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Topic: tarot addiction?
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tuxedo meow Knowflake Posts: 265 From: Third Coast Registered: Aug 2009
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posted October 09, 2012 06:11 PM
When it comes to matters of the heart and loins, i notice that some people will do readin after reading and ask for reading after reading looking for some sign or what they want to be! has anyone does this? i remember doing it long ago when trying to get some answer about a relationship. What is you alls ideas about this? How often should folks get readings? Do you think over using the tarot depletes it?IP: Logged |
PhoenixFire Knowflake Posts: 910 From: The Crossing Registered: Jun 2009
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posted October 09, 2012 06:33 PM
Hi Tuxedo Meow =) I've been thinking about this topic a lot, not only in terms of tarot but also psychic reading addiction. I think you are on to something, excessive readings could deplete one's outlook and lessen the impact of whatever tool is being utilized.
I read psychic Jamey from the bitwane site listed in the pyschic reading thread. What I gathered from Jayme's article on pyschic addiction, is that sometimes an individual reaches out to a reader in hopes of alleviating the pain of love. If the reader's response is contrary to what one wishes to hear, will seek out another reader until a reading is issued which confirms what one desires. The idea seems to be that the reading serves as a temporary fix to alleviate pain, and once the pain returns from a dysfunctional/unsatisfactory relationship, one will again reach out for readings. Personally I have witnessed this, as one of my siblings will constantly drain me by asking for up to 15 spreads in one session. I have also experienced addiction in the past, to the tune of lots of money invested w online readers. Jayme's article really hit the nail for me, and I'm glad to report that now will only request paid readings on a sporadic basis, will trying to maintain these are tools of guidance and not set in stone. Also that no amount of readings will solve the issues of a relationship that isn't meant to be, or is no longer positive. IP: Logged |
hmm Knowflake Posts: 558 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 09, 2012 10:35 PM
ya,kinda going off of what phoenixfire said, i think it could make it worse. there was one time where...according to a psychic i was 'suppose to' meet 'the one' or someone special...etc. and i guess you could say they were right, i did meet someone. but having this 'prediction' over my head ruined it. i was too pushy...too ready...too ahead of him...that i scared him off, turned him off, etc. u can't act natural, you can't grow together, etc. you can't connect on a human level when you have these promises, predictions etc guiding you instead of your gut/feelings.does it mean that i don't go for comfort to tarot, astrology,etc....nope, lol... but it has ruined things for me, and since i don't stop, i guess you could say i'm 'addicted' boo hoo :P IP: Logged |
hmm Knowflake Posts: 558 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 09, 2012 10:38 PM
what do you think would be different in yourself/your life if you were forced to use your own heart/head instead of using these crutches? (ie. tarot, astrology, psychics, etc)IP: Logged |
cherful24 Knowflake Posts: 251 From: chicago, il Registered: Mar 2012
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posted October 09, 2012 10:47 PM
Wow! Samething happened to me!! I thought I new the outcome thus, I became to passive. Well joke was on me because he started a relationship with someone else and married her..and it was all within months-very short time. I did way too many readings about him. It was like half said no he wasn't in love with me and the other half said yes. Well bottom line as we spoke last week. He was in love me, but I act too aloof as if I didn't want to develop anything further. I professed my love for him and blurted everything out! I held nothing in...and now we are apart but basically having an "emotional affair". We both have lots of regrets and hurt feelings because we couldn't for some reason develop "us". Well, what he doesn't know is that it's all me, becuase I was going on the advice of all these different tarot readers and psyhics. It was so draining too! I f'ed up. So You're right...what if we did things based on our own hearts and thinking/feelings......I say we should! quote: Originally posted by hmm: what do you think would be different in yourself/your life if you were forced to use your own heart/head instead of using these crutches? (ie. tarot, astrology, psychics, etc)
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hmm Knowflake Posts: 558 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 09, 2012 11:02 PM
quote: Originally posted by cherful24: Wow! Samething happened to me!! I thought I new the outcome thus, I became to passive. Well joke was on me because he started a relationship with someone else and married her..and it was all within months-very short time. I did way too many readings about him. It was like half said no he wasn't in love with me and the other half said yes. Well bottom line as we spoke last week. He was in love me, but I act too aloof as if I didn't want to develop anything further. I professed my love for him and blurted everything out! I held nothing in...and now we are apart but basically having an "emotional affair". We both have lots of regrets and hurt feelings because we couldn't for some reason develop "us". Well, what he doesn't know is that it's all me, becuase I was going on the advice of all these different tarot readers and psyhics. It was so draining too! I f'ed up. So You're right...what if we did things based on our own hearts and thinking/feelings......I say we should!
have you ever watched the devil's advocate? there's this one line at the end. it's not word for word but bascially these ppl got to the top with the 'devils' help i can't remember exactly what he said but he's like these ppl got here thanks to me, they can't maintain their positions without me, (because they didn't earn it/ work for it..etc)...they don't know *ish. i kinda see astrology like that...it's too much information that most aren't ready for, and don't know how to use. they could use it, cheat, and get to the next level. but they don't undestand that level, they're not strong enough for that level, they don't know how to navigate that level. or like a test...you could cheat. get 100, but say the day comes when you have to apply that knowlege...u're screwed. $#$%#$#...i really wish i could explain it better....i don't do it justice it's a good movie, you should watch it if you ever have time.... idk IP: Logged |
PhoenixFire Knowflake Posts: 910 From: The Crossing Registered: Jun 2009
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posted October 09, 2012 11:16 PM
Makes sense to me, hmm. Astrology could be a self prophecy... Say you really like someone but then cast some astro charts, which show terrible aspects. Possibly you will now have negative predictions of doom dampening your optimism, and now your outlook will take a downward spiral. I love Astrology & tarot, but for sure shouldn't be more than a tool and not taken as the end all of things. Listening to your own intuition and experiences is the most important thing. Obtaining advice is good if not excessive as it could help you see a broader picture, as sometimes we miss details when caught up in emotions or difficulties. But you know yourself best and ultimately should do what you feel/think is best . IP: Logged |
hmm Knowflake Posts: 558 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 10, 2012 12:17 AM
http://www.solarmovie.eu/link/play/387231/ it starts at 1 26 24IP: Logged |
lngriders Knowflake Posts: 57 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 10, 2012 01:10 AM
This is an interesting topic that I also identify with. Listening to a reading caused me to behave in a way that I would not otherwise have behaved.I was crazy about this guy and was desperate for him to reciprocate my feelings. We lived far away from one another and was hoping we would be together one day. A psychic told me that she didn't see us being together. She actually told me a lot of other things as well. None of the other predictions came true except for the one about my crush and I. The reading gave me the to incentive to start ending the relationship, though because I no longer thought there was a future. We were having some communication issues and I was becoming disenchanted with the distance between us. I often wonder whether I did the right thing. I think it is more important to listen to your own understanding on matters of the heart. IP: Logged |
love being Aries Knowflake Posts: 1408 From: Registered: Apr 2011
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posted October 10, 2012 08:20 AM
Its only human nature to know about the things he is not supposed to know about. Tarot or no Tarot, each of us wants to know everything before it happens. Therefore, I suppose its reader's responsibility as well to communicate this to the client that may be getting reading after reading will not make it happen any quicker. Besides if you tell someone "you are going to meet someone" they will still be in doubt & would want to know if that is true & thus, they need another reading for confirmation. I have done that too. I'm also guilty of this. Therefore, I now use Tarot for yes/no daily routine matters questions or advising tool only, like what should I do & how I should react. Over time I have noticed that my intuition has developed so much I don't even need a tool to ask for advice/things, because normally i will just get a constant nagging in my gut when I'm supposed to do something. Tarot is just a tool, use your inner wisdom to connect to the universe & you won't even have to ask others or cards for anything.BTW I love tarot & I am addicted too, as far as routine matters, daily yes/no & daily draws are concerned. ------------------ If I have done a reading for you, or you have a generous heart, please make a prayer for me that I meet love of my life soon. I believe in power of prayers. Thank you Follow my blog: www.lenormanddraws.blogspot.com IP: Logged |
cherful24 Knowflake Posts: 251 From: chicago, il Registered: Mar 2012
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posted October 10, 2012 10:04 AM
Totally makes sense...I feel that way. When I had him, I didn't know what to do b/c I was basically playing games by going on the advice of too many different "readings" I had.
quote: Originally posted by hmm: have you ever watched the devil's advocate? there's this one line at the end. it's not word for word but bascially these ppl got to the top with the 'devils' help i can't remember exactly what he said but he's like these ppl got here thanks to me, they can't maintain their positions without me, (because they didn't earn it/ work for it..etc)...they don't know *ish.i kinda see astrology like that...it's too much information that most aren't ready for, and don't know how to use. they could use it, cheat, and get to the next level. but they don't undestand that level, they're not strong enough for that level, they don't know how to navigate that level. or like a test...you could cheat. get 100, but say the day comes when you have to apply that knowlege...u're screwed. $#$%#$#...i really wish i could explain it better....i don't do it justice it's a good movie, you should watch it if you ever have time.... idk
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blessed39 Knowflake Posts: 82 From: Registered: Feb 2012
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posted October 10, 2012 10:24 AM
I do agree that tarot addiction is real. As mentioned earlier, Jamey from Bitwine discusses this a lot. Also, as mentioned earlier, tarot and psychic readings can become a crutch for dealing with disappointment and life decisions.Although it is human nature to want to know everything before it happens, that does not mean that this should be the case. Lol. This is where the saying, "practice patience" comes in. I have gotten caught up in tarot addiction as well. Particularly, while in this stage of my life when I am going through so many weird and unfamiliar changes. I felt I needed direction and some guidance. Clearly, some guidance here and there is great, but when it is used in place of dealing with life, that is when there is a problem. Great topic! IP: Logged |
hmm Knowflake Posts: 558 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 10, 2012 12:47 PM
we should do a pact where for one person/one area in our life we are not allowed to ask questions about, do readings for....and see how much MORE we get out of that relatonship/situation.etc in the end... unless i'm getting ahead of myself. personaly i'd break after two min.... but it's nice to have goals...lmao....yes good topic, def. something we tend to push under the rug, ....to our own detriment. IP: Logged |
hmm Knowflake Posts: 558 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 10, 2012 12:49 PM
quote: Originally posted by cherful24: Totally makes sense...I feel that way. When I had him, I didn't know what to do b/c I was basically playing games by going on the advice of too many different "readings" I had.
that's unfortunate..sucks IP: Logged |
tuxedo meow Knowflake Posts: 265 From: Third Coast Registered: Aug 2009
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posted October 11, 2012 01:58 AM
Generally, on forum, when someone offers to do readings for others, the readings asked for all have questions like, "Does he like me?" "Is he my soulmate?" "how does he really feel about me?" " will we end up together?" Nothing wrong with asking these type questions of course but, I would like to see more variety in questions. i think it is like what all the good previous answers before me on this thread are stating-the readings are temporary balm for wish fulfillment anxiety?IP: Logged |
hmm Knowflake Posts: 558 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 11, 2012 02:06 AM
quote: Originally posted by tuxedo meow: Generally, on forum, when someone offers to do readings for others, the readings asked for all have questions like, "Does he like me?" "Is he my soulmate?" "how does he really feel about me?" " will we end up together?" Nothing wrong with asking these type questions of course but, I would like to see more variety in questions. i think it is like what all the good previous answers before me on this thread are stating-the readings are temporary balm for wish fulfillment anxiety?
ya, you're right
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PhoenixFire Knowflake Posts: 910 From: The Crossing Registered: Jun 2009
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posted October 11, 2012 01:22 PM
Anything in excess could be an emotional crutch...I've been thinking about my sibling who went from tarot reading addiciton to excessive shopping. After I stopped reading for her excessively, she moved on to distracting herself from the emotional pain via crazy shopping sprees. Reflecting on this, I think readings themselves aren't a negative thing, but perhaps a self analysis would be good to identify what exactly one is hoping to obtain. Asking for clarification readings is totally ok, by excessive readings, I supposse this would be determined by each individual...what is excessive and what is clarification. In my sibling's case, she'd ask for more than 10 readings on the same question, frustrated as the cards were not confirming what she wanted to hear. A few days would go by, and she'd stop by and ask for more readings on the same question, without having made real life progress by thinking about or making decisions. It was almost as if she didn't want to take responisbility for her own self, and placed too much power on the cards. In my view, my sibling was def addicted to the readings which is why I stopped reading for her. When you are feeling vulernable it is so easy to crutch onto an addictive behavior to escape the hurt feelings. In the end, it comes down to what you would like to obtain from the readings on how you wish to proceed with the information. Placing your personal power & responsibilites into readings, or using them to escape pain will just bring more pain. IP: Logged |
cherful24 Knowflake Posts: 251 From: chicago, il Registered: Mar 2012
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posted October 11, 2012 01:41 PM
OMG, yes!! That's what I told myself several days ago...I have gone a full week without any readings!! I am so scared to mess things up with him now that we are brought into a new type of rel. that I wont ask or talk to anyone about him or us!! I must say that going based on my own beliefs and instinct has worked out greatly!
quote: Originally posted by hmm: we should do a pact where for one person/one area in our life we are not allowed to ask questions about, do readings for....and see how much MORE we get out of that relatonship/situation.etc in the end... unless i'm getting ahead of myself. personaly i'd break after two min.... but it's nice to have goals...lmao....yes good topic, def. something we tend to push under the rug, ....to our own detriment.
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hmm Knowflake Posts: 558 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 11, 2012 09:25 PM
quote: Originally posted by cherful24: OMG, yes!! That's what I told myself several days ago...I have gone a full week without any readings!! I am so scared to mess things up with him now that we are brought into a new type of rel. that I wont ask or talk to anyone about him or us!! I must say that going based on my own beliefs and instinct has worked out greatly!
lol....the real world sounds so scary :P IP: Logged |
curiouswoman Knowflake Posts: 623 From: on earth Registered: Sep 2011
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posted October 12, 2012 02:32 PM
me lately, smh!IP: Logged | |