posted August 28, 2013 04:50 PM
This may not be an issue in your natal chart. It may be in your Synastry.It seems to me that you have been conditioned, by your parents, to be your own woman. And are now goal driven. There is nothing wrong with this. You may be feeling a little off track because you are not working. This is alright too.
However, someone giving you money, when you may feel like you have not "earned" it and getting a green light to enjoy it goes against the grain of being self-contained. You do not feel as though you are contributing to the unit, so how can you think in terms of "We" when it is, financially speaking, all in the other person's corner?
A lot of men, who's girlfriends or wives earn more than them go through this concept problem too.
You ask what's in the natal. Nataly speaking, you can adapt. But, your Synastry union has to play a supporting roll.
You have to look for these aspects in your Synastry Aspects:
Squares, in either direction, to the S, MR, SA, P and or, Asc.. These are influences that affect your self-worth and tend to generate competition between you. The more of these you have the greater the possibility that you may not settle into a team sprite.
Next, look for the favorable aspects, in either direction, made to M, VE, JP, SA and or NP. These influences promote es-corp-d-spre (a team of one - the "We" in you.) The more of these influences you see the greater the possibility you have of becoming a team.
Pluto is a generational planet, meaning it may have a presences all of its own. Loyalty influences surround P regardless of the aspects it is associated with, so carefully examine what exist.
Whatever your conclusion becomes, you should be able to at least understand if the "We" needs to be an issue at all. You can always be a team without using the word "We".
I suggest, that you get both natal charts ( not Syanstry) and use them to load the Synastry Aspecting Charts to do your investigating. The Synastry Aspecting Charts will provide you with a clearer picture of the aspect influences you need to consider.
There may be an easier way to read and understand complicated Synastry pie chart aspects. Pie chart aspects can also be produced onto a basic Synastry Aspect Chart, a color coded chart. Review the sample chart at your leisure. It may help you gain even more insight than you currently have.
http://risingpeople.wix.com/synastry-aspecting
http://risingpeople.wix.com/synastry-aspecting#!in-the-closet-astro-tools/c1s43
Once you have it loaded, your aspects will be in the following formation. You can then apply some questions.
Here is an example:
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/008126.html
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