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Topic: obsession and stalking
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lovehate122
Knowflake Posts: 507
From: Ireland
Registered: Apr 2012
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posted December 09, 2014 11:08 PM
  
I have a "stalker" lol not really , he is just a very angry ex . The funny thing is hes not even my ex . He just bashes me to people all the time , talks about me to everyone , tries to find stuff out about me , he even told one of my friends im the only girl he would hit , he tells people we were together ....we weren't , he used to call me crying and tell me he was depressed , hed call me s/xt for being with guys I knew before I knew him , he writes about me onfacebook after we were at the same party on halloween he changed his profile picture to a picture of "our baby" it wasnt a real baby it was a toy one but thats still crazy and one time i threw a party and he texted everyone looking to go to it . IM SICK OF HIM ! I slept with this dude once , then I was ignoring him and he started calling and texting me everyday crying and he kept talking about suicide he even went to a suicide talk and now he just has to do or say something everytime i see him , i just wish he would get over it , im not attracted to him at all ! I feel a little sorry for him . Anyways he is a libra with a Cancer rising
my moon and rising fall in this 8th house and we have venus square pluto where I am the pluto , he seems to be obsessed with the thought of me still liking him even though I never did . My question is , is it me ? Him? Or us?
Whats causing this? Is it his own personal aspects or our synastry?
We have lots of moon and mars aspects and venus and mars , but I dont understand how you can be fixated with someone this much for 2 years
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Odette
Moderator Posts: 4855
From:
Registered: May 2012
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posted December 09, 2014 11:15 PM
It could be him... It could be depression.. It could be BPD.. It could be his chart. It's definitely not you or your synastry.
Do you want to put up his chart? Does he have an afflicted Moon?I think the best thing to do would be to tell him that you are not interested romantically and at that point - stop all contact. IP: Logged |
lovehate122
Knowflake Posts: 507
From: Ireland
Registered: Apr 2012
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posted December 09, 2014 11:32 PM
We have no contact , I dont talk to him at all .
I cant put up his chart because my phone wont let me copy and paste :/ His moon is in Gemini I think abd some of his aspects are
Sun square jupiter
Sun opposite saturn
Moon square mercury
Mercury trine Neptune
Neptune opposite ascendant IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 5653
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted December 09, 2014 11:36 PM
He sounds dangerous. In an obsession that long going (especially when you have a "zero contact" policy which I'm assuming you don't break, not even for pity or to express your anger) I'd get a restraining order...and either deputies and/or maybe a couple real big guys or so to deliver an ultimatum and menacing warning next time he tried anything.Beyond idle curiosity I wouldn't even care what his chart is. That's not normal behavior for any sign, or at least those that lean that way can normally keep it from becoming so extreme. It sounds to me like he needs psychiatric help...or to be locked up anyway. IP: Logged |
lovehate122
Knowflake Posts: 507
From: Ireland
Registered: Apr 2012
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posted December 09, 2014 11:44 PM
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
He sounds dangerous. In an obsession that long going (especially when you have a "zero contact" policy which I'm assuming you don't break, not even for pity or to express your anger) I'd get a restraining order...and either deputies and/or maybe a couple real big guys or so to deliver an ultimatum and menacing warning next time he tried anything.Beyond idle curiosity I wouldn't even care what his chart is. That's not normal behavior for any sign, or at least those that lean that way can normally keep it from becoming so extreme. It sounds to me like he needs psychiatric help...or to be locked up anyway.
Sometimes I do get angry but I never show him , I remember I couldnt even have a party without worrying about him showing up because he kept saying he would and he found out where it was somehow . IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 5653
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted December 09, 2014 11:54 PM
If he shows up where you live then have him charged with criminal trespass or get family and friends to remove him. If you go somewhere else ask if they'll do that for you. He doesn't sound like anyone who would be popular, just tolerated out of pity. And pity will only go so far before people get sick of it.Restraining orders can be good, especially if he's publicly stating on the internet that he's going to see you. I don't know how that works in Ireland, however. (But fair warning, restraining orders have been known to escalate the sitch, though here in the US at least a restraining order makes violent self-defense a lot less likely to result in prosecution unless there's some reason to think the system was being gamed to commit murder or other laws had been broken in the process.) IP: Logged |
lovehate122
Knowflake Posts: 507
From: Ireland
Registered: Apr 2012
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posted December 10, 2014 12:03 AM
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
If he shows up where you live then have him charged with criminal trespass or get family and friends to remove him. If you go somewhere else ask if they'll do that for you. He doesn't sound like anyone who would be popular, just tolerated out of pity. And pity will only go so far before people get sick of it.Restraining orders can be good, especially if he's publicly stating on the internet that he's going to see you. I don't know how that works in Ireland, however. (But fair warning, restraining orders have been known to escalate the sitch, though here in the US at least a restraining order makes violent self-defense a lot less likely to result in prosecution unless there's some reason to think the system was being gamed to commit murder or other laws had been broken in the process.)
Your absolutely right about him not being the most popular person around , If he ever attempted to hit me I would defiantly call the police straight away but thats pretty much all you can do here  Hes said to me and other people that he would but I think that was just to show how deeply he hates me or something but if he ever laid a hand on me , he would regret it .
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