posted November 16, 2019 11:06 AM            

im also dealing with a lot of change within my home after a break up (it was a long term relationship we lived together for 14 years but hadnt gotten married, thankfully, so there's a lot to deal with) and trying to get my ex to both get her things and give me space (lot of dramatic **** there) so that's been a lot too because i was with her almost 15 years and ive known her for 21

so it was really just half my life getting sort of torn apart, and while i'm actually grateful it happened when it did (we were talking about kids and **** so if it happened just a couple years later i probably wouldve been dealing with 10x more ******** ) and im fine with the break up itself (her mental health issues have gotten worse the past couple of years and all of her bad qualities became amplified and her good ones became diminished to a point where she's unrecognizeable as the person i used to know), but there's a lot of stress there because she's making things difficult and i have to walk on eggshells to avoid all the spite and revenge which is making a cleaner break hard

it feels a lot like she's trying to keep me as a backup plan in case what she's currently doing gets ****** up

the moving stuff is part of wanting that cleaner break and to get away, so yeah guess i'll see and let you know because ive heard that about pluto and saturn as well and i also have the transits to my natal in addition to the solar return stuff

ive already been through some major changes in my life to begin with and there's a lot going on that make it seem like that's just going to keep being a thing

posted November 17, 2019 06:53 AM            

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
i have saturn on the ic and pluto in the 4th house of my solar return chart, havent moved but there's a possibility i will before my next birthday (transit wise i have pluto on my ic natal and saturn heading to my ic once it's done squaring my venus/ascendant and moon/descendant, and this is after it finished conjuncting my mars) because of some recent ****

im also dealing with a lot of change within my home after a break up (it was a long term relationship we lived together for 14 years but hadnt gotten married, thankfully, so there's a lot to deal with) and trying to get my ex to both get her things and give me space (lot of dramatic **** there) so that's been a lot too because i was with her almost 15 years and ive known her for 21

so it was really just half my life getting sort of torn apart, and while i'm actually grateful it happened when it did (we were talking about kids and **** so if it happened just a couple years later i probably wouldve been dealing with 10x more ******** ) and im fine with the break up itself (her mental health issues have gotten worse the past couple of years and all of her bad qualities became amplified and her good ones became diminished to a point where she's unrecognizeable as the person i used to know), but there's a lot of stress there because she's making things difficult and i have to walk on eggshells to avoid all the spite and revenge which is making a cleaner break hard

it feels a lot like she's trying to keep me as a backup plan in case what she's currently doing gets ****** up

the moving stuff is part of wanting that cleaner break and to get away, so yeah guess i'll see and let you know because ive heard that about pluto and saturn as well and i also have the transits to my natal in addition to the solar return stuff

ive already been through some major changes in my life to begin with and there's a lot going on that make it seem like that's just going to keep being a thing

edit: btw the break up was the beginning of july (around the eclipses and mercury retrograde) my birthday is at the end of august so that was a bit before my solar return

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posted November 17, 2019 08:42 AM            

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Originally posted by dribaby:
Wow! Sorry to hear about all the craziness you're enduring at the moment but it makes sense that you would be going thru an Saturn and Pluto transit to your 4th house. You domestic life is going thru a huge transformation so by the end of it, there should be many changes!

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it's cool, **** happens, life goes on

it'd be nice if she made it easier but then she wouldnt be her and in a way that makes the break up itself pretty ******* easy

my health issues are more of a concern currently, that's all been pretty **** but i'll live im sure and if not well i wont have any complaints then right? lol

pluto is currently squaring my natal north and south node too (got sn on the ic solar return btw) so im sure that's adding to the fun

a lot of my **** is going through big transits with saturn and pluto like i said theres all those squares too (natal not just solar return) and already theres a lot of changes theres no going back from

guess i'll be seeing what more of those look like soon enough

posted November 17, 2019 03:12 PM            

Look for the transits as they move through the houses of your birth chart. Those are the ones that matter.

http://kannonmcafee.wordpress.com/2019/09/14/the-solar-return/