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Topic: I can't get over him. PLEASE help
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peachbeigeblue
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posted December 08, 2012 05:04 PM
  
I have been hung up on this guy for years. I've talked about him before. Timing was off and eventually I just kind of screwed it up. We've talked on and off and he was always trying to figure out if he could get over stuff for us to be together. BC if the thing never happened - we'd be together. It's really all so Venus/Chiron. I have never felt anything close for anyone else as I have for him. If he were to ask me to wait and he'd be with me in 20 years - I'd do it. It really breaks me heart. I've had dreams him and I were together the last couple nights and they felt so real. I'm pathetic. Something happened and now he won't talk to me. Like at all. And won't tell me why. It could be because I had a boyfriend over the summer - and he knew about that but I talked to him then/after that. I can't figure out exactly when we stopped communicating but it was within the last 4 months. I've seen him a couple times. I'm friends with his little brother which is how him and I met in the first place. I basically kept my distance and said a little because I didn't want to push. But I still felt the same way when we'd make eye contact and I think he did too. UGH. I texted him since and crickets. I don't know if i should try to get him to talk to me/write him a letter and summarize everything i want to say so i don't regret not saying it/or just try to get over him. which i haven't been able to do since i met the guy. i don't know if this is some karmic thing and i'm supposed to suffer my whole life. or if i'm just not used to heartbreak. or what. he won't give me any kind of closure though. and i'm scared to move on if he's just being weird. (his dad's company went out of business this year and that really hurt his confidence. i haven't talked to him for months but last time i checked he still hadn't found a job. i never made him feel weird about it or anything. at least i don't think i did. i understand how that might make a taurus feel) so please! help! anyway you can. idk if i should ask for tarot, astrology, horary or what. i've been told i would be with him and not be with him. he's actually why i had gotten into astrology to begin with. i had googled "how to win a taurus back" like 2 years ago. hahaha. and it had worked, kinda, for a little. 
our composite
 our synastry
 my birth chart
 his birth chart
(i already had this saved, idk why i had juno, POF, and vertex on their exactly. i think it had to do with looking at our composite with those) oh our composite karma is conjunct my natal venus to the degree. (Gemini 28.13 and Gemini 28.31) go figure. i know there was stuff in the ninth harmonics that kinda made me sad when i saw it. but i'd only post those upon request. thanks for reading and let me know if there's anything i should ask/look for/etc IP: Logged |
starmoon
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posted December 08, 2012 09:34 PM
i'm a novice, so hopefully some others will help you out. the thing that jumped at me first was that you and the guy have venus opposite saturn in every chart - composite, synastry, and both natals. my understanding is that venus opposite saturn in synastry/composite often means that the love is unrequited - for whatever reason the saturn is binding for a while but maybe not forever. the guy also natally has moon square venus and venus opposite mars; my thinking is that since his venus doesn't have many flowing aspects he might not be in touch with his venus sign, which could explain why he might not communicate with you - his mars opposite venus is like a love/hate thing. his moon in cap could also make him quite emotionally cold in love, especially since it's square to his venus and saturn. Your chart also shows venus in opposition to neptune and uranus, and a bigger challenge, your own sun square to moon, which could mean a disconnect between what you feel and what you express. your moon is also opposite your pluto in house 12, so there might be some hidden stuff there - things you are not expressing or fears you might have about yourself and the relationship, whether true or not. since your ascendant is also scorpio/pluto at a close degree i would hazard a guess it's the pluto energy you have that makes you a bit obsessive. imo the synastry/relationship would be worth fighting for if both natal charts had a better flow and not so many challenging aspects to major planets. just my opinion.IP: Logged |
Debby4
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posted December 08, 2012 09:39 PM
This has nothing to do with astrology... but while I was reading this I was thinking about it in my head while listening to the radio. I know you might be like..."what does this have to do with the question?" But you know how you can't predict what song they are going to play next on the radio it just sort of happens.. Well Taylor Swift's "We are never ever getting back together" played. If you look up the lyrics they sort of describe the way you/he MIGHT feel. Sorry. D:IP: Logged |
peachbeigeblue
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posted December 08, 2012 10:18 PM
Hahaha. I love all Taylor swift songs. I already feel a little more at ease after I wrote this and got it all out. I mean him and I have DW Venus Neptune (less than 2 degree orbs) DW Venus Mars and DW Venus Pluto. He used to communicate with me a lot. But obviously something happened and he won't give me any closure. He's done this before. It's like if I never get closure, I can never move on. And yeah he can be cold with that cap moon. But it's trine mine. We actually don't have Venus/Saturn in synastry - but we both have it natally and therefore in composite. But I could see how you could think that bc his Neptune is closely conjunct my Saturn. I should probably try to look closer to if the DW Venus/Neptune was why we ever thought it could have worked to begin with and we were kidding ourselves. IP: Logged |
Debby4
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posted December 09, 2012 03:00 AM
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Originally posted by peachbeigeblue:
Hahaha. I love all Taylor swift songs. I already feel a little more at ease after I wrote this and got it all out. I mean him and I have DW Venus Neptune (less than 2 degree orbs) DW Venus Mars and DW Venus Pluto. He used to communicate with me a lot. But obviously something happened and he won't give me any closure. He's done this before. It's like if I never get closure, I can never move on. And yeah he can be cold with that cap moon. But it's trine mine. We actually don't have Venus/Saturn in synastry - but we both have it natally and therefore in composite. But I could see how you could think that bc his Neptune is closely conjunct my Saturn. I should probably try to look closer to if the DW Venus/Neptune was why we ever thought it could have worked to begin with and we were kidding ourselves.
Lol! When I was reading this "Summer Lovin'" Started playing :P From the movie Grease ^_^ ( I LOVE THAT MOVIE!)  Maybe it's just from your summer relationship? Is he possessive? Also "What makes you beautiful" Started playing xD Maybe there IS hope! ^_^ IP: Logged |
peachbeigeblue
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posted December 09, 2012 09:21 AM
Haha. I met him I'm June 2009 and first kissed him August that year. But we were seeing eachother every season at one time or another IP: Logged |
sand
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posted December 09, 2012 10:50 AM
Taureans grow out of the things they are so fixed on sometimes. I did. But then he is pluto in libra I see. Closure to someone as fixed as you and I is just another chance to win them back haha! He must be hot tho!  darn it peach is he cuter than me? Kidding! IP: Logged |
peachbeigeblue
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posted December 09, 2012 11:24 AM
Haha. He is cute. 6'1"/dominant/funny. He has an identical twin brother who is a Scorpio rising. Which is part of the problem.........IP: Logged |
peachbeigeblue
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posted December 09, 2012 11:24 AM
Haha. He is cute. 6'1"/dominant/funny. He has an identical twin brother who is a Scorpio rising. Which is part of the problem.........IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted December 09, 2012 01:47 PM
How is that part of the problem?IP: Logged |
sand
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posted December 09, 2012 05:25 PM
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Originally posted by peachbeigeblue:
Haha. He is cute. 6'1"/dominant/funny. He has an identical twin brother who is a Scorpio rising. Which is part of the problem.........
So he is taller! I'm 5'10 (and a half mind you) dominant/ funny! It could be the summer boyfriend. That shi!t is actually painful to taureans lol even if we don't show it. Am not sure if we give closure. I just jet. Stop communication but that was long ago. I'm not that much of an a$$ nowadays. Maybe! Idk lol! IP: Logged |
peachbeigeblue
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posted December 09, 2012 07:06 PM
haha so is the consensus that i should just try to get over him? it seems like that.
I THINK IM GONA ASK YOU GUYS WHICH ONE OF THE NEW GUYS IM CONSIDERING I SHOULD GO FOR.
i haven't kissed either or hung out with them alone or anything like that. they're just suitors. IP: Logged |
peachbeigeblue
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posted December 09, 2012 07:10 PM
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Originally posted by littlecloud:
How is that part of the problem?
he had liked me too. could still. it's debatable. like had shown up to my apartment unannounced in the middle of the night type stuff. littlecloud - you were right about the synastry with that guy i had posted a month or so ago. it never went anywhere. nothing ever happened. maybe you could take a look at the compatibility i'm gona post in a little while and give me your advice on which one would be better for me? IP: Logged |
peachbeigeblue
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posted December 09, 2012 07:34 PM
First guy. Leo/Aquarius/Leo. 2 years younger
 Second guy. Aquarius/Gemini/Scorpio. 4 years older than me
PS I'm Leo/Taurus/Scorpio and my natal is in the first post.
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YoursTrulyAlways
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posted December 09, 2012 07:58 PM
Peachbeigeblue,Sorry to inject but I don't understand why any guy would not want to talk to you. You are so pretty and such a sweetheart. You would make any guy proud to have in his life. Keep your chin up and let love guide itself to you. You deserve all the love in the world and I pray love is showered abundantly upon you. That's all I can say about that before i get into a lot of trouble. Hahaha. IP: Logged |
isabelle_lila
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posted December 09, 2012 08:15 PM
Hello peachbeigeblue,I understand you and how you can't get over him. You have all my sympathy. I don't know astrology. But I just pick a card in my celtic deck to understand more about why he won't talk to you again. I got II morrigan rx which pretty much goes in what you wrote to us : lack of trust, revenge, pride etc... It's a very closed card, meaning that the situation is blocked as for now I hope with time, you will find a possibility to talk to him. IP: Logged |
peachbeigeblue
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posted December 09, 2012 08:44 PM
YTA: Haha, thank you for all your kind words. But yes - I have a "one that got away" --- Again, thank you. You're too sweetIsabella - thanks for pulling that card for me. Sometimes the whole thing hits me and I get really upset and think I will never be able to move on and sometimes I can see past it. But judging by everyone's comments and how I feel right now - I think I should just try to move forward. I've waited around for that guy for loooong periods of time before. I really appreciate everyone's support. IP: Logged |
peachbeigeblue
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posted December 13, 2012 05:43 PM
bump for anyone who can tell me who they think i am more compatible with ^^^ pretty please! IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted December 13, 2012 05:55 PM
I'll get to it as soon as I can. Give me a couple of daysIP: Logged |
starfox
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posted December 13, 2012 05:55 PM
Ach.. let him go.There is no shortage of good men in the world! Millions of them in fact. What makes him so special.?
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Haplesschild*
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posted December 13, 2012 05:55 PM
Youre more compatible with the first guy, the second one has moon opposition mars and saturn in synastry...That's going to be HORRIBLE lol you'll going to feel really stifled and there will be pretty bad fights where he'll emotionally hurt you easily due to his mars being directly opposite your moon. You'll be extra sensitive every time he asserts himself.Though for the first one, seeing that there are alot of squares and oppositions, you guys will rub each other the wrong way often, even with your angles conjuncting.
Both charts show that there will be some hard work needed. IP: Logged |
peachbeigeblue
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posted December 13, 2012 07:19 PM
thank you, thank you, thank you littlecloud + haplessIP: Logged |
peachbeigeblue
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posted December 13, 2012 07:20 PM
quote:
Originally posted by starfox:
Ach.. let him go.There is no shortage of good men in the world! Millions of them in fact. What makes him so special.?
i'm really not sure. i might feel so strongly bc the moon trines and sun conjunct my moon? i figure it's in the charts somewhere.
but yeah, i should get over him
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