posted December 27, 2021 10:24 PM              

All I can tell you, is that if you do exit stage left--that pain doesn't go away, but actually intensifies. The body provides a certain amount of grounding and distraction. Once out of the body, you are pure feeling.

Have you seen the movie, "What Dreams May Come?" (one of my favs btw). Well, there is a lot of truth to that movie, and what they portrayed about suicides, especially in Annie's case, is often quite accurate. Course, most people are eventually retrieved from these self created hells, but some folks spend a very long time in these states.

Also, realize that in at least 9 out of 10 cases of people feeling strong tendencies to suicide, there is either negative nonphysicals and/or a negative ET group messing with the person psychically and pressuring them to do it.

Part of why I don't do it, is a F U to them, because I know they would love nothing more for me to listen to them and do that. Tap into that strong Pluto of yours and say F U to these aholes! Don't give them any power over you.

posted December 28, 2021 04:50 AM            

The relationship I have with my own mother is difficult. Her mental health issues mean that the roles are often reversed and she wants me to take care of her. I know she means well but she doesn’t have a lot of sensitivity when it comes to my needs. We’re still in contact but that means I have to set some very strong boundaries. It took me a long time, but I now know I’m allowed to have boundaries and don’t feel bad anymore when I have to disappoint her to safeguard my own wellbeing.

posted December 29, 2021 09:27 AM            

We both have a simmilar chart pattern.The only diffrence is i'm male and your female..just my opinion I think Gemini females are more attractive then the Gemini males anyway.

I know its hard because in my opinion I think Gemini suns are good at knowing what what type of behaviour to expect from people.

I'm sure your head could have seen this comming but your heart wanted to give your mom a second look because she's family....and that's when it gets really difficult.

Facts say she'll do that but personally you don't want to belive she whould.

posted December 29, 2021 10:01 AM            

Perhaps something hidden came up in HER life, that caused things to alter a bit as it concerned you?

Often in relationship blow-ups, the fight is not about 'the issue' but goes WAY down deeper than that. Bringing it up could bring a relief to you and her?

Sit down with her, and ask her to clarify what/why she would do that "to" you? Tell her your fears of any harmful-effects this has/will have upon your Life if it is true that she cut you off in any promise or unsaid-expectation (if there ever was one).

posted December 29, 2021 08:35 PM            

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Perhaps something hidden came up in HER life, that caused things to alter a bit as it concerned you?
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That's a good suggestion, my cancer mom has always been stingy and not very generous.

I always took it as her always trying to cut back on her family.

Turns out she grew up having to be on a budget and that behaviour carried on to when she had me and my sister.

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posted February 21, 2023 09:09 AM            

My therapist told me that I need to establish better boundaries with her.

She is very dismissive when people try to talk about their feelings. She also things if she listens and does what her adult children ask of her that she is losing her power. It's like dealing with a toddler. lol

She can't even get over these childish issues when it comes to my divorce and picking things up at my father in law's. I am going through 3 life transitions at the same time, and she expects me to act like Marry Poppins.

Over the weekend I told her, "when you try to force people to be/act happy, it actually does the opposite. And it makes people not want to talk to you or be around you."

I basically told her to cut the toxic positivity crap.

Now she is trying to suck up to me and act like we get along great.

Well it's like that is how you chose to act while picking up my stuff. You played mind games with me, undermined me, dismissive of my feelings like I am mentally emotionally drained for going through 3 life transitions at the same time. Tried to do things to make me look like an ahole over there, by not listening to me. Put me on the spot by giving my father in law a hug, to pressure me to give him a hug. NOPE.