posted February 02, 2015 02:11 PM            

A lot has been written on psychic addiction and I think still more needs to be written! Psychic addiction has become a real problem for a lot of people. It is not uncommon for someone to loose thousands of dollars and not get an accurate reading. Or even getting an accurate reading and still needing more. Like any addiction, the real underlying issue has nothing to do with a psychic reading. The drug addict needs those drugs in order to not have to deal with emotional turmoil and uses the drugs to temporarily numb the emotional problems that are going on in their life. Someone that is addicted to psychic readings is no different. Someone that has a psychic addiction is looking for a way to pacify fears.

Like any addiction, it starts off slowly. The most common question I see in relationship to psychic addiction is, “Are they coming back into my life” so we will work with this one. So the first time someone calls and asks this question, and especially if they are hurting from the pain of a break up, they will be in a state of fear, a state of emotional turmoil. Now lets say that the reading they get says “no, this person isn’t going to come back” that will add to the emotional turmoil. But the same can be said for a reading that comes back as “yes, they are coming back into your life” What happens is that the person asking the question gets a “quick fix” temporarily pacifying fears and emotional turmoil. However, because it was just a quick fix, those fears are going to come back, and stronger because you just put a bandaid on the pain and the pain is festering deep inside. Nothing a bandaid can fix. So

posted February 03, 2015 08:06 AM            

So that's all another thing to keep in mind with getting readings too much-- these people gotta eat!! Now I think there are wonderfully moral advisors out there - but like, if I was an advisor and someone kept coming in every day or few days about little things then unless I knew they were a bajillionaire I think I would feel bad, cause clearly there's a bigger issue there..

posted February 03, 2015 12:04 PM            

Okay, since this seems to be helping some people here is an email I got today - the universe seems intent on sending me messages!!

It's about that age old question - to call, or not to call - when you haven't heard from someone you want to hear from. And almost all readers say, don't reach out/push him, etc, it could change things - wait for him - etc. Leaving us kind of powerless and in some cases to getting more readings when we want information, cause we aren't talking to him. But there's a better reason why not to -- read below

It's called: "Calling or Texting Him Only Changes One Thing..."

Hi ---

It's the 21st century. A most confusing time when it comes to the age-old question of "Can I call him or do I have to wait for him to call me?"

And I know you've been overwhelmed with so many different answers to that one question. Everyone seems to have a different answer for you, with different reasons to back them up and different way of letting you know. But behind all this confusion, lies a simple basic truth that has always been the same, that will never change regardless of what our culture chooses to do.

If you call him or text him when you haven't heard from him, it won't change the way he feels about you, it won't change whether or not he was going to call you anyway.

But it will change you.

Because there's something we do with ambiguous situations like this. We go to our #1 go-to place - that place known as "overthinking".

The one where we question whether we shouldn't have said something. Or if we should have said something else instead of what we did say. Where we get hung up on what he thought, or what his response (or non-response) meant.

Where we blame ourselves completely for what we should have known. Or for even calling or texting him at all.

This is what changes us!

It tears down what little self-confidence we have, and rips through our fragile self-esteem.

And right there is where we find the bigger question to all of this, can you handle that?

Can you handle waiting now for the part where he calls or texts you back? Can you handle not knowing whether he seemed so happy to hear from you because he genuinely was, or because it simply takes much less effort for him to respond to you than to initiate his own call to you?

Sometimes your answer will be yes, and sometimes it will be no. Because, more than anyone else, you're the one who knows what you need.

It may be "yes" when you can't or won't focus on anything else but him, when he's in your mind, your thoughts, your very being, and there's nothing you can do to shake him. In that case, is worrying about what he may think of you by calling him really much worse than what you're already putting yourself through?

Is it worth where you've found yourself, in this place where you're not really living, not wanting to believe what would have saved you so many tears, so much living in a type of fantasy, holding on so tightly to those last words of his that so clearly meant nothing to him in the end?

So to call, to go back there, to drive by the place where he lived or worked, yes, they may admit to the world and ourselves just how obsessively we can love someone and not be ready to move on, but to see him with someone else, to see the reality that he is, in fact, happy – so very happy without us in his life – and that he's not missing you at all, but was out enjoying his freedom getting on with his own life, that kind of clarity has the power to save us from putting ourselves through this facade any longer.

It's that reality check that shows you so much quicker the way away from him and back to the place where you belong, with yourself, with your own life, with a new fresh start.

Don't do it for anyone else, do it for you.

You know what you need to do. If you shut out the noise of all the advice, however well-meaning it is, and just listen to your own heart and soul. You know what it means. That silence from him. We can't stand it, but it's oh so necessary for you to hear it.

Silence means he's busy. Too busy for you.

Silence means he's confused – and doesn't want to lead you on until he's not.

Silence means he's not looking for the same thing you are, or on the same page as you.

You might not know for sure, but I know there is one thing you can know for sure.

If he's ready for something more than the silence, you will absolutely be the first to know.

Do you want to wait? Then wait.

Do you hate waiting? Then don't wait.

Do you need to know? Then do what you need to get your information so you can be true to yourself and know.

It doesn't matter what he thinks. It matters what you think. And how you live. And what your quality of life is. And how happy you are. And how depressed you're not.

Another thing I learned?

There's so many other things that matter in life besides whether or not someone who's not even on the same page as me cares enough about me to want to communicate with me.

Like whether I'm happy. Like whether I'm moving in the direction of my dreams. Like whether I'm taking care of myself physically, emotionally, and mentally. Like whether I'm doing the things I've always wanted to do. Like whether I'm living within my means. Like whether I'm going out and doing the things that add to my self-confidence instead of breaking me down. Like choosing what I want for a change, instead of taking care of everyone else and their feelings and needs and not feeling guilty about it.

Those kinds of things.

Because regardless of what you decide you're going to do about calling or not calling him, or texting or not texting him, he's going to do what he's going to do anyway. He's going to think what he chooses to think anyway.

This is so not complicated for him. Don't let it be for you!

Love,

Jane

Jane Garapick

Founder, Getting to True Love, LLC www.gettingtotruelove.com

posted February 03, 2015 12:44 PM            

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Originally posted by ProxyxBlue:
Thank you for sharing this information with everyone. I'm currently in a situation myself, the only thing is the person isn't an ex of mine. We've always been friends with strong feelings for each other. I'm not entirely sure of his silence, but I've been told by multiple psychics that are my go-to readers that his silence has nothing to do with me, but more so of a personal issue he is going though. I can't confirm it since I'm not in communication with him currently, but when I was, he did have moments of not talking and would return explaining to me his stress of something. So, in my opinion I believe silence can mean a multitude of things, other than "he's just not interested in you" sort of thing, lol.

What I would really want is for everyone to have their inner desires manifested. Because I believe if that happens, people would start to spend less time on getting a reading and more time focusing on themselves and living a happy life.

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Hi Proxy! I love your last paragraph <3 ! Agree x 1000.

And i also agree it can be a number of things. And I am in a similar type of situation -- and your description of silence, is kind of what my guy does too. Although, typically he will: retreat, attempt to talk to me about it (so, good for him trying, I guess), then retreat again. Until, who knows. He did tell me straight out he pulls back when he's concerned about something.

MEN! LOL. Why can't they just talk like us ::cry::

posted February 03, 2015 01:22 PM            

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Originally posted by Sunshineluv7:
Hi Proxy! I love your last paragraph <3 ! Agree x 1000.

And i also agree it can be a number of things. And I am in a similar type of situation -- and your description of silence, is kind of what my guy does too. Although, typically he will: retreat, attempt to talk to me about it (so, good for him trying, I guess), then retreat again. Until, who knows. He did tell me straight out he pulls back when he's concerned about something.

MEN! LOL. Why can't they just talk like us ::cry::

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Thank you! I really do want that to happen for everyone. I know many of us here on this board have wasted a lot of money on psychics, even if predictions have happened. It makes you think to yourself, "This would have happened regardless if I talked to a psychic." Because I first started getting readings back in July of 2014. Prior to that, Y was gone for one month and I never contacted a psychic. I was sad and worried, just about the same when I did contact a psychic, but I never did contact one and he returned. So, I believe that most of (if not all) can do without a reading. It's just that need to know what we don't don't know. The unknown can be frightening, but it's that curious factor that draws us in wanting to know more, and more, until we realize that we've left a huge dent in our bank account, lol. I just need to get back into the mindset of me when I didn't get readings at all. At least I would still have money, lol.

I understand. It sucks that we are dealing with similar situations. Hopefully whenever either man returns, they will return with a clear mind and are willing to be consistent with us and stop pulling back. My guy realizes that it does in fact hurt me and he does apologize for it. Yet, he continues to do his Houdini act. I'm keeping fact that when he does return, things will get better and no more disappearing acts, lol.