posted January 05, 2017 01:26 AM            

Okay, so.. I've got a bunch of these folks in my life. They're the squishiest cuddly-bears. Seriously, best hugs ever.

Anyway, I got some questions for ya'll. (Whether you have it, or have known someone with it.)

Q# I've seen two types of anger - the more immediate "snapping" and the sulking.. Which is more serious? Would you prefer to be left alone for a while or rather have the other person reach out?

Q# How do you relate to someone who needs a little downtime every now n then? Is there a good way to get that across to Crabmoons?

Q# How long do you persevere if rebuffed a few times?

Q# Do you "fish" for reactions? i.e. say things to see if the other person cares? (For instance, one guy would tease me with someone I had *once* praised, and would not let it go until I reassured him that he was the only one I liked).

Q# MEN - Do you sometimes act a little too macho? Some guys project it and some own it. The ones that project become the macho guy, the strict parent..etc.(?)

Q# Have you known any/Are you a Virgo Sun/ Cancer moon OR Scorpio Sun/Cancer moon? There was a thread on this in the past, and I can't find it. But any extra info is welcome.

Q# INTUITION - Pisces moons have intuition about the future, Scorp moons can dig into your past. Cancer moons seem to have this operative intuition about the *present*. Like, they get a flash of intuition about *you*, the person. Or something about you, in the moment. Have you seen this happen?

posted January 05, 2017 06:25 PM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:
Heya..

Okay, so.. I've got a bunch of these folks in my life. They're the squishiest cuddly-bears. Seriously, best hugs ever.

Anyway, I got some questions for ya'll. (Whether you have it, or have known someone with it.)

Q# I've seen two types of anger - the more immediate "snapping" and the sulking.. Which is more serious? Would you prefer to be left alone for a while or rather have the other person reach out?

Q# How do you relate to someone who needs a little downtime every now n then? Is there a good way to get that across to Crabmoons?

Q# How long do you persevere if rebuffed a few times?

Q# Do you "fish" for reactions? i.e. say things to see if the other person cares? (For instance, one guy would tease me with someone I had *once* praised, and would not let it go until I reassured him that he was the only one I liked).

Q# MEN - Do you sometimes act a little too macho? Some guys project it and some own it. The ones that project become the macho guy, the strict parent..etc.(?)

Q# Have you known any/Are you a Virgo Sun/ Cancer moon OR Scorpio Sun/Cancer moon? There was a thread on this in the past, and I can't find it. But any extra info is welcome.

Q# INTUITION - Pisces moons have intuition about the future, Scorp moons can dig into your past. Cancer moons seem to have this operative intuition about the *present*. Like, they get a flash of intuition about *you*, the person. Or something about you, in the moment. Have you seen this happen?

Thanks in advance..
(Insight on any or all welcome)

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Eww - on the anger they both kind of stink. If they snap it's a pretty safe bet that there will be a grudge associated with it. Unless they --really-- love you.

Not sure if you need the down time or they do (?) - My oldest, best friend and boyfriend all have cancer moon but with fire or air suns so me getting my alone time isn't a big deal because they all need distance, too.

I haven't noticed any fishing for praise - that might be someone with more leo?

As far as my boyfriend (and ex husband, also cancer moon) - definitely no on the macho thing. Again, maybe there is leo somewhere in there?

posted January 05, 2017 07:28 PM            

Q# I've seen two types of anger - the more immediate "snapping" and the sulking.. Which is more serious? Would you prefer to be left alone for a while or rather have the other person reach out?

They're both really bad--if the Cancer Moon shows anger instead of protecting himself by hiding it, you've hurt or insulted him or her. If someone has wounded me and my way, way, way oversensitive Moon, and I care about that person, it's best for them to gently and consistently reach out, multiple times, to let me know they care. (If I don't care about the person, this is annoying and won't help. Especially in a romantic context--if someone I'm not madly in love with hurts or offends me, they usually won't get another chance. But if I'm really into them, they need to keep trying.)

Q# How do you relate to someone who needs a little downtime every now n then? Is there a good way to get that across to Crabmoons?

Most of us need a lot of downtime very regularly. We just don't like YOU to want time away from us, unless we're incredibly mature and evolved and our chart is more independent or harmonious or whatever. Just schedule your downtime at the same time as our downtime. If you need unscheduled time away from us or just suddenly need a little break, relief from being in a wet, crabby emotional vicegrip, then set it up sandwiched in reassuring invitations and promises of tons of closeness---"I'm feeling really crabby/tired and want to hang out all alone at my place tonight---then can I spend the next three nights over at your place, cooking rich meals for you and spending all day every day watching movies together?"

Q# How long do you persevere if rebuffed a few times?

If i'm not that invested, I don't get to a "few" rebuffs--if I'm really into someone, I'll keep at it until I get exactly what I want.

Q# Do you "fish" for reactions? i.e. say things to see if the other person cares? (For instance, one guy would tease me with someone I had *once* praised, and would not let it go until I reassured him that he was the only one I liked).

I used to do that ALL the time in my teens/early twenties. Now I don't, but I still love it when people I care about give me heartfelt praise and reassurance.

Q# Have you known any/Are you a Virgo Sun/ Cancer moon OR Scorpio Sun/Cancer moon? There was a thread on this in the past, and I can't find it. But any extra info is welcome.

I have a close female friend who's Virgo Sun/Cancer Moon--she's kind, very sensitive, definitely very focused on emotional connection.

Q# INTUITION - Pisces moons have intuition about the future, Scorp moons can dig into your past. Cancer moons seem to have this operative intuition about the *present*. Like, they get a flash of intuition about *you*, the person. Or something about you, in the moment. Have you seen this happen?

I think most Cancer Moons are very invested in other people's emotional states. So they pick up on those things, because they care.

posted January 05, 2017 07:50 PM            

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Q# How do you relate to someone who needs a little downtime every now n then? Is there a good way to get that across to Crabmoons?

Most of us need a lot of downtime very regularly. We just don't like YOU to want time away from us, unless we're incredibly mature and evolved and our chart is more independent or harmonious or whatever. Just schedule your downtime at the same time as our downtime. If you need unscheduled time away from us or just suddenly need a little break, relief from being in a wet, crabby emotional vicegrip, then set it up sandwiched in reassuring invitations and promises of tons of closeness---"I'm feeling really crabby/tired and want to hang out all alone at my place tonight---then can I spend the next three nights over at your place, cooking rich meals for you and spending all day every day watching movies together?"

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I see what you mean.
About the intuition - yeah, they pick up on weird personality traits (that they haven't even seen yet). It's pretty cool.

posted January 06, 2017 01:43 AM            

1) For me personally, snapping is worse than sulking. I generally hold whatever I feel inside so I don't disrupt the balance of things, so you'd know I'm real mad when I snap. This may be due to my Libra mars, though. Sulking for me is actually more of a way for me to get what I want (childish, I know lol) rather than a form of anger. I like for the other person to reach out even though I say I want to be left alone.

2) I'm not sure what you mean by downtime, but if we're talking about alone time, I usually let the person be. I know sometimes we all just need to be left alone to ourselves to rejuvenate, so I don't take it personally when someone doesn't want to be around me for a bit. The best way to get through to a Cancer moon is completely call us out for hiding what we truly feel. If you can sense we're feeling a certain way, let us know that you know and that you're gonna be there if we needed you.

3) I don't generally waste time on something I don't perceive as achievable, so I wouldn't say I persevere enough. It's something I'm working on though.

4) HAHA YES! I kept teasing my boyfriend about one of his friends out of pure insecurity until he got mad at me the one time. When he got mad, he wouldn't talk to me for 20 minutes, so I sulked and then he felt bad and reassured me I was the only girl he loves. It's really bad tbh.

5) I'm not a Virgo or Scorpio in any way and I don't know any that have Cancer moon, but I am pretty Virgo-influenced. Not sure what info you're asking for though.

posted January 06, 2017 02:16 AM            

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Q# INTUITION - Pisces moons have intuition about the future, Scorp moons can dig into your past. Cancer moons seem to have this operative intuition about the *present*. Like, they get a flash of intuition about *you*, the person. Or something about you, in the moment. Have you seen this happen?

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This hasn't been my experience, though I have known Pisces moons with unusual psychic abilities. And I wanted to point out if their intuition was that good then they wouldn't need a lot of reassurance or test their partners or fish for reactions, unless intuition is being defined as mundane people reading skills (body language, etc).

The one I know with a Cancer moon doesn't sulk. But then she has a Sag sun and Scorpio Mars (and also a 8H Cappie merc) and I've seen this in how she both expresses herself and how she resolves conflict (one time I wanted to say "check and mate" to the other person she just overwhelmed by a complex strategy that even I wasn't aware of until she made her play that nipped something in the bud fast). She's also less affectionate than I am, generally speaking (not to be mistaken for devoid of affection, and she does have her moments), and yet there is no doubt that she cares. And while I am more openly affectionate, she is more sentimental.

posted January 06, 2017 06:36 AM            

2) it's okay if the time they chose to act alone meets the time of mine. i have feelings of wanting to be close and together and if that somebody is acting on their down time, then it's just sad. if it's a boyfriend and doesn't tell about this shutting time, it instills insecurities. those just come and go. crabs got used to it.

3) i'm stubborn. but if i really doubt my confidence and abilities then one time rejection is surely enough. until i stand up and get my dignity back.

4) yes. i have to be sure whether to go on full speed or to keep my tongue and actions tied. so i could first show disdain just to get sure if other person responds. and if i see the slightest disagreement either in their face or voice tone, then i just feel more comfrotable expressing that i care. LATER on. that's crazy...surprises me a bit

5) i know cancer moon with a strong virgo emphasis. she is hella indirect. when we started having fights she would bring all fault to me and then throw the dusts of her jacket and walk away silently, meaning i'm left alone with that **** she did for me explaining it was my own. and a lot of insecurities. she is good at hiding it, but i can see she just isn't using her full potential. she had leo sun, so that could brought her those pride issues.. anyway, virgo with cancer combination doesn't want to talk about what bothers you, gets hurt easily, stings sharp, because feels insecure - runs away from you. on the other side, very caring, always kinda in service, easy to get along with, great conversationalist.

5) i don't know about my intuition. maybe you're right. i feel it most on people right at that moment. some insights, wheteher they're good ones or hiding something. or lying. lies i see. but for that real deep knowing i'd say scorps. and for going with the flow and therefore catching the best opportunities for themselves pisces are masters.

posted January 06, 2017 11:02 AM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
This hasn't been my experience, though I have known Pisces moons with unusual psychic abilities. And I wanted to point out if their intuition was that good then they wouldn't need a lot of reassurance or test their partners or fish for reactions, unless intuition is being defined as mundane people reading skills (body language, etc).

The one I know with a Cancer moon doesn't sulk. But then she has a Sag sun and Scorpio Mars (and also a 8H Cappie merc) and I've seen this in how she both expresses herself and how she resolves conflict (one time I wanted to say "check and mate" to the other person she just overwhelmed by a complex strategy that even I wasn't aware of until she made her play that nipped something in the bud fast). She's also less affectionate than I am, generally speaking (not to be mistaken for devoid of affection, and she does have her moments), and yet there is no doubt that she cares. And while I am more openly affectionate, she is more sentimental.

But she does live up to the Cancer moon (and general water moon) stereotype in that she remembers feelings (her own and others) more than actual words or events. I've also learned to make all gifts sentimental in nature...and not to neglect special occasion gifts or other means to show I remember (and care in a sentimental way).

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Well, the reassurance has to do with how the other person feels about *them*, not them as a person..
For instance, they'll immediately know I read certain kinds of books - (Scorpio moons will know why) - but that doesn't clue them into my feelings about *them*. Plus, they are naturally a little shy and insecure. So even if they do get some positive "signals" they sometimes tend to doubt them. Hence the "fishing". "Does she mean it? Does she really mean it? Does she really really mean it?"

posted January 06, 2017 11:04 AM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:
^Thanks a lot, everyone!

Their brand of intuition, that I've seen ~ seems to be about personality traits, likes/dislikes, or relationship with someone else. Little flashes of recognition like that. With no info to go on..

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I've seen this.

Maybe you're right about Pisces moons and the future...

posted January 06, 2017 11:05 AM            

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4) HAHA YES! I kept teasing my boyfriend about one of his friends out of pure insecurity until he got mad at me the one time. When he got mad, he wouldn't talk to me for 20 minutes, so I sulked and then he felt bad and reassured me I was the only girl he loves. It's really bad tbh.

6) I'm not sure if I can actually "read" people, but usually, when I first meet someone, I can get a general idea of what they're like. It's scary how many times I've been accurate, but I have. I also have this thing where I suddenly feel horrible about a person or a situation, and I tell myself I'm just overthinking, but suddenly that bad feeling turns into reality. This is how no one can truly lie to me if they tried. If they did, I'd eventually find out. My gut seems to be always right.

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Thanks for your input!
Yeah, I can see this in my friends too. Plus, they can sense the little white lies - though they're more interested in making you feel safe enough to open up, rather than just confront..

posted January 06, 2017 11:07 AM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
I've seen this.

Maybe you're right about Pisces moons and the future...

Taking both together, it would explain some of the troubles I've had with Cancer moons in the past, where they might see things as "this is how it is" (cardinal) and I see it as "this is its trajectory" (mutable).

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posted January 06, 2017 05:17 PM            

So, I'll give it a shot...

Q# I've seen two types of anger - the more immediate "snapping" and the sulking.. Which is more serious? Would you prefer to be left alone for a while or rather have the other person reach out?

I started writing that "I usually don't snap", but then i realised that wait a minute, it happened a lot of time. Especially in the past, when I was more unaware of my emotional side, more disconnected from myself, more in denial about my sensitivity. So I just used to let it consume me and then I exploded. But it was ALWAYS controlled, maybe because of my Pluto aspects.
But snapping is always serious. In my case.
Most of the time I want the other person to reach out but I learned that it doesn't happen usually, and I realised that it's maybe better, I need to process my emotions alone. Though emotional validation is golden. Of course if someone is violent or not respecting boundaries then don't stay.

Q# How do you relate to someone who needs a little downtime every now n then? Is there a good way to get that across to Crabmoons?

In this I am maybe atypical because I am the one who usually needs a lot of downtime. I think that would be typical for Virgo Sun/ Cancer Moon combination though, to need lots of time alone. Lots. But yeah, I used to be very needy too and codependent, but that was when I didn't respect my own boundaries either.

Q# How long do you persevere if rebuffed a few times?

Depends on the situation. Usually I give up if it's about a person, like if I want to be with someone and the other one gives me signs that not interested, I'm not gonna try. But not sure I understood the Q.

Q# Do you "fish" for reactions? i.e. say things to see if the other person cares? (For instance, one guy would tease me with someone I had *once* praised, and would not let it go until I reassured him that he was the only one I liked).

I used to do this too...Horrible self torture and it doesn't help with self esteem issues. Hopefully I've grown out of this

Q# Have you known any/Are you a Virgo Sun/ Cancer moon OR Scorpio Sun/Cancer moon? There was a thread on this in the past, and I can't find it. But any extra info is welcome.

So, as stated above I'm exhibit A. Also, my mother is Scorpio Sun/Cancer Moon

Q# INTUITION - Pisces moons have intuition about the future, Scorp moons can dig into your past. Cancer moons seem to have this operative intuition about the *present*. Like, they get a flash of intuition about *you*, the person. Or something about you, in the moment. Have you seen this happen?

It's hard for me to pin down my intuition, I'm having different "types" I think, sometimes even those related to the future. Mostly I'm feeling the energy around me, and have a tendency towards sponging my environment, people's emotions especially. Usually feel it in my body. My intuition is a bit unclear to me yet but I'm working on it. What is hard is to not get lost in the other person's emotional environment and take it over.

posted January 06, 2017 11:10 PM            

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Hi. I'm Virgo Sun/ Cancer Moon. Funny you mentioning that you know a few having this combination, I thought we were going extinct.

So, I'll give it a shot...

Q# I've seen two types of anger - the more immediate "snapping" and the sulking.. Which is more serious? Would you prefer to be left alone for a while or rather have the other person reach out?

I started writing that "I usually don't snap", but then i realised that wait a minute, it happened a lot of time. Especially in the past, when I was more unaware of my emotional side, more disconnected from myself, more in denial about my sensitivity. So I just used to let it consume me and then I exploded. But it was ALWAYS controlled, maybe because of my Pluto aspects.
But snapping is always serious. In my case.
Most of the time I want the other person to reach out but I learned that it doesn't happen usually, and I realised that it's maybe better, I need to process my emotions alone. Though emotional validation is golden. Of course if someone is violent or not respecting boundaries then don't stay.

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posted January 07, 2017 09:39 PM            

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ETA: About Virgo sun/Cancer moon & Scorp Sun/Cancer moon : I'd like any kind of info, really. I know a couple of Virgo/Cancers, and I wonder what other people's experiences have been. Just the one Scorp/Cancer - would also like to trade notes about this.

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posted January 08, 2017 10:09 AM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:
Heya..

Okay, so.. I've got a bunch of these folks in my life. They're the squishiest cuddly-bears. Seriously, best hugs ever.

Anyway,I got some questions for ya'll. (Whether you have it, or have known someone with it.)

Q# I've seen two types of anger - the more immediate "snapping" and the sulking.. Which is more serious? Would you prefer to be left alone for a while or rather have the other person reach out?

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I snap when irritated by someone whom is relentless in their being insensitive to my feelings. I can even go as far as shouting and getting physically violent

I sulk when someone whom I didn't expect, says something hurtful about me. Because I could not have anticipated it,I don't have a defense and me sulking is a way of processing what the intent behind that remark was.

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Originally posted by Elysia:
Q# How do you relate to someone who needs a little downtime every now and then? Is there a good way to get that across to Crabmoons?

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I am the one who needs a little downtown now and then. But I also get there are crabmoons can take it as a personal slight that you chase them away when in need of your private time.

With water moons, boundaries can sometimes be an issue as they often bond to "merge". And so when you ask for space,it's like you are saying "I don't like you" etc.

The best way to get that across to them is through talking to them "heart to heart". Just be honest and say that you need time alone to recharge.

I have a Pisces Moon friend whom often doesn't respond to my text or sms messages because he is off on some island of his own making. Some kind of "self imposed exile" -so to speak. Its okay coz I need some alone time too

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Q# How long do you persevere if rebuffed a few times?

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I am sensitive to meanness. So if you are icy,cold or aggressive.I will not be around you much.I pay attention to how I feel and that is so important to me(above all actually).

But if it's life that the "rebuff" is from, I read a lot of "mind over matter" books and meditate.

When I have another moment of strength, I go in full force and slay the s*** out of the challenge...

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Originally posted by Elysia:
Q# Do you "fish" for reactions? i.e. say things to see if the other person cares? (For instance, one guy would tease me with someone I had *once* praised, and would not let it go until I reassured him that he was the only one I liked).

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I used to do that when younger.But I don't go the indirect route now.

If I want to know if someone cares, I look at their actions towards me. If consistent, they care. If not, they are not as invested in me as I would like them to be.

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Originally posted by Elysia:
Q# MEN - Do you sometimes act a little too macho? Some guys project it and some own it. The ones that project become the macho guy, the strict parent..etc.(?)

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I do act "macho" at times but that is easing a lot as I mature.

But I also think the "disciplinarian" part comes from Venus/Moon in aspect to Saturn by conjunction and trine respectively.

I am beginning to feel that it is perfectly fine to express my feelings and to be known as "soft".

And if I lose some "brownie" points from the "man club"-so be it...

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Originally posted by Elysia:
Q# Have you known any/Are you a Virgo Sun/ Cancer moon OR Scorpio Sun/Cancer moon? There was a thread on this in the past, and I can't find it. But any extra info is welcome.

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I know a Virgo Sun/Cancer Moon. His emotional nature affects his immune system more than myself and more than most people I know.

He can lose weight to a point of appearing gaunt-like. And its usually his body that is a tell tail sign of what his emotional state is like at any given time.

My cousin also has a Mercury-ruled Sun sign in Gemini with Cancer Moon.. He has ulcer problems that are compounded by stress and worry.

I think these guys are already high strung and the depth of emotion(dynamic and changeable too) of Cancer energy can exacerbate things a lot.

As a Sag Sun/Cancer Moon myself, I just tell myself to "chill out". And it works out many times.

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Originally posted by Elysia:
Q# INTUITION - Pisces moons have intuition about the future, Scorp moons can dig into your past. Cancer moons seem to have this operative intuition about the *present*. Like, they get a flash of intuition about *you*, the person. Or something about you, in the moment. Have you seen this happen?

Thanks in advance..
(Insight on any or all welcome)

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Yes.I get a glimpse of someones character. But I swear sometimes it can be phobias & subjective fears projected on another.

I try to be "holistic" in approach and rather get to know the person and then combine that with how I feel.

posted January 08, 2017 05:50 PM            

I'm beginning to see that age IS a factor with Cancer moons. Even the ones I see, there's a huge difference between the younger - the not-yet-fully-comfortable-with-it guy(s) and the older, more mellow, almost therapeutically kind & caring ones.

You're right about Virgo/Cancer. Virgos are pro worriers and the Cancer moon sends them into dark spells every now and then. (That's when they get snappy, IME. They're also pretty self-aware and apologize right away, if it was out of turn.)