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Topic: The Virgo Man: Tell Me More
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ikja unregistered
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posted December 08, 2014 12:49 PM
How do you know when one is interested in you? Why do these men keep coming back?
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ail221 Moderator Posts: 7119 From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon Registered: Feb 2012
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posted December 08, 2014 02:08 PM
Mutable energy in general seems to just come back. Ex. One man I know has dated the same woman on and off for decades. Despite her marrying someone else, and having children someone else they just do. IP: Logged |
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posted December 08, 2014 05:45 PM
quote: Originally posted by ail221: Mutable energy in general seems to just come back. Ex. One man I know has dated the same woman on and off for decades. Despite her marrying someone else, and having children someone else they just do.
My ex is virgo. Surprise, surprise.. We've been on and off for the last 10 years. I just find understanding him so complicated. I don't get the inconsistency!!! IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014 unregistered
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posted December 08, 2014 06:32 PM
You know they are interested when they try to help you, serve you, be useful to you and then they become devoted to you But one placement alone cannot tell everything about a person. If an on and off relationship hurts you - and it hurts most people, no matter the placements, you should cut it dry, otherwise it destroys your self esteem, your self-confidence, your faith in love and people. It's not only the fault of the one doing the "deed", but also the one accepting it, there's always two players. I am sorry for your troubles. My Venus is in Virgo and I attract a lot of Virgo Marses in men. In my experience, at least the ones I know, are quite devoted and stable, they are not very much into casual. But in combination with other mutable or "kinkier" placements, they can be quite the players too, I suppose, since Virgo Mars is very practical and cunning. I'm not sure what the situation is here though...is he the player type? Where is his Moon? EDIT: sorry, I thought the question was about Virgo Mars, but it looks like you're talking Sun here lol I know a lot of Suns too. ------------------
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ikja unregistered
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posted December 10, 2014 02:43 AM
I understand what you mean that it takes two to be involved in a back and forth relationship. I definitely think we've both been the pursued and the chaser over the duration of our relationship.My main issue with him is consistency. He talks a very good game in terms of what he wants, but when it comes to showing and proving... I'm always left wondering 'is that it?'. He has made attempts to step up and serve me recently, but saying that he would like to come to my graduation and to my graduation celebration. I want him to come, but at the same time... I just wonder how long this is going to last for this time. He was outside my home again, and was telling me that he wanted a future with me still. Sent me a text to say, glad we were on track. We texted all day, but then, there times within the exchanges where he acts nonchalant. Is he the player type... No? I don't think so. He is a Virgo Sun, Virgo Rising, Leo Moon, Cancer Venus. What I've decided to do now is, avoid continuous conversation with him. To only talk to him when I actually have something interesting to say. That way, my expectations are managed! IP: Logged |
Koho Knowflake Posts: 634 From: New York Registered: Jun 2014
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posted December 10, 2014 03:17 AM
My best friend and my cousin who's like my brother are both Virgos.They're both fairly shy and have missed chances to date because people thought they weren't interested. My amigo tends to get wishy washy on girls too and I never understood why. You'd think I'd have a better answer on why considering two prominent guys in my life are very much Virgos. I'll ask them why they suck at letting girls know theyre interested :P IP: Logged |
charlie Knowflake Posts: 4888 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted December 10, 2014 05:12 AM
Virgo is analytical and very sensitive to details and when they see or hear things they don't like, detachment might occur to balance brain or to think. When that process is over Virgo might come back. I have a Virgo Asc, Mars and 4 Virgo planets + Asc in progressed chart. The SMALLEST thing can put me off a person Sometimes it takes me hours to get over it and other times I just can't look beyond it. I am SUPER analytical so unfortunately for people around me they will have no clue what occurs when I vanish or just stop liking someone. They will have the exact same amount of clues when or why I decide to come back. It's a mental process I cannot control. I will come back to someone only if it's in my best interest to do so but usually I only do it for sex. IP: Logged |
ikja unregistered
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posted December 14, 2014 11:31 AM
quote: Originally posted by charlie: Virgo is analytical and very sensitive to details and when they see or hear things they don't like, detachment might occur to balance brain or to think. When that process is over Virgo might come back. I have a Virgo Asc, Mars and 4 Virgo planets + Asc in progressed chart. The SMALLEST thing can put me off a person Sometimes it takes me hours to get over it and other times I just can't look beyond it. I am SUPER analytical so unfortunately for people around me they will have no clue what occurs when I vanish or just stop liking someone. They will have the exact same amount of clues when or why I decide to come back. It's a mental process I cannot control. I will come back to someone only if it's in my best interest to do so but usually I only do it for sex.
This is interesting to me. Do you make your intentions known to the person when they come back around, or is it an agenda that only you are aware of?
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posted December 14, 2014 11:33 AM
quote: Originally posted by Koho: My best friend and my cousin who's like my brother are both Virgos.They're both fairly shy and have missed chances to date because people thought they weren't interested. My amigo tends to get wishy washy on girls too and I never understood why. You'd think I'd have a better answer on why considering two prominent guys in my life are very much Virgos. I'll ask them why they suck at letting girls know theyre interested :P
Please let me know if you have managed to solve the mystery? lol
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charlie Knowflake Posts: 4888 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted December 14, 2014 02:53 PM
quote: Originally posted by ikja: This is interesting to me. Do you make your intentions known to the person when they come back around, or is it an agenda that only you are aware of?
It's an agenda only I know of. IP: Logged |
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posted December 14, 2014 07:03 PM
quote: Originally posted by charlie: It's an agenda only I know of.
How do you feel when someone gives you silent treatment?
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plutonian105 Knowflake Posts: 54 From: CA Registered: Nov 2014
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posted December 14, 2014 08:54 PM
I'm a Virgo sun. Not all Virgo's are like this but this is a very prominent trait you'll read about when studying Virgos. Virgo's are perfectionists at heart, the essence of perfection is to never make a mistake. EVER. To have even a single chance at aspiring to this it means painstakingly analyzing every option, every action and every possible reaction until you're blue in the face. Hence the coming and going, generally they leave because they have stumbled across some 'flaw' that they previously overlooked while analyzing/bonding with you...then they return because they discovered some hidden benefit that was either unknown or overlooked. This mercurial approach to affairs of the heart makes them inscrutable, generally nobody can read a Virgo, except another Virgo. Again, not all of them are like this, I have a very heavy Plutonian influence so my blood runs a little redder than your average Virgo but generally one way to try and clamp this skittishness is to encourage communication. Talk to your Virgo about your interest in astrology and tell him that Virgo's are known for this sort of thing...from there you should be able to finesse a response out of him. If this thread is still active I'm kind of curious to see how it turns out IP: Logged |
ikja unregistered
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posted December 14, 2014 09:10 PM
I've definitely suggested that he should be more communicative with me. However, I think that in the past, we have relied on text messages and I do not think that they help the way we communicate. So, I'm going to try and have a face to face sit down to find out what is going on with him. One thing I know about him, is that he HATES people being fake with him, however when I talk to him - he doesn't outwardly appear to process the information lol. With that said, I know that I have to be a better listener; and this comes with being ready to face the truth. Removing my emotions from the situation. I know what you're saying about him seeing new flaws etc. That he has never seen before and therefore, retreating to process these new revelations. There is a lot of stuff that he didn't know about me, that he now knows and we are trying to move forward from this point.I will definitely let you know. I'm hoping he responds to a face to face conversation. IP: Logged |
plutonian105 Knowflake Posts: 54 From: CA Registered: Nov 2014
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posted December 14, 2014 10:03 PM
Text messaging also alters communication, no tone of voice, no body language etc. so a lot can get lost in translation...but what you should also be aware of is that sometimes the skittishness and emotional reserve comes from the fear of our feelings. Depending on any other aspects he has in his chart he may have to fight harder to express his emotions IP: Logged |
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posted December 15, 2014 05:54 PM
He is a Virgo sun and a Virgo rising, making things twice as hard lol. I'm debating whether I should talk to him, or just show him how I feel about certain things. Coming to think of it, I don't think he actually likes talking lol IP: Logged |
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posted December 20, 2014 02:43 PM
quote: Originally posted by plutonian105: Text messaging also alters communication, no tone of voice, no body language etc. so a lot can get lost in translation...but what you should also be aware of is that sometimes the skittishness and emotional reserve comes from the fear of our feelings. Depending on any other aspects he has in his chart he may have to fight harder to express his emotions
Just found out that he has Moon square Pluto. The penny drops!!!!
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bluestskies88 Knowflake Posts: 693 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted December 30, 2019 01:38 PM
quote: Originally posted by plutonian105: Text messaging also alters communication, no tone of voice, no body language etc. so a lot can get lost in translation...but what you should also be aware of is that sometimes the skittishness and emotional reserve comes from the fear of our feelings. Depending on any other aspects he has in his chart he may have to fight harder to express his emotions
omg, i currently have a major crush on this virgo guy/co worker. he deff is skittish and acts weird around me. there was a time he literally ran away from me LOL. i also try to text him and break the ice and be friendly, and he would ignore my non work texts. sigh. i am about to give up on him lol also are virgo guy send subliminal messages? like not direct that they like you?
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GalacticCoreExplosion Knowflake Posts: 646 From: Somewhere Registered: Sep 2019
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posted December 30, 2019 07:27 PM
Did he put up a fight?IP: Logged |
bluestskies88 Knowflake Posts: 693 From: Registered: May 2011
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posted December 30, 2019 08:45 PM
quote: Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosion: Did he put up a fight?
what do you mean?
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GalacticCoreExplosion Knowflake Posts: 646 From: Somewhere Registered: Sep 2019
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posted December 30, 2019 08:57 PM
Sorry, was meant as a comedic line... Think Grease. Edit to add: Also, it was in response specifically to the title of the thread, "tell me more" (about a man). IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 8090 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted December 31, 2019 10:12 AM
quote: Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosion: Sorry, was meant as a comedic line... Think Grease. Edit to add: Also, it was in response specifically to the title of the thread, "tell me more" (about a man).
....coz it sounds like a drag
I am keeping mh distance from a Virgo Moon and Asc with Sun in Aqu.You say "cautious" , I say "exasperating". I was always "inappropriate" with him. I offended him a lot.Everything was analyzed right down to the marrow of the bone. Drove me nuts!! You are right about keeping your emotions in check.Its like they subconsciously "train you"to do it.As one can get very underwhelmed with these folks. You have your Moon in Aries with Asc in watery and emotional Scorpio? Good luck keeping all that Mars heat intact. Coz you'll have to. You may have have to learn to be as warm as a microwave oven
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GalacticCoreExplosion Knowflake Posts: 646 From: Somewhere Registered: Sep 2019
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posted December 31, 2019 11:17 AM
nm, don't want to derail the thread with my antics.IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 13202 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 31, 2019 12:39 PM
quote: Originally posted by GalacticCoreExplosion: Sorry, was meant as a comedic line... Think Grease. Edit to add: Also, it was in response specifically to the title of the thread, "tell me more" (about a man).
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