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Topic: Do Capricorns "Test" You Before They Ask You Out?
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JoJo
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posted July 04, 2011 11:48 PM
  
I have the funniest story about this Capricorn man I met a couple days ago.  I was at the local watering hole listening to my friend's band play last Friday night, and met a Capricorn man. We hung out all night and had great conversation. So as the evening goes on, he doesn't want to dance so I'm dancing near my friends and right where we were sitting by the bar. I'd sort of dance away and he'd grab my waist to pull me back by him so I'd dance there a few, then dance away again. He was pretty affectionate, holding my hands and rubbing my shoulders between songs (It was super hot in there I thought it was gross that I was sweaty from dancing, but he didn't seemed bothered by it a bit). Anyway, as the night got later, he tried to get me to take off with him but I refused, so when said he was leaving, my reaction was basically "see ya" (we'd already exchanged numbers - him giving me his first), and I kept dancing. About 15 minutes later, I saw him walk by out of the corner of my eye and grabbed his arm. He seemed happy that I acknowledged him and when I asked him if he came back for the beer or me, he promptly said me. LOL As the night starts to wind down, he gave me a couple sweet little kisses on the mouth (no tongue, thank you very much because that would have been a huge turn off for me in public like that), then tries to get me to take off with him again. Once again I told him no, and he sorta smirks and calls me a bar tease. I replied that I'm not a bar tease, I just don't do bar hook ups so if he wants to see me again then he'll have to take me out on a proper date. He didn't really respond to that, but said he was going home so we both said goodnight. I didn't want him to think there were any hard feelings, so I send him a text telling him it was nice meeting him and all that. We chit chatted for a few, then he asks me what my favorite restaurant is so I tell him. Then he asks what I was doing on a specific day and time, and when I told him nothing, he responds with "good, it's a date." The other thing he said was that if he would have been in town on the 4th, he would have taken me to see the fireworks (I was going to go by myself since everyone else had plans). I told him that I am totally okay with doing things by myself but I found the thought that he'd take me to see the fireworks very sweet nevertheless. I find it refreshing and interesting that he seems to make declarative statements as opposed to asking me if he could take me somewhere as most men do. I've never been asked out in such a direct manner, and to be honest, it's kinda hot. LOL The funny thing is that it almost felt like him trying to get me to take off with him was some sort of test that I would have failed if I did (like I wouldn't have been worthy of him had we left together). I also picked up on an energy from him that was a little reserved, not conservative per se, but more like he was coiled and ready for action - it was as if he had a great deal of energy that he held in check, like a cat getting ready to spring. It was actually a cool vibe, if that makes any sense. So today I got curious and looked up his chart. Interesting that he's a Cappy sun and moon (I'm a Pisces with a Cappy moon). He's an Aqua Venus and a Scorpio Mars (I'm an Aries Venus with a Scorpio Mars). Since I have never met any Cappy's before, can anyone give a little more insight? I assume he likes me since he was affectionate and asked me out, but was my instinct that I was being "tested" correct or did I completely misread that scenario?
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Lioness
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posted July 05, 2011 12:06 AM
I only dated one Cap.. He's my daughter's dad.. He TOLD me we are going out.. Ill pick you up at such and such time... Be ready.. At the end of the date.. He said hey BTW.. your my girl now.. So dont cheat on me!!
 All I have to say for my self, was Hey give me a break I was young!! Ive noticed the Cap Mars is very demanding like that with me also... I met an Aqua with a Cap mars.. He demanded a relationship.. Even before I went out with him...
I never went out with him, and I never gave him any relationship..
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JoJo
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posted July 05, 2011 12:11 AM
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Originally posted by Lioness:
I only dated one Cap.. He's my daughter's dad.. He TOLD me we are going out.. Ill pick you up at such and such time... Be ready.. At the end of the date.. He said hey BTW.. your my girl now.. So dont cheat on me!!
All I have to say for my self, was Hey give me a break I was young!! Ive noticed the Cap Mars is very demanding like that with me also... I met an Aqua with a Cap mars.. He demanded a relationship.. Even before I went out with him...
I never went out with him, and I never gave him any relationship..
I learned the first time
Yes, Lioness - he did tell me we were going out. The only questions he asked were about my favorite restaurant and if I was free that night and time. But the actual asking me out on a date part was instead telling me we had a date. LOL Did your Cappy test you too? IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted July 05, 2011 12:24 AM
Idk... Im sorry... It was sooo long ago... I mentally blocked him from my mind... lol
I dont remember much about him..My daughter is 19 now.. so it was like 23 years ago.. IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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From: philadelphia,pa
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posted July 05, 2011 01:45 AM
Cappies will test you before,during & after...lol. what will seem the most insignificant to you can be deal breakers for them. I go through it with my cappy & vice versa (I'm a cap). IP: Logged |
JoJo
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posted July 05, 2011 03:48 PM
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Originally posted by cappy1277:
Cappies will test you before,during & after...lol. what will seem the most insignificant to you can be deal breakers for them. I go through it with my cappy & vice versa (I'm a cap).
In that case, it's good to know that my radar wasn't off. LOL Any advice on how to deal with Cappy's? IP: Logged |
cappy1277
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posted July 05, 2011 03:55 PM
My advice? Don't question it, just roll with it & enjoy. IP: Logged |
frankie2912
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posted July 05, 2011 05:01 PM
Yeah, I'd say we kinda test you , but psychologically. I'm a Cap sun and I'm kinda sneaky about how I word things to make sure the guy really likes me or not because I even waste my time.IP: Logged |
L0veLess
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From: Midgard
Registered: Feb 2011
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posted July 06, 2011 02:04 AM
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Originally posted by frankie2912:
Yeah, I'd say we kinda test you , but psychologically. I'm a Cap sun and I'm kinda sneaky about how I word things to make sure the guy really likes me or not because I even waste my time.
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cupcakes
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Registered: Mar 2011
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posted July 06, 2011 04:10 AM
Yes, we do. We test the waters to make sure you like us. We like to be pursued because if we chase you, it's less likely to be stable. If you like us more, then we have control or the upper hand. I feel it's more stable that way. I always want to see how out of a guy would go for me. If a guy shows strong sexual interest, I assume that's all he wants. In a relationship or when dating someone, I've grown to accept that people flirt and will slightly okay with it (Influence of a Sagittarius Venus) but I want to make sure that I'm their primary interest. We will slyly question you about stability. What your views are, how you were in past relationships, how you handle problems, what you're looking for. If you seem like a solid foundation, you're in the clear. IP: Logged |
Coffee
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 06, 2011 07:41 AM
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Originally posted by cappy1277:
Cappies will test you before,during & after...lol. what will seem the most insignificant to you can be deal breakers for them. I go through it with my cappy & vice versa (I'm a cap).
Yes, so will every other sign. IP: Logged |
JoJo
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posted July 06, 2011 09:42 AM
Okay so I blew that one. He's not a Cappy. I mixed up his birthday with someone else in our group. Oops.Turns out he's a Sagittarius with a Scorpio venus and pisces mars. LOL We went out last night and had a great time. We will definitely see each other again. Yay! LOL
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Ami Anne
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posted July 06, 2011 09:46 AM
I have not read the whole thread Jo.
I think any Cap values deep things in people. They are THE most caring of a person's basic character.
They hate anything cheap be it people or goods lol
WHEN you actually earn the trust of a Cap, you have the best friend you could ever have though,imo.------------------
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carl
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 06, 2011 12:19 PM
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Originally posted by Lioness:
Ive noticed the Cap Mars is very demanding like that with me also...
I have that placement. Personally, I don't play games. None of that "hard to get" BS. I am straightforward about what I want or desire. I am polite and even sweet about it, but why beat around the bush? Lay it out on the table. Trust me, you will appreciate that behavior someday, knowing where you stand with people like that right away. Chases are fun but at some point, directness allows something to happen, or, the person to move on. IP: Logged |
carl
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posted July 06, 2011 12:26 PM
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Originally posted by cupcakes:
In a relationship or when dating someone, I've grown to accept that people flirt and will slightly okay with it (Influence of a Sagittarius Venus)
I'm sag venus (and mercury and in general, strong Jupiter throughout my chart) and I gotta say, when in a relationship or past the first few dates, that is not cool. I think it is totally disrespectful in fact. Wanna flirt? Go be single then. I am an interesting guy, and versatile in how I flirt. Flirting with one person should be enough to keep interests high otherwise, they just are not suitable partners. Flirting with others just signals disrespect and/or boredom, really. IP: Logged |
starfox
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Registered: Aug 2010
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posted July 06, 2011 07:01 PM
(Capricorn sun)I don't test - I live in hope ..   IP: Logged |
Lioness
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posted July 06, 2011 07:07 PM
quote:
Originally posted by carl:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Lioness:
Ive noticed the Cap Mars is very demanding like that with me also...
I have that placement. Personally, I don't play games. None of that "hard to get" BS. I am straightforward about what I want or desire. I am polite and even sweet about it, but why beat around the bush? Lay it out on the table. Trust me, you will appreciate that behavior someday, knowing where you stand with people like that right away. Chases are fun but at some point, directness allows something to happen, or, the person to move on. [/QUOTE] I do appreciate directness.. I like to know where I stand... No confusion..
But what I meant (at least towards me) has been more demanding...
I have been told You WILL be my GF..
That I dont like... I prefer to just let things happen naturally... Ive been going back and fourth with a Aqua with a Cap Merc,Mars.. (both on my NN) and OMG I cant stand it!!
He's so demanding.. totally sends me running, the other direction.. I would rather him say something like..
I want things to work out with us, lets give it a shot and see where it goes..
Instead of you WILL be my GF..
My response is I WILL??? Good luck with that one!.. IP: Logged |
cupcakes
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From: USA
Registered: Mar 2011
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posted July 07, 2011 03:32 AM
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Originally posted by carl:
I'm sag venus (and mercury and in general, strong Jupiter throughout my chart) and I gotta say, when in a relationship or past the first few dates, that is not cool. I think it is totally disrespectful in fact. Wanna flirt? Go be single then. I am an interesting guy, and versatile in how I flirt. Flirting with one person should be enough to keep interests high otherwise, they just are not suitable partners. Flirting with others just signals disrespect and/or boredom, really.
The way I look at it, the person I'm dating will be good looking/charming/smart and will have qualities that attract other people. If they get approached, I don't mind conversation as long as no contact and physical touching is exchanged. Otherwise, it's a no in my book as well. IP: Logged |
carl
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posted July 07, 2011 03:14 PM
Okay, I am sorry cupcakes. I got you. I guess flirting is subjective but I had in my mind touching, etc. while failing to think of verbal. Yah, I can get where you are coming from. I think as long as there is no sexual innuendo and/or the other person being led on or given false signals, that is cool. But I assume if the person has a high social intelligence, and is approachable, they would kind of know instinctively where the line is between harmless fun and more seductive flirting - the second being not cool. IP: Logged |
woah cakes
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posted July 07, 2011 03:42 PM
sweet cupcakes and carl! i'm a sag venus and i feel the same. we need to put those pesky rumors to rest about sag venii being promiscuous flirts! i do think, though, we are super friendly and excitable so our behaviour can come across as really flirty and give the wrong impression. IP: Logged |
carl
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posted July 07, 2011 05:41 PM
Once I am in a relationship, I am locked down and loyal. I mean, it is different if you are single. But even then, I prefer to wait and see and look for that one special girl to chase (aries moon maybe).IP: Logged |
HappyCap
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posted July 07, 2011 07:40 PM
interesting thread lol. i myself am a sag venus and as much as i like flirting, it's mainly focused on one target. and it's not like i will frivolously flirt with every cute girl in the area.i'm kind of shy so i like to "feel" a person out before actually asking them out. it's not my intention to put on any tests. i do sorta declare dates or hanging out because i'm just direct like that, but when i don't get a response i tend to think "maybe she wasn't all that interested if she can't even text me back, maybe i misjudged everything, i better back off before i get hurt, or look ridiculous going for a girl who has no interest in me." and just quit pursuing that particular person because like they say, there's plenty of fish in the sea. yes, caps are persistent, but only when they know they are going to get results. ------------------
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