posted January 08, 2012 05:21 PM            

i can resort to being pushy and slightly aggressive when i cannot get my way. some people have told me that i must try to be more understanding and patient towards them or things but i have absolutely no idea how to do that. when i want something, i want it now, it's hard for me to accept "no" in these circumstances, "no" doesn't make sense to me. if i continue i know that this will ruin a lot of prospects for me in the future. including relationships. i don't hear the word 'no' i cannot grasp that concept it makes absolutely no sense to me. when someone tells me 'no' i get confused and my instinct is to be more pushy. i really want to stop. im not always like this but im like this in relationships. in other words how can i stop acting like a spoiled baby when i can't get my way?

what is the secret to being a patient or understanding person? why do other signs have a better time being understanding? for example most of my taurus friends are very patient people and i envy them for it.

here is my chart

posted January 08, 2012 05:27 PM            

The first step is acknowledging a problem. This is a strength of yours.

You can change your lack of patience if you feel this is necessary for your growth. Not because somebody else has this virtue called patience.

posted January 08, 2012 05:42 PM            

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Originally posted by RedScorp:
All the Aquarius I know are pushy and aggressive when they don't get their way. I find Cancer can make someone assertive (though not really aggressive).

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posted January 08, 2012 05:53 PM            

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Originally posted by Capriquarius:
Your Sun is in Aquarius, a my-way-or-the-highway sign as far as ideals go, and it's in your House of unconscious so you at least are in touch with your weak spot (i.e. source of undoing)....you "light up" that part of you that is your own worst enemy and are able to own up to it. This is something you may take for granted but costs others years and $$$$ in therapy.

The first step is acknowledging a problem. This is a strength of yours.

You can change your lack of patience if you feel this is necessary for your growth. Not because somebody else has this virtue called patience.

Xoxo

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I want to change but its so difficult. Its like I am attacking my self in some way. I only find my determination is a problem when I don't accept that other people have other things/agendas etc. I feel I always know whats best, and when someone doesn't agree I blow up. Not tantrum style, but I get really hyper lots of energy and that's all towards how I can persuade them because there's just absolutely no way someone can NOT agree with my way. Thats a problem because it's immature, is it not?

posted January 08, 2012 06:07 PM            

The air is mental and wants a darn good reason for being told no. Then it`s worked out.
They may hit the highway yet may understand the why it`s no.

posted January 08, 2012 06:11 PM            

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Originally posted by juniperb:
An Aquarian is more apt to question the no rather that hit the highway response.

The air is mental and wants a darn good reason for being told no. Then it`s worked out.
They may hit the highway yet may understand the why it`s no.

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posted January 09, 2012 10:20 PM            

The Law must be shared among others with righteous ideals, rather they vibrate with us or not.

It`s that simple. Make mental space for another to have ideals and hold steady to them. It does NOT take away from you but rather enhances the richness of what an ideal is and can become with a shared effort.

posted January 09, 2012 10:27 PM            

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Originally posted by juniperb:
Note to self aka other Aquarians, God didn`t die and make our ideals the Divine Law.

The Law must be shared among others with righteous ideals, rather they vibrate with us or not.

It`s that simple. Make mental space for another to have ideals and hold steady to them. It does NOT take away from you but rather enhances the richness of what an ideal is and can become with a shared effort.

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posted January 13, 2012 05:43 PM            

The impatience is due to mars retro opp uranus...

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Mars and Uranus excites to competition and arouses others to challenge you. You're demanding and authoritative. You thrive on argument, even when you aren't serious about it. Because of these assertive leanings, you can make an excellent salesperson, but you may have some problems with human relations. You don't tolerate restrictions of your freedom and mobility, needing to be constantly on the move. You may be attracted to hazardous activities such as flying, racing, exploring, or mountain climbing. Because you are accident prone, these and other similar pastimes are not recommended. You must be careful and take safety precautions. Avoid desires to throw caution to the winds, because you need not prove yourself in these ways. You may not be an easy person to live with because of periodic outbursts of temper and sometimes cantankerous attitude. A revolutionary, you are likely to oppose tradition with its limits on individuality. You want your way, and can be critical of any authority.

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What you will find is that as you age, approx 25 you sun will progress into pisces for next 30years and your Asc and Mc will progress. This is the 'maturing process' that we all have to go through

You should also researched your packed 12th house
Uranus in l2th House – cadent house
Strengthens your intuition psychic abilities and clairvoyance to a high degree. You will have a great desire to help your fellow man. You may join secret organisations and interested in yoga meditation etc. Bring inventions down to earth. May suffer health-wise if you don't use its energies! Good position for researchers or those who work behind the scenes.Person apt to be a loner. Tremendous desire to feel free but often feels confined.Self-control a necessity for they can be their own worst enemy. In dealing with people and situations this person must use persuasion and not force.An internal stress possibly subconscious impulsive and desire to escape or run away from the mundane conditions.

Neptune in l2th House – cadent house
Intuitive link with the unconscious mind. Strong mystical ¬religious tendencies. Much spiritual depth and wisdom. Guard against mental confusion. Have inner faith (Jupiter rules the sign of faith) and knowledge that things will turn out all right. Leap of faith. Behind the scenes, great potential for service. Place of isolations such as Hospitals, prison, laboratories. Sailors at sea. Could be secret drinker, or other addictions that are kept secret.

your Jupiter is apex for common T Square..
T Square http://www.drstandley.com/astrologycharts_tsquare.shtml
“Two planets in opposition squared to a third. The tension typical of the opposition aspect is aggravated by additional problems introduced by the third planet. Often an obstructive feature blocking the normal flow of behaviour of the person. Person needs to develop activities represented by the "missing" arm of the T-square to achieve wholeness” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Natal_astrology#Aspect_patterns http://www.skyscript.co.uk/aspects2.html

“The t-square is exactly like the above configuration except that one of the signs is missing. Time and again this is described as trying to sit in a chair with three legs. Ironically, the individual becomes the fourth leg by acting out the traits which are missing in the chart.” http://www.skyviewzone.com/astrology/moreaspects2.htm

posted January 13, 2012 09:43 PM            

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I will be frank, this is a core belief of mine: I am the center of the universe, therefore I should be the center of your universe so when someone tells me "no" or "im busy" i become enraged and in comes the pushiness/aggressiveness/unbendable determination... when I set my sights on something i cannot change it, it HAS to happen and it WILL happen I become relentless. Im not proud of it.

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Because subconsiously I am telling that person, "Nope. I do not respect YOUR boundaries. I do not respect YOU and YOUR own needs. You must do everything I say/want to do. No? No such thing as No. You'll say yes eventually and ill make sure of it." Lol. Thats how I am.

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Hahahahahaha!!! Sorry, I'm not trying to laugh at you. It's just that you sound EXACTLY like my Scorpio friend. EXACTLY. He hasn't said it in those terms, but that is exactly what he does. Luckily for me, I realize what he's doing (to myself and other people) and I don't let him run all over me, whereas I've seen many many other people let him run all over them.

Luckily for YOU, you understand this facet of your nature (I'm not entirely sure my Scorpio friend does). What's interesting to me, is that I am pretty much the exact opposite of him, in terms of I respect other people and their boundaries so extremely that I don't understand how anyone can think that they are the center of the universe ever, so he is difficult for me to empathize with sometimes.

As far as patience in relationship goes- a lot of it really has to do with some sort of FAITH and TRUST in the other person. Knowing that they care about you enough to want to return your phone call/invitation at some point. Knowing that you yourself are worthy of love and care and therefore even if said person DOESN'T want to be with you, that has no effect on your own self esteem- they simply aren't for you. That's the best way I can describe it. I know there are more components, but I'll have to think about it some and get back to you.

posted January 16, 2012 02:46 PM            

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Originally posted by carl:
My aries in moon will tell you it is my aries moon that makes me NOT nearly as patient as most other people. My aries moon hates my aries moon.

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