posted April 18, 2015 08:56 AM            

I was in a changing room with other people preparing myself for some kind of event. I was wearing a short, leather, bright red dress without sleeves. I looked at my legs and saw black, flat shoes and pantyhose socks on my feet, something like this:

I thought it looked lame. I realized my dress was hardly covering my butt and I made it a little longer with my intention. Then I noticed that I had another pair of pantyhose socks on my feet, they were red. They turned out to be stockings, I unfolded them on my legs. For a moment I thought of wearing high heel shoes but then I thought to myself "no, I don't want to be taller than him" (we're the same height). I entered a hall full of people, it was some kind of party. The general attention seemed to be focused on me. I saw HIM in the crowd, he was staring at me. His presence agitated me and I stared back but I lost him quickly. A contest started and people were given titles, "best something". It was fast, blurry and I mostly felt that's what was going on. Out of the blue I was given a title, I think it was the 4th one and for "the best dress/outfit".

What do you think?

posted April 20, 2015 05:16 AM            

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and may not bring the best position

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posted April 20, 2015 01:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Aunt Anomalia:
Thank you but I wasn't barefoot at any point.

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You are welcome and that is exactly the point where you could start the connection in order to find the answer to your question and my opinion.

posted April 21, 2015 04:34 AM            

I don't know that this dream answers the question of why you are obsessed, but it does reflect your attraction to him.

The dream reflects your strong, base, "animal" desire (red leather) to reveal yourself to him, to attract his attention (very short dress/no sleeves), while also suggesting that you feel anxiety about trying to "fit it" (make dress longer/decide against high heels).

The adjustments you make to your outer appearance (clothing/height) could reflect adjustments you are considering making to your persona, perhaps unconsciously, that you think would increase your chances (contest) of getting his attention.

It would appear that you are confident in the presentation of your outer self (best dress/outfit), but may be unsure a about how aspects of your inner self are received (adjustments).

Does this make sense?

Perhaps the "why" can be answered in a future dream.

posted April 23, 2015 04:24 AM            

Keep asking why … the answer may yet come.

posted April 23, 2015 08:40 AM            

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Did you bend over to kiss him?

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2 nights ago he had a short gig in my dream show again. I was standing in front of my primary-middle school complex. I was facing the house on the other side of the street. The curtains in the window on the 1st floor moved and there he was. He just stood there and was staring at me with curiosity. He was wearing a t-shirt, the color was something between pink and red, maybe it was a very washed out red. He was around 10 years younger, like I was while being a student there. Seeing him surprised me and made me a little nervous. I wondered if he recognized me. I think he appeared in that window twice.

posted April 24, 2015 10:25 AM            

Does/did some specific aspect of yourself play an important role in the relationship with the ex? Some part of you which is heavily influenced by the past? Does this strike a chord?

posted April 25, 2015 01:46 PM            

So, my statements should have been …

This could tie some stuff together, but I'm not sure. The last dream you posted - the Crystal dream - was set in your elementary school, suggesting a possible connection with your past, with your early "programming". The previous dreams are about the obsession. This dream has elements of both.

Does some specific aspect of yourself play an important role in the pursuit of the obsession? Some part of you which is heavily influenced by the past? Do you need to become aware of, or heal some part of yourself, before any inroads can be made with the obsession?

I suppose I should ask first if it is even possible to pursue the obsession. Is this guy someone who exists in your daily life, or is he like a celebrity or something?