posted August 01, 2011 03:08 AM            

I researched side effects of abuse...and many females either get super clingy, or have walls.

And I definetly was the kind that had a wall around me for a while.

I would say about two years ago was when I really came to terms with what happened.

posted August 01, 2011 03:16 AM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
Thats interesting Ami. I was almost molested by a family member when I was in my early teens. Even though I wasn't, the inapropriate guesture this relative made...really messed me up.

I researched side effects of abuse...and many females either get super clingy, or have walls.

And I definetly was the kind that had a wall around me for a while.

I would say about two years ago was when I really came to terms with what happened.

I definetly don't have a wall around me anymore, but I would say that I just have my guard up now...and can even let my guard down sometimes.

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posted August 01, 2011 07:53 PM            

Well honestly people in my family knew my Grandpa was sleazy and perv-y. I know some old people get that way with old age...but from what it sounds like...he was of bad character before he became old, way before I was born.

He was an orphan. (I guess his dad died from alcohol overdose)

Well eventually my Grandma found out that my grandpa had another set of family somewhere else.

He was psychically abusive to my Grandma.

He hit on all my Grandma's sisters...No wonder my Great Aunt didn't like him or get along with him well.

He groped my oldest cousin's boob once

one time he kissed my other cousin a little too long...and her older sisters just knew something wasn't right about that.

and then one day he had me sit on his lap,(I was small and underdeveloped for my age) and that's when his hand moved up my skirt. even though he didn't touch my privates,(since I immediately stood up and got off his lap) that is still violating, and really messed up.
I told my mom and grandma immediately. When I went up stairs.

I later found out that Grandma went down stairs and smacked him up side the head, when I left. (yeay, about time)

And when he had to be put in a retirement home, he was caught with one of the old lady's with her blouse off. Poor old lady was kind of not all the way there due to being old. I'm pretty sure that got him kicked out of the retirement home for that and then spent his last year in a nursing home.

See this is what happens when family's try to act like everything is fine when they aren't. The problems don't go away...that wont stop that one family member. I decided to forgive my family for being ignorant, and not knowing how to deal with people like my Grandpa, and continue to let bad things happen to other people.
People where not as educated on this disturbing topic in the old days...but lets just say my mom at least realizes she's an idiot now for being insensitive when I was dealing with the trauma of that. And now my mom knows better not to bring it up at all...or else I'll verbally tear her apart.