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Topic: Why can't I get him off my mind?
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hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9310 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted June 08, 2012 03:39 AM
I met a Sagittarius back in March, him and my friend (whom I met him through) and I hung out the last two days he was here on business. In talking to him, I found myself very excited, very attracted, very everything. I didn't expect him to leave that kind of impact on me, or stir up the emotions he did but he did. He's left now for about a couple of months, not coming back, but I still think of him often. I wondered if our Synastry chart could explain this, and if perhaps he felt the same way (which I think he did.) IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 9173 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted June 08, 2012 08:37 AM
Some very interesting connections here ! Especially the Node connections, of course. Maybe a fated encounter. I bet that you both felt it !His Venus/Pluto oppose your Moon = attraction. Plus they fall (with his Moon) in your 5th house, creating attraction and a lively energy. Romantic feelings wouldn't be surprising. His Uranus falls on your DSC and his Neptune is in your 7th. He definitely has an impact on you, you may see him as very interesting, intriguing and maybe even a bit "unattainable", there may be something "special" about him. Mars/Jupiter square both ways, creates a lot of energy and you probably feel/felt very lively around him. There's just a need for action here, stimulation is very strong. But the Nodes I think are the culprit here. Very strong attraction, not just the physical type but more on a soul level. You need each other to grow and evolve. It may not always feel comfortable, however, because you'll probably take each other out of your comfort zones. But a strong pull nevertheless, for sure! I say, if you get the chance to keep him around, go for it! It will probably teach you a lot of things, and may be quite enjoyable.
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appleberry Knowflake Posts: 1551 From: Venusian, w/Cancer MC Registered: Jun 2011
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posted June 08, 2012 05:05 PM
Yes I've had Uranus contacts and they are the most exiting, memorable experiences... but there can also be drama and chaos. It's worth it, but for one reason or another, either good or bad, it is unforgettable...IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9310 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted June 08, 2012 05:12 PM
quote: Originally posted by Doux Rêve: Some very interesting connections here ! Especially the Node connections, of course. Maybe a fated encounter. I bet that you both felt it !His Venus/Pluto oppose your Moon = attraction. Plus they fall (with his Moon) in your 5th house, creating attraction and a lively energy. Romantic feelings wouldn't be surprising. His Uranus falls on your DSC and his Neptune is in your 7th. He definitely has an impact on you, you may see him as very interesting, intriguing and maybe even a bit "unattainable", there may be something "special" about him. Mars/Jupiter square both ways, creates a lot of energy and you probably feel/felt very lively around him. There's just a need for action here, stimulation is very strong. But the Nodes I think are the culprit here. Very strong attraction, not just the physical type but more on a soul level. You need each other to grow and evolve. It may not always feel comfortable, however, because you'll probably take each other out of your comfort zones. But a strong pull nevertheless, for sure! I say, if you get the chance to keep him around, go for it! It will probably teach you a lot of things, and may be quite enjoyable.
I would, in a heartbeat. He lives in Illinois and although I felt everything you described (especially the liveliness! I was so outspoken, and I wasn't uncomfortable being that way but I was more surprised at the fact he could give it right back to me. Most people can't match me in that department, but he does have a Libra Moon and I have my Gemini placements.) He is very interesting! He would surprise me with random insights or vulnerable moments during the time we spent together. Thing is I think he was testing me, or was on an ego trip. Even though we flirted those entire two days he never asked for number, and randomly told me how sexy my friend (who introduced us) was. The whole time I just couldn't shake the feeling he was simply being wishy-washy and not to take it personally, but I did. Very much so. Sigh. Why do I always meet people who don't stay around for long, or there's an obstacle!
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hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9310 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted June 08, 2012 05:14 PM
quote: Originally posted by appleberry: Yes I've had Uranus contacts and they are the most exiting, memorable experiences... but there can also be drama and chaos. It's worth it, but for one reason or another, either good or bad, it is unforgettable...
Ha, there was drama and I'm not usually a dramatic person (despite me being an Aries, I don't like involving others in my own inner dramatics.) IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9310 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted June 27, 2012 05:05 PM
quote: Originally posted by Doux Rêve: Some very interesting connections here ! Especially the Node connections, of course. Maybe a fated encounter. I bet that you both felt it !His Venus/Pluto oppose your Moon = attraction. Plus they fall (with his Moon) in your 5th house, creating attraction and a lively energy. Romantic feelings wouldn't be surprising. His Uranus falls on your DSC and his Neptune is in your 7th. He definitely has an impact on you, you may see him as very interesting, intriguing and maybe even a bit "unattainable", there may be something "special" about him. Mars/Jupiter square both ways, creates a lot of energy and you probably feel/felt very lively around him. There's just a need for action here, stimulation is very strong. But the Nodes I think are the culprit here. Very strong attraction, not just the physical type but more on a soul level. You need each other to grow and evolve. It may not always feel comfortable, however, because you'll probably take each other out of your comfort zones. But a strong pull nevertheless, for sure! I say, if you get the chance to keep him around, go for it! It will probably teach you a lot of things, and may be quite enjoyable.
Hi Ms. Doux Reve... I know the chart isn't there anymore, but I was wondering if it's HIS Venus and Pluto opposing my moon, then does it mean HE is more so attracted to me, or me him? I would assume me/him because Pluto pulls and the Moon responds, right? IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 9173 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted June 28, 2012 04:21 AM
Yes Hanna darling, I would think so. The Moon is the fastest planet, and it represents our core. Therefore, we feel it deeply (especially women) and contacts made to it are felt intensely because it's so sensitive. With his Pluto/Venus opposing it, you definitely feel a pull towards him because Pluto is like a magnet, it mesmerizes us and draws us in, and coupled with Venus there's a silent promise of comfort, sensuality, and love. That's what your Moon wants, NEEDS, when connected to these planets: intensity, passion, love, romance, etc. Now, he may feel the pull, too. But it's probably more subtle and in response to your reaction to him; because Venus and Pluto are both further from the Sun than the Moon, and therefore, less personal (especially Pluto, obviously). How is it going? Are you still in contact? Someone said that the inner planet is more attracted *at first*, but that when a real connection is made, then the Pluto/outer planet person becomes more involved and more personal.
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hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9310 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted June 28, 2012 05:00 AM
quote: Originally posted by Doux Rêve: Yes Hanna darling, I would think so. The Moon is the fastest planet, and it represents our core. Therefore, we feel it deeply (especially women) and contacts made to it are felt intensely because it's so sensitive. With his Pluto/Venus opposing it, you definitely feel a pull towards him because Pluto is like a magnet, it mesmerizes us and draws us in, and coupled with Venus there's a silent promise of comfort, sensuality, and love. That's what your Moon wants, NEEDS, when connected to these planets: intensity, passion, love, romance, etc. Now, he may feel the pull, too. But it's probably more subtle and in response to your reaction to him; because Venus and Pluto are both further from the Sun than the Moon, and therefore, less personal (especially Pluto, obviously). How is it going? Are you still in contact? Someone said that the inner planet is more attracted *at first*, but that when a real connection is made, then the Pluto/outer planet person becomes more involved and more personal.
He's stubborn, is how it's going. I can feel the connection very strongly (as usual) but I also feel myself not caring too. Partly because I'm worn out from my life here, it's unrealistic to expect a connection being so far away and with so little effort on his part, and also because I don't want to block a great opportunity if one should come along. I re-added him today and gave him my number, and he responded in a very Scorpio, moody kind of way. He told me "Maybe you can delete me for no reason again and then re-add me 2 months later." I told him I didn't know he took it seriously (but I didn't apologize. There's always a reason.) and then he retorted it didn't bother him one bit.... "do what you do" (As if. What does that even mean...) So right now I can see Pluto at work. Power trips, or struggles at least. I don't understand why he won't make more of an effort though. Dare I put up the synastry chart again?
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Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 9173 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted June 28, 2012 05:16 AM
From his response, it sounds like he was hurt/offended, which to me means that he cares.. Because someone you don't care about, even if they delete you, well, you wouldn't give a damn, would you? So, maybe it's not a bad thing. I think you guys can't get past your egos (yet), and that's why you have communication problems; you both hide your true feelings out of pride or fear, etc. So, the first step -I think- is to have an honest talk, preferably face to face... But the fact that he lives far away does indeed complicate things, because it's more difficult to create a solid connection with someone who isn't there physically (let's not fool ourselves). If you'd like, you can send me an email, with the charts and some more details; my address is in the Astrology For Beginners forum, right on my username, on the right at the top. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9310 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted June 28, 2012 05:30 AM
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Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 9173 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted June 28, 2012 05:34 AM
Sure, done!See you there then! IP: Logged |
David Bowie Eyes Knowflake Posts: 165 From: The center of your mind- muhuwuaaa Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 28, 2012 11:12 AM
I'll get right to it. If you want this to remain in the fantasy realm you've laid the groundwork to keep it there. If you really want to find out the answer to "what if" and "why is he on my mind" then stop testing, and put it all out on the table. That means telling him how he originally, and still, affects you, and that you want his honest feelings about your first encounter as well as how he feels about things you've done later, like with the deleting and reinstating him from your friend list. Either he'll be honest or he'll hedge, either way he knows where you stand and you have his true feelings ( even when he's protecting himself, the truth is always there ) and you can make intelligent choices based upon being honest.Steve IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9310 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted June 28, 2012 01:40 PM
quote: Originally posted by David Bowie Eyes: I'll get right to it. If you want this to remain in the fantasy realm you've laid the groundwork to keep it there. If you really want to find out the answer to "what if" and "why is he on my mind" then stop testing, and put it all out on the table. That means telling him how he originally, and still, affects you, and that you want his honest feelings about your first encounter as well as how he feels about things you've done later, like with the deleting and reinstating him from your friend list. Either he'll be honest or he'll hedge, either way he knows where you stand and you have his true feelings ( even when he's protecting himself, the truth is always there ) and you can make intelligent choices based upon being honest.Steve
I wrestle with if he deserves that though. When I express things, I do so intensely. And I get extremely anxious. It's time for me to grow up though ... I mean I am 23. I did ask him why he said what he did on our first encounter and he didn't respond. What's the truth there? IP: Logged |
David Bowie Eyes Knowflake Posts: 165 From: The center of your mind- muhuwuaaa Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 28, 2012 02:17 PM
quote: Originally posted by hannaramaa: I wrestle with if he deserves that though. When I express things, I do so intensely. And I get extremely anxious. It's time for me to grow up though ... I mean I am 23. I did ask him why he said what he did on our first encounter and he didn't respond. What's the truth there?
I can't get inside his head so I don't know what he means by being silent. Part of it, though, depends on how specific you were in asking him what he said. He said a couple of things. The other part and this isn't too hard to guess, he's probably still pis_ed about the removal/reinstate situation. You are going to have to, regardless of being frustrated with his "push me/pull you" approach, be persistent to get him to respond as he's likely pulled back because you've sent out conflicting signals. A big circle, I know. Welcome to the fun world of attraction and possible relationship. Steve IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 9310 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted June 28, 2012 02:27 PM
quote: Originally posted by David Bowie Eyes: I can't get inside his head so I don't know what he means by being silent. Part of it, though, depends on how specific you were in asking him what he said. He said a couple of things. The other part and this isn't too hard to guess, he's probably still pis_ed about the removal/reinstate situation. You are going to have to, regardless of being frustrated with his "push me/pull you" approach, be persistent to get him to respond as he's likely pulled back because you've sent out conflicting signals. A big circle, I know. Welcome to the fun world of attraction and possible relationship.Steve
LOL! I like you! IP: Logged |
David Bowie Eyes Knowflake Posts: 165 From: The center of your mind- muhuwuaaa Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 28, 2012 04:53 PM
I like you too. Now, prove my instincts to be correct and find out what you need to know from the man we'll call " Two Days" ( who knows- maybe he is Native American- ).
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