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Topic: Ms. Intense vs Mr. Laid Back
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glamgem25
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posted February 27, 2010 10:27 PM
 
This relationship has always had good friendship but I get so passionate about things and become intense/need to have control of everyday life and he could care less. His head is always in the clouds doesnt let much bother him. I've heard opposites attract but we butt heads ALOT!! Any advice on our chart, the length of the relationship? What we are suppose to learn from one another, ect? Thanks!  
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glamgem25
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posted February 27, 2010 10:28 PM
I'm on the inside...IP: Logged |
glamgem25
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posted February 27, 2010 11:55 PM
would love IQ to comment!!!  IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted February 28, 2010 12:00 AM
Composite ASC/DSC rulers opposed?  IP: Logged |
glamgem25
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posted February 28, 2010 12:26 AM
What does that mean? LOL don't leave me hanging!!IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted February 28, 2010 01:05 AM
Just as a quick lookthrough,
I see the head butting in composite mars h8 opposed uranus h2, uranus being in the house of values so it may feel like thats the mismatch and it triggers outbursts.
But his jupiter is conj composite sun, his sun conj composite merc its not as if he's not giving to the relationship. it looks like astrowise anyway you have a lot of high standards for him and are not coming from the same place as him, but dont misunderstand cos it looks like his calm waters run deep with all his h8 action. i like the moon conj moon but in composite its rattled. the composite mars is conj his mercury so he feels a bit overwhelmed by that overreaction too.
The composite asc/dsc rulers opposed, and sun identity to neptune and its on the mc/ic line. that points to your wondering how to identify that relationship. the composite sun is on your mc so youre pushing for it because there's something about it that empowers you and makes you feel like someone important, it's in his h9 conj like i said his jupiter so he's hopeful too. but the sun neptune opposition says that facts are being ignored in favor of a romantic dream. is the issue with his laid back nature something more, is there some issue that you think he's not facing that brings about outbursts, and is the calm posture a refuge from reality for him? that could be the make-or-break issue in this relationship.IP: Logged |
glamgem25
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posted February 28, 2010 11:12 AM
Lonake-most of what you said, you hit it on the head. I think my expectations of him are just to grow up. He is 4 yrs older than me...when he's passionate about something HE wants, he gives 110% but in everyday life, paying bills, priorities...then he could give a flip. I understand a little how he feels, if there was someone there to take care of everything for me too, I would probably be the same way but just meet me half way. It's always been this way though...I feel like it's more of a parent/child relationship! IP: Logged |
glamgem25
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posted February 28, 2010 02:47 PM
I also think he will avoid confrontation at all costs...instead of working it out, talking about it..he'd rather just ignore it! IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted February 28, 2010 07:36 PM
Unfortunately sounds like a break.IP: Logged |
glamgem25
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posted February 28, 2010 08:44 PM
Lonake-What do you mean by a break? To get out of it? I obviously don't want it to get stagnant where it never goes anywhere...like I said, the friendship is good but anything deeper gets us fighting. IP: Logged |
Lara
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posted February 28, 2010 08:53 PM
So break up then If you are good as friends as crap as partners! IP: Logged |
glamgem25
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posted February 28, 2010 09:52 PM
Wow Lara, wish it was just that easy!! LOL 11 years together and a child...IP: Logged |
Lonake
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posted February 28, 2010 11:19 PM
I added what I thought would help, in terms of interpretation. It seemed clear to me that the last post here was not meant to tell you what to do with your relationship, as "sounds like..." is not equal to a command. It was my response to your situation, which is similar to Lara's. Although honestly your beginning post seemed to be related to a romance that had not been enmeshed for 12 or so yrs. Having that in mind, obviously some people are not and probably never will be oriented to practical home matters. In light of that, you take the good with the bad in marriage, until the bad overwhelms the good. Then you mutually work to save it or get out, IMO. But then I'm one of those people that wouldn't stick around with too much BS since I know there are others who I would be happier with, my Sun/Uranus is quick to jump in/out, it's a low-threshold influence. IP: Logged |
glamgem25
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posted March 01, 2010 12:38 AM
Thanks Lonake...I didn't think you were telling me what to do. I appreciate your suggestions. I do not like to tell too much to see what comes out of just looking at our charts....I don't like alot of influences. IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
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posted March 01, 2010 01:35 AM
By your decription I would venture a guess that you're a first born, and he is not. First borns are intense and driven. Middle and youngest children typically aren't.By the charts I would guess that he's merely more subtle than you. He's got Pluto in the 1st, and a packed 8th house. He may not be interested in broadcasting what he's about to the general public. You, on the other hand, have three planets in the 10th, which may indicate a more obvious career drive. You also have that Saturn/Jupiter conjunction in the first. I'm not sure sure what the cookbook might say about that, but it could mean an abundance of discipline. IP: Logged |
glamgem25
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posted March 01, 2010 12:28 PM
Acoustic....we are both first borns but the rest sounds alot like us! Thanks for your input as well. IP: Logged |
iQ
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posted March 02, 2010 03:22 AM
The composite looked very familiar, I dont see too many Sun trine Pluto's exact.I have already commented on this:
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The composite has one of the greatest positive Karmic Aspects. Sun exact trine Pluto. It has Jupiter in 11th, a lucky placement. There is a huge Past Life connection, hence you see Saturn and NNode in Composite 12th House, with Chiron in 8th exactly trining North Node. Healing of Wounds in a positive way is a major theme.
Composite 9th House Sun, Venus and Mercury is very happy placement. Foreign travel and growth in wisdom are some of the Jovian gifts to the couple. The negatives are
1. Saturn weakly square Venus-Mercury. Immature men will feel this weak square.
2. Uranus weak conjunct Moon. Immature ladies will feel this one.
3. Neptune oppose Sun. This is not weak, and any couple can feel this effect. All these 3 are nothing compared to an exact Sun trine Pluto. So I would rate this composite a 7.5/10, [just like the previous one I think...]
=========================================== Much of the above makes sense, considering being together for 11 years, plus having a child. What do you mean about going deeper? Has he stopped being adventurous in sex? Has he stopped romantic gifts/gestures and stopped surpise "grab from behind and kisses in the neck" just not wanting to let go of you? Transit Uranus is in Composite 7th. This almost always initiates a break up. A relationship counsellor can help him woo you like the first year of knowing each other. The boy is a typical 1977 batch fellow, my "Chironite" batch with Saturn in Leo. Afraid of being heroic, afraid of spontaneous romance.
In these times of impending Consciousness Shifts on Earth, this batch is going to be more "head in the clouds" until they find their core spiritual purpose. He may be getting intense dreams and he may be feeling detached from the current state of affairs in the world. It is not possible that he dislikes you or wants to separate etc. You must make him open up about his inner thoughts and feelings to secure the relationship [if that is what you truly want].
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glamgem25
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posted March 02, 2010 10:28 AM
Oh you did, that's right....thanks for the extra comments IQ. IP: Logged |
glamgem25
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posted March 02, 2010 10:35 AM
IQ: To answer your questions....he is very hard to talk to about his inner thoughts unless he's been drinking. Then he's an open book LOL.....I guess what I mean by deeper is my aspects make me alot more intense when it comes to a romantic relationship and I feel like he could have the same conversations with a total stranger...he doesn't share that part of him that only I should see/hear. I don't know if he feels like I would judge him or what? But forever is a long time to live not sharing your soul/heart with someone!!IP: Logged |
iQ
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posted March 02, 2010 01:13 PM
It is a 1977 thing Glamgem.
I must have shared 10% of my life/thoughts/experiences to my beloved wife, 0.5% to siblings and best friends. This with an Aries Ascendant and Mercury in Gemini. You can imagine the case of other 1977 borns.
[I dont touch alcohol though ]Why are we 1977ers like this? I suspect it is a Chiron thing, hiding too much for the sake of hiding past life wounds created/felt. IP: Logged |
glamgem25
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posted March 02, 2010 01:23 PM
Hmmm well thats just sad!! LOL I'm an open book...I tell everything..just wanted it to be mutual!  IP: Logged |
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