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Topic: open minded exchange? its about going to a wake
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luckystar25 Knowflake Posts: 1107 From: boston mass Registered: Jan 2014
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posted February 25, 2015 04:50 PM
OK so I know that right thing to do would be to go to this wake today but I need a reading on if it would be a good idea or not ? The reason I say that is its this kids grandfather. I use to be best friends that kid/we had a thing for awhile also where it was love but he mentally abused me, had a lot of issues, like I tried helping him get sober he would be so depressed hed call me fat n ugly everyday. He went into the mental istituition(I honestly feel like something bad was with him, negative evil energy) he ended up beating the **** out of me and robbed me for no reason, this was 3 years ago but he stalked me for 2 years, and then randomly calls me on a private number.. All my friends are saying I should go..but I'd rather shut the door on that negativity and stuff...what should I do IP: Logged |
poochycat Knowflake Posts: 1102 From: Vancouver, Canada Registered: Jun 2013
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posted February 25, 2015 05:08 PM
Hi Lucky,I'm so sorry to hear of all of this. I had a similar situation when my mother died. Not a good relationship there. I went to her "celebration of life" after much soul searching. There was a sense of closing for me. My sister who gave the eulogy reminded myself and my siblings of the positive things about our mom even though there were only a few. Lots of tears were shed and it took awhile to see her in a positive light. I feel that if you are still feeling anger towards him, then yes you should go. What might help is to write him a letter. Tell him all your feelings then burn the letter afterwards. I did that. Going will bring a situation to a close for you. Take care. Poochy xx IP: Logged |
luckystar25 Knowflake Posts: 1107 From: boston mass Registered: Jan 2014
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posted February 25, 2015 09:19 PM
Thank you for the reading im not angry anymore I just am done with that part of my life, and it's like to this day he Wont accept it because he's not mentally all there. 2 years ago when he wouldn't stop calling me while he was instutituionalized again I answered and spoke to him, I said o forgive him, it's fine its in the past but he needs to let go and start new in his life... But he every so often continues..so I didn't go, I know if I went he would take that as an invitation to start harassing me again and because he's unstable I am scared so I stayed. Away IP: Logged |