posted September 22, 2014 03:25 PM            

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Originally posted by tphoenix5:
I think what you have here is a self-esteem issue. When we repeat a pattern we tend to tell ourselves that this is the way it will always be. This mantra we create sometimes unfolds to help us create it. Most of us tell ourselves things that are negative in mantra form. Whether we do this out loud or just to ourselves… We are guilty. You need to give yourself a new mantra. One that says he is single and he is mine and he is a keeper and he will be my KEEPER. You have to chant this every time you catch yourself saying… This happens to me all the time. I meet a guy on the rebound. It is not as easy as it sounds. I speak from experience. I dated a few that would beat me every time they had a few to drink. It took me a while but I told myself I did not deserve that. One reason I do not wish to get into a relationship now is that I can still attract a person who is not very considerate of my feelings. And until some of my major aspects are under control…. I would rather my friends play out those roles than someone I would want as a mate. Since I do not have your chart to look at…. I can only tell you that changing your mantra…. WILL change you… and then the people you find ATTRACTIVE.!!!

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Would you be able to take a look? http://gyazo.com/7daf6ea87c65a58cd3476325a569c259 , if not thats fine.

Yeah it's hard to break outta that mindset lol... but thankyou for the advice!

posted September 22, 2014 04:01 PM            

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Originally posted by tphoenix5:
It is so interesting you should ask this question. You have Neptune in the 7th house. That lends itself very nicely to be the victim or the martyr. Neither of these roles should we seek to be because they lie on a continuum… Once you are no longer the victim you become the martyr and it goes round and round again. Along with that you have mercury there. You start out by being their friend and a kind word here and a kind word there leads to a date and well…. But to answer your question, Pluto is going over this house and you really cannot escape Pluto without change. I mean you can try… but Pluto will knock you down and then you will be forced to change. So, yes, you have recognized your pattern and YES you will change it. Its gonna take some time… but you have time. Remember the next time you start telling some fella … She was not right for you…. Hear what you say…. And think… do I want to do this again?
Happy Trails.

T

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