resolve to arguments is the rule.

It is rather unstable emotionally, veering all over the place at times (Synastrically there is an exact venus-pluto opp also),I'm also 7 years younger.

He is an entertainer, and spends up to 9 months a year away from home working.
Which can be good, as when he is in one place too long he gets stir-crazy and needs space.
The ambiguity/fidelity issues are related to this lifestyle - as well as the idealistic love.
(You get pretty idealistic about someone when you don't see them for 6 months)

The reason I inquired your help was because he keeps pushing for children, and due to that instability/ambiguity, I am not 100% sure I want to make that commitment right now, and effectively sit at home raising babies while he travels,
Maybe it is me just being selfish?