posted January 31, 2018 12:49 PM
How we go after what we want in anything including relationships is Mars.In that if Mars aspects Venus or the 7th house cusp, we tend to be "chasers". We want to go after relationships with ghusto.
But how we behave when in those relationships, is more Moon. In that we can regress to old habits that are more of a default mode/pattern.
If Venus aspects Moon or the Moon is in the 7th house, we tend to want good relations with all people around us. And can be called "flirts" because of our effortlessly friendly disposition.
Venus is our relationship goals-wheter it be platonic or sexusl. In that if Moon is where our base level needs are. The Venus is where our more "evolved" tastes are. In that Venus is more sensual and pleasure seeking than the Moon.
If Venus makes aspects to the Moon, the Moon is in the 2nd/7th house or the Moon is in Libra or Taurus, the Moon then takes on both our base level needs and pleasure needs. Making the moon more sensual and keen to have pleasurable contacts with all people.
If Mars makes aspects to the Moon,Moon in 1st/8th or the Moon is in Aries/Scorpio, the Moon then takes on both our base level needs and instinctive desires. Making it more assertive and impatient to have those desires met by a person/prefered people. It cares little for good relations with all.
When Venus makes outer planet contacts, it influences our relationship goals in that they take on the flavour of the planet that touches Venus.
So if Venus is in Pisces/12th house or has aspects to Neptune, the relationship goals tend to be built on idealism and romance. There is a desire to "merge" with the partner completely and see them as a part of us.
But if there is an aspect from Saturn in the mix, the result is of someone who wants to see themselves as a part of others/special someone i.e merged in that ideal, but is fearful of rejection, hurt or loss of control.
This is the person who is least likely to gamble with wanting ideals over stability. Preferring tangible security and a partnership built on solid ground-even if the romantic part is lacking.
Within the relationship they may on one hand want to be romantic and all that jazz. But on the other they may feel restricted by their partner who seems indifferent or cold to that.
It could also be likely that in their quest to make the relationship steady with their significant partner. They work hard at getting the money or job as to provide the tangible things that spell security.
The result also being that they sacrifice their more romantic side in the process(12th house Venus) for the good of the relationship, then feel underappreciated that the value they bring to the union is not seen ir acknowledged(Saturn square Venus).
Look at his Mars to see how he goes after what he wants i.e if Mars is in 7th/2nd house or Taurus/Libra, he will use charm to disarm and persuasive tactics.
But if there is an aspect to Pluto, there is more agression ans assertion. The charm is quickly replaced by a single minded person with an objective at hand which they are fully emotionally invested in.
In this way, this could be similar to Mars in Scorpio/8th house.