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Topic: venus in scorpio: do you tend not to forget, give up, let go?
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stopandstare
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Registered: May 2009
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posted December 19, 2009 03:57 AM
 
sorry for picking one sign and not relating it to an entire chart, but i have to ask due to my experience with so many venus in scorpios and i'm really curious.i get this trend that people with this placement (i have several male friends with this placement) that they have a hard time forgetting/letting go/giving up. both romantic and platonic male friends with this placement...i'm very amazed at how they don't give up or ever forget you. it's like you're chained for life. once you think oh they forgot about you, they do something to remind you that you're still chained for life. any venus in scorpio's want to confirm this or people with experience have similar trends? IP: Logged |
Predominantlyfire
Knowflake Posts: 33
From: Isle of Wight, U.K
Registered: Dec 2009
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posted December 19, 2009 04:43 AM
My sisters husband has this. Quite what he sees in my sister i'll never know, but he is incredibly loyal, and never gives up. I think the undying quality of someone's attachment who has Venus in Scorpio natally is both a blessing and a curse. I personally would love to find a girl with it as i've said. It would go well with my constancy and other qualities.
My sister has balooned in weight since their first child, is neurotic, mad, and a gibbering idiot. Yet he, handsome, succesful, and bold stays in love with her.
I think he needs to visit the opticians. IP: Logged |
Spanky Butler
Knowflake Posts: 322
From: In my lair stalking you on Google....
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 19, 2009 06:38 AM
Sadly yes to all 3.I have this placement. It is nigh impossible to walk away from the one you love but when we finally do it's forever & leaves a big load of scar tissue behind. It's an ouchy for sure. IP: Logged |
popcorn
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posted December 19, 2009 08:25 AM
My mother have venus in scorpio and moon in taurus. She is the only one I've meet who really love and hate people so visible. You feel it in the second you see her what she likes you. She can hate one person in 30 year and also love someone in the same time.
She also say it. Everyone know what she like about the people around her.IP: Logged |
seeker3030
Knowflake Posts: 9
From: UK
Registered: Dec 2009
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posted December 19, 2009 08:51 AM
Yep I have this placement and it can (if you let it) become a little 'obsessive' to say the least. I'm getting better at mastering that side of things as I get older, and managing to detach a bit more from the past and let go, but there's still work to be done. Speaking personally it's like being a flame and a connection (or let's be honest) attention from those connections is the oxygen that keeps the flame burning. It's a sort of inability to let connections die for fear you'll die with them in some strange way, speaking personally. That sounds so self obsessed and I suppose it is taken at face value, but then we're all the sum of all our parts and the other placements in our respective charts will negate/support it to varying degrees no doubt. I have a Libra sun, a Cappy Moon and a Cancerian asc so I'm pulled in several different directions daily haha! ;D Hope that helps to explain it a little? IP: Logged |
Predominantlyfire
Knowflake Posts: 33
From: Isle of Wight, U.K
Registered: Dec 2009
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posted December 19, 2009 08:52 AM
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You feel it in the second you see her what she likes you. She can hate one person in 30 year and also love someone in the same time.
She also say it. Everyone know what she like about the people around her.
I'm the same.IP: Logged |
Spanky Butler
Knowflake Posts: 322
From: In my lair stalking you on Google....
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 19, 2009 08:57 AM
DITTOWhat is weird is that I always get a confirmation in regards to my instinct about people. I never seek it out, someone will mention something in passing that confirms, always. I like that. Sometimes I think my mind may as well **** off if all I'm gonna do is listen to my instincts. Seriously. IP: Logged |
Astra
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posted December 19, 2009 11:20 AM
A former friend of mine had this placement and no matter how many times (50+ times) her boyfriend cheated on her, she stayed with him. She hated his guts, but it wasn't until he almost killed her, that she finally broke up with him. She then betrayed me, and had this weird obsession to destroy me. Kinda funny since I was loyal to her and she would've been on the streets if I hadn't taken her in. Neither one of us would back down, but in the end I completely wrecked her life and she backed off. Never mess with a Venus in Aries!This placement can make someone very obsessive, but again, it depends on the overall chart. Recently, I took the time to really think about all the people I know with this placement. I definitely retract the statement I made in another thread when I said venus in scorpios are no more loyal than any other sign. After thinking about it, I noticed (at least with the dozen people I know with this placement) that they are either extremely loyal and good people, or they are backstabbers and pathological liars. In my experience, it's rare when they are somewhere in the middle. IP: Logged |
Mannequin
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posted December 19, 2009 11:48 AM
it takes a while for me to forgive, but there will always be resentment, and never will there be a clean slate. i will never, ever forget though. letting go/giving up is extremely difficult too. i find it painful, it's literally like a part of me has been sold without my permission, and i will do and try anything to get it back. but coming to the realisation of it is torturous, like giving up your own child you so deeply love. it's a part of you, your soul, your mind, your heart, and knowing this is for the best makes it even more difficult. you know its for the best, but you don't want to face it, you don't want to lose control, you just want your own way. IP: Logged |
Astra
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posted December 19, 2009 01:11 PM
Mannequin,You said it all beautifully. IP: Logged |
stopandstare
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posted December 19, 2009 02:12 PM
thank you so much for everyone' replies i really appreciate it  i'm an extremely loyal person as well and i can see why people say cancer and scorpios go well together but i find scorpio's loyalty to be rather intense. a cancer's loyalty is nicer and more straightforward. a scorpio's loyalty is silent and hidden until it's unleashed in a strange intensity. i can't describe correctly what i'm trying to say i'm sorry! and in terms of never forgetting or letting go or giving up...this one guy just doesn't let go but i don't find it a bad thing necessarily. i guess i'm just really surprised when i find a man who doesn't let go or forgets. i think i'm someone who has a lot of staying power and never forgets anyone (i'm cancer with taurus mars), but i can detach myself and let go if i think the other person doesn't care anymore. i wouldn't acknowledge the person or attempt to keep the connection any further if that makes sense. i of course remember them and carry them with me, but i wouldn't maintain the connection. but i can go months without seeing this guy or even literally a year of just laying low and keeping to myself and then our paths will cross and it's like no time has passed. i keep waiting for the day when he'll forget who i am and it doesn't seem to happen. 2009 is coming to an end and it's still continuing. i'll ignore him or hide behind someone and just be blatantly cold towards him and it doesn't do anything to shake him off. it's as if he's recognized my pattern of behavior so he doesn't take it personally. this one guy has a scorpio stellium so maybe that's why (rising/mars/venus/uranus/north node). before i knew him i suspected him to be a scorpio. i feel like i have an invisible chain attached to him like mothers have on their little toddlers at the mall. my other friend is more protective, controlling, and needy in his loyalty towards me and how i should be loyal towards him. i can't really explain it either but i often kid how he acts like he's my parent though it may also have to do with him being 10 yrs older than me. IP: Logged |
hikoro
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 19, 2009 02:49 PM
I have venus in scorpio but....it seems it plays out a tad bit different from what some people posted. I don't know if this has to do with other aspects in my chart. I am loyal, intense and I strongly believe on making things work. However, I shall not tolerate dishonesty, disrespect or anything like that. Once you offend me, you are out of my life and I won't look back. I had exes asking me to be friends. My response: no. And I have had exes contacting me to see if there was still a chance. I did not respond back. They missed the boat. I won't let go as long as my intuition sees hope but I will not cling to a partner at all. Another thing also is that I don't give everything to you, it is not that I hold back but you need to prove you are worthy as a person before I give my all. Meanwhile, I will be observing you for a very long time. I am a good woman and before I get myself involved with soul, mind and body, I need to be sure that the person is a) worthy and b) that the relationship has high chances of succeeding. It has to be close to perfection. I just won't give my all to any human being that walks by. You have to earn my love. Oh, and in regards to love. I may be able to fall in love with you after careful analysis and thorough decision-making and of course, if the aspects a) and b) have been met. I can't fall in love or love someone right away. Why? I have no idea but it is sort of "the head comes first and the feelings later." IP: Logged |
popcorn
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Registered: Aug 2009
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posted December 19, 2009 03:26 PM
Hikoro. I have a friend who have the same aspect as my mother. Venus in scorpio and moon in taurus. She are so difference than my mother. She have neptun in conj her venus in scorpio. She feel and think deeply. Dont talk about the people she don't like as my mother do. Her behavior are soft. She leave people she not like but not at the same dramatic way as my mother do.. When she leave..she leave and after that its over...My mother and father divorced when my father was 70. She hate him in 10 year coldn't meet him. She talk angrily about him all the time. Now he is 80 and move in to the town not so far from my mother. She help him all the time. Both of them moved all his funiture in his small car. He be with her all the time and she help him. Everyone wonder what's happen. They looks like happy togheter and my mother in 72 blossom... I see venus in scorpio IP: Logged |
zoso
Knowflake Posts: 15
From: Reno, Nv
Registered: Nov 2009
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posted December 20, 2009 12:30 AM
I have Venus Scorp and Moon in Taurus and I find it very hard to let go. All my exes I've stayed friends with and the one Scorp who hated my guts after we broke up, well he refuses to speak to me. Doesn't stop me from trying every year or so, just to say hi. Ha, but he never lets the grudge go. Oh well  With this placement, I think Scorpio Venus is intense, and if other placements do not alter this, the persona can scare away others with the intensity. Luckily I am a Sag, so it makes the Venus a little less scary. IP: Logged |
BeholdAstarte
Knowflake Posts: 10
From: las vegas, nevada, USA
Registered: Dec 2009
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posted December 20, 2009 01:55 AM
i can relate a lot. i have a hard time letting go. its a pain. idk about keeping in chains part but i tend to have a lot of come and goes with relationships. meet a lot of people but when it only really comes to being associates i just eventually not even bother to say hello or talk because it just didnt work out. but actually.. with people im really really close with i can see where the chain feeling can come in. my venus is conjunct pluto and there both in the 7th house conjuncting the descendent. i seem to put off a lot of people.. theres some sort of attract and repel thing goin on.. IP: Logged |
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