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Topic: Controlling mother... Need help... I'll exchange
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DaniPepper87 Moderator Posts: 3503 From: Curitiba, Brasil Registered: Sep 2013
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posted February 25, 2015 08:48 AM
Ok, I'm a 27 years old girl... yes you read well, GIRL!!! My mother is in a phase of controlling me, in a way that I'm almost going out from home. I don't want this, I love my mom and my home, but things are very hard (got worst when my grandma passed away). I give her attention, love, bring all that she wants from the market... and today she was complaning about the Reiki course I'll do in the end of the week... "I don't like you going out after 11pm..."...I'd love some counsel from the cards/oracles you use... what can I do for this? I'll exchange with a tarot or Lenormand reading... Thanks! IP: Logged |
birdy Knowflake Posts: 1576 From: Registered: Dec 2011
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posted February 25, 2015 09:34 AM
I pulled 3 cards- The tower R, The world, The sun.IP: Logged |
goddessofthemoon Knowflake Posts: 355 From: Manhattan Registered: Dec 2014
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posted February 25, 2015 09:39 AM
9 of Swords - 8 of Swords - 2 of Cups - Temperance - 7 of Wands rxI feel like the reason why your mother is acting this way is because she may have a lot of anxiety in general regarding her life at the moment. She feels out of place and doing this to you makes her feel like at least one part of her life is in control. I feel like simply talking to her about this, and assuring her fears are just that... fears, everything will be different between you two. I feel like you need to have a talk and be patient with her and try to be kind. Let her know that you understand her feelings and tell her how you feel, but try not to let it turn into an argument. Just be calming and reassure her whatever you feel needs to come off of your chest. She will be willing to listen. Can you tell me the next change coming into my life? IP: Logged |
MinceyMouse Knowflake Posts: 1694 From: Indonesia for now Registered: Jan 2014
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posted February 25, 2015 09:46 AM
1- establish boundaries with her. Let her know what you are comfortable with, and what you aren't. 2- this is her way of showing affection to you, you will need to talk this through with here in a calm and collected manner, no screaming. 3- you're a woman (not a girl) capable of making her own choices. 4- she's worried about you. Keep her in the loop about what you're doing throughout the night, i.e. a text every 2 hours to let her know what you're up to. This should be a compromise on your part and on hers. The pointers above stem from my personal experience with mum, who can be very, very controlling. If this doesn't apply, read the next part -- now for the cards--- 2 of coins, 3 of cups, the emperor, 9 of coins the cards are saying that you should move out. You will have an opportunity with your boyfriend come up pretty soon. This will give you the ability to grow as a person. Currently, all I see is misery, sadness and plans being cancelled. My question- will i exceed rn's expectations with my work? will she know it's me? IP: Logged |
cherful24 Knowflake Posts: 3819 From: chicago, il Registered: Mar 2012
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posted February 25, 2015 10:43 AM
I'm Sorry...not fun .... but I still see u moving. I think you'll have the option to leave within months actually... just do it. Don't listen to ur mom complain... u need to do this. I can feel the stress, burden left from u ....it will be one of the smartest things u do. after the first month of you moving out I don't think your mom is going to give you any issues anymore about the move ...yay! if you don't mind can I ask I'm going to San Diego today for a week, its a conference & a little vacation can you see how it will go ....anything stand out IP: Logged |
cherful24 Knowflake Posts: 3819 From: chicago, il Registered: Mar 2012
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posted February 25, 2015 10:44 AM
I'm Sorry...not fun .... but I still see u moving. I think you'll have the option to leave within months actually... just do it. Don't listen to ur mom complain... u need to do this. I can feel the stress, burden left from u ....it will be one of the smartest things u do. after the first month of you moving out I don't think your mom is going to give you any issues anymore about the move ...yay! if you don't mind can I ask I'm going to San Diego today for a week, its a conference & a little vacation can you see how it will go ....anything stand out IP: Logged |
Astro keen Knowflake Posts: 3150 From: UK Registered: Nov 2012
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posted February 25, 2015 03:36 PM
Hi Dani,I feel compelled to say that your first duty is to yourself. If staying at home is preventing you from fulfilling your purpose, then you must break away. I pulled an angel message for you: Shanti: the angel of Peace "You have been through turmoil, and your soul is tired. Your mind craves peace and quiet, and I am here to help you with that desire. I will give you new opportunities to spend time alone, where you can relax your mind and heart. I will bring tranquility to your soul so that you can mirror the peace of mind that is your true Divine nature. Like the angels, you are able to hover with the eye of any hurricanes that may swirl around you right now. Through breath and intention, you can stay centered no matter what's happening in your life. This inner foundation of peace has powerful healing effect. Your outer life soon reflects your inner peacefulness. Smooth roads are ahread for you, and the worst is behind you now. A peaceful outcome to this situation is assured." Good message . Edit: Ah, couldn't resist a question - I'll be meeting up with J soon. What will this meeting accomplish or how will it go? Thank you. IP: Logged |
MinceyMouse Knowflake Posts: 1694 From: Indonesia for now Registered: Jan 2014
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posted February 26, 2015 09:05 AM
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DaniPepper87 Moderator Posts: 3503 From: Curitiba, Brasil Registered: Sep 2013
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posted February 26, 2015 09:29 AM
Hi hi people!!Thanks a lot for all the readingsd, I'll start here after I finish the Lenormand thread ok?? Many thanks again!!! IP: Logged |
FairyDust75 Knowflake Posts: 1707 From: USA Registered: Dec 2013
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posted February 26, 2015 11:01 AM
Hi Dani,I can't offer any intuitive counsel for you,only some advice. I'm sure your mom loves you and worries for you. Try to make her feel more secure about you going out past 11 pm. I know at 27 yes, you are an adult and can come and go as you choose. Just try to check in with her to reassure you are you safe. Perhaps you can go with a friend to reassure her that you will be safe? I would sit and talk wit her about how you feel and try to set some guidelines between the two of you. Don't argue but try to get to the root of things. Keep communication open and gently remind her that you are an adult and wish to experience things more on your own. I think just trying to communicate with her may help. Good luck! IP: Logged |