posted June 08, 2015 01:46 PM            

I am a virgo male and my new girlfriend is a gemini woman. We have lots of things in common, and our communication is great in person when I have her attention.

However, whenever she is at a distance (and she lives about 500miles away from me, so it is long distance for now), it is nearly impossible to get a hold of her or have her show any type of feeling over the phone or text messages.

As a virgo, I find that my life is rather list like, and I hate the "unknown" aspect that comes with this relationship. She is my girlfriend, so I know we have that "commitment", yet, she almost never picks up the phone when I call, never calls back, goes to sleep without saying goodnight, will read text messages without responding to them, and so on.

Me, on the other hand, am the opposite. I always pick up when she calls, I always am thinking about her and make it a priority in my day to ask her how she is doing, saying goodmorning and goodnight. The few experimental nights which I have said "hmm, lets see what she does" -- she's just gone to bed. Cold as ice.

She is the type who wakes up and updates all of her social media, but wont say "good morning" to me. Me, on the other hand, think about her night and day, and put her ahead of anything and everything.

Now, I have not expressed any of my concerns to her. I know Gemini women tend to be independent and do not like to feel "pressured" at all. Instead, I've dug down deep inside and have been able to deal with my issues on my own.

What I've found is that sadly, the less attention I give her, the more attention I get back. I'm sure this rule applies to many signs and relationships. However, I am no longer 19 and dont like playing these "games." I'm looking for stability and I somehow managed to fall in love with a Gemini woman.

I dont want to have to keep playing these games but it seems like it works best with her. I have to purposely avoid her phonecalls and messages so she misses me and keeps following up. Im also afraid that sooner or later, she'll just say "hes not interested anyway, Im done"

Im curious as to your recommendations and viewpoints.

posted June 08, 2015 02:21 PM            

What are both your Moon signs?

Also, do you know the placement of your Asc and hers?

posted June 08, 2015 03:45 PM            

Unfortunately, I do not know her (or my own) time of birth. Perhaps I can give a call to the old lady and ask. But it may be a bit of an odd question to ask the GF.

posted June 09, 2015 01:29 AM            

All you need is the date of birth as well as place.

The only time that it may get complicated is when you are born on the day that you the moon changes signs.

Then you will have to read both Moon signs to see which you identify with best.

The Asc is slightly more complicated to get without birth time.

posted June 09, 2015 02:15 AM            

Honestly? My response would be, stop being so available to her. Gemini women tend to take people for granted. I'm not saying be mean, but try and make her work for you too. We like excitement and at times the thrill of the chase.

For the fact that she agreed to commit to you, you've won half of the battle. Just remember this and try to take it easy with her. You haven't lost her, you just need to keep it exciting for her - unpredictable lol.

I don't necessary need this kind of dynamic now that I'm older, but I do like to shake things up abit lol. If I find conversations becoming stale or routine, I'll pull back abit x

You would do well to type in Gemini women in love on Google - Good luck.

If all of that fails, I would say... Just talk to her. If you want your relationship to be comfortable for you too you owe it to yourself to be honest. I would say just talk to her in person and state your concerns, but just don't come across too clingy. Tell her you want certain things and then leave it with her and pull back abit. Make her miss you abit, and that will be the thrill. She'll be back!

posted June 12, 2015 10:39 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Well for the Moon sign,you only have to enter
12 Noon on the birth chart to find your Moon sign as well as hers.

All you need is the date of birth as well as place.

The only time that it may get complicated is when you are born on the day that you the moon changes signs.

Then you will have to read both Moon signs to see which you identify with best.

The Asc is slightly more complicated to get without birth time.

But with Sun/Moon and other placements, its a big advantage than not having ANY information at all.

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posted June 12, 2015 02:14 PM            

It works fine as he has my attention when he is around - but honestly - when he is not around it is a case of "out of sight, out of mind." We contact each other if there is something important happening or we want to arrange stuff, but I hardly ever contact him for pointless small talk.

I find it just trite and annoying to say the same boring "how are you?" and "have a nice day" over and over again, and I don't really care what anyone had for dinner last night.

I dislike being interrupted from what I am actually doing when it is done for no apparent reason, and this is how I feel about calls/texts that have nothing really to say.

I do realize that many people feel it is important to touch base by phone or text to check "how each other are doing" in between seeing them, but honestly, for me this takes unnatural effort. I squirm and fidget and hope they don't warble on for too long 'cos I got stuff to do. When I do initiate contact of this kind, it is pretty much always to stop someone getting upset with me than because I want to do it.

My Virgo husband has had some difficulty in understanding my lack of interest in this type of communication, I must admit. I suppose it could be because Virgo's like to micro-manage whereas Gemini's have a particular aversion towards being micro-managed.

posted June 12, 2015 02:59 PM            

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Originally posted by Decisions:
My moon sign is Gemini and hers appears to be Leo

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Well with this information at hand, you now know what it takes to pacify she and you. And what each of you do as your "knee jerk" reactions.

You have your Moon in Gemini- Constantly needing to express yourself and take your immediate environment in.

You can go off on a tangent ; discussing everything from football to politics.And you love the mutual exchange of the "other" who is there to catch your drift.

This is what makes you feel secure;talking. This is how you express your nurturing from a base place i.e you share a lot verbally.

She on the other hand is not so much a person whom is inspired verbally, but one who tends to love to be in the "mix" of things.

Leo is not so much intellectually inclined, but more of a person whom shines most distinctly when in the company of others.

You both are playful and entertaining. And this bonds you two.

But Leo Moon is unlikely to wander off into intellectual banter about everything the immediate environment presents to him/her.

Instead,they tend to preserve their energy and may even be withdrawn at times.

Maybe your need to talk all the time(Gemini),disturbs her need to center herself(Leo).

I think it would be wise to give her space and let her have her time to "gather" from time to time. As your Gemini moon cam have you become quite demanding Mr Virgo.