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Topic: Is There Something Wrong With Me?
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Randall Webmaster Posts: 1301 From: Columbus, GA USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 08, 2010 08:57 PM
I have a lot of Earth in my chart and a strong Cappy influence, as well, but I'm not close to my family at all. To top it off, I have no desire to have children. I'm quite content and even fulfilled with not being a father. I do get along well with kids, and I don't mind dating women with children, I just don't feel the need to have any of my own. So, am I broken? What's wrong with me? ------------------ "Nurture great thoughts, for you will never go higher than you think." Disraeli IP: Logged |
GypseeWind Moderator Posts: 3914 From: Dayton,Ohio USA Registered: May 2009
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posted September 08, 2010 09:19 PM
You ain't broken, you are just from a time and a place that taught you it was 'right' or 'the natural thing to do', to grow up, get married, and have kids. Life isn't a to-do list.If you're not feelin' it, better that you don't have any and put all your focus on something that you feel passionate about, that way you don't cheat yourself or the child, right??? Besides, I thought WE are all your kids. You have your hands full my dear. IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 1301 From: Columbus, GA USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 08, 2010 09:22 PM
Hahaha! Yes, you are all my children. ------------------ "Nurture great thoughts, for you will never go higher than you think." Disraeli IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Knowflake Posts: 102 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted September 08, 2010 09:24 PM
I think that if /when the time is right you will know it. If it never seems right, then it is not meant to be. The worst thing would be to do it to be normal/acceptable to social norms. I did that my whole life and it added up to a big, fat zero. ------------------ Pluto conjunct Dejanira, Girlfriend. IP: Logged |
PeaceAngel Knowflake Posts: 4047 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 08, 2010 09:25 PM
There's nothing wrong with you. Different people have different needs. I think we're taught from an early age that we're expected to fit a certain social expectation about getting married and having kids. Some people aren't built that way and trying to fit that just goes against who they are. You know what's right for you regardless of the expectations others may have. It's okay. Do what's right for you. Your feelings will be your best guide. If it doesn't feel right, chances are it isn't, for you.IP: Logged |
katatonic Knowflake Posts: 5040 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 08, 2010 09:28 PM
of course not! the whole you-gotta-have-kids thing is a concoction that keeps you chained to the grindstone. lots of people do a good job of it and maintain their creative energy, but probably more do not! you are an immortal, right? you will have many more relationships than nuclear family type ones, and you can do all kinds of things parents can't. anyway who's to stop you changing your mind in 50 years' time?not that having kids is not great, but it's not for everyone, and those who don't, make the balance for those who insist on having 8, can you imagine if everyone did that? although procreation is instinctive to a point i for one hope that people will be at least a little rational about that option. there are too many of us for my taste already! IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 1691 From: Ohio Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 08, 2010 09:29 PM
quote: Besides, I thought WE are all your kids. You have your hands full my dear.
This was my first thought, as well. (Aside from the fact that there's nothing with Randall for feeling this way.) IP: Logged |
LEXX Moderator Posts: 2723 From: Still out looking for Schr�dinger's cat.........& LEXIGRAMMING... is my Passion! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 08, 2010 09:40 PM
I do not see anything wrong with you! IP: Logged |
AcousticGod Knowflake Posts: 3634 From: acousticgod@sbcglobal.net Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 08, 2010 11:07 PM
I'm not real close with my family either. I'm nebulous on wanting children. No strong feelings one way or the other.IP: Logged |
charmainec Moderator Posts: 583 From: on the other side of the rainbow Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 09, 2010 06:35 AM
Nope although you have been going through many different phases.And you're not broken ------------------ quote: "What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies with in us." -- Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Happy Dragon Knowflake Posts: 686 From: u.k. Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 09, 2010 07:53 AM
*** .. but I'm not close to my family at all. To top it off, I have no desire to have children. I'm quite content and even fulfilled with not being a father. I do get along well with kids, and I don't mind dating women with children, I just don't feel the need to have any of my own. ***ditto .. and I don't see 'owt wrong with it .. ** So, am I broken? ** No .. although there's probaly folk with natal chart setups that might think so from their perspective .. e.g. to my mum .. 'family' was everything .. she always thought there was something wrong with me .. 'friends' are more like 'family' to me .. ( sun in 11th house ) .. being close friends with a relative seems like a bonus to me .. posting your astro chart ( in the appropriate forum of course ) might help .. ;-) e.g is there a Uranian influence in there ?? per chance .. IP: Logged |
mermaid26 Knowflake Posts: 690 From: just visiting you know Registered: Jun 2009
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posted September 09, 2010 08:42 AM
Broken? Wrong? No, I really don't think so. I believe your personal truth is exactly right for you. Maybe it's just time to discover that "they" were wrong...those internal and external "voices" and projections whom implied how perfection falsely appears in this realm of duality. The process of individuation certainly brings forth these matters, so that they can finally be diffused and dissolved, for your soul's unique growth. Yeah, I agree, you already have lots and lots of children, thanks to all that Papa Saturn influence. Now just don't forget to feed the fish or delegate the task and such...you know. Oh yeah... don't forget to go outside and play too!IP: Logged |
Peace & Purple Knowflake Posts: 26 From: Texas Registered: Dec 2009
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posted September 09, 2010 01:11 PM
Nah! Nothing wrong with you. That's something we should maybe explore within ourselves. So many people have kids that are less than enthused and committed to the responsibility.IP: Logged |
scorpio17 Knowflake Posts: 252 From: netherlands Registered: Dec 2009
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posted September 09, 2010 02:15 PM
Gypsee, -Besides, I thought WE are all your kids. You have your hands full my dear- LOL, daddy Randall!Randall It is kind of strange in the books cappy is always related to family etc. Is there a reason not to be close to your family and to turn it the other way around maybe your family wants/needs you close? I would love to have children some day, buth it hasn't come on my path yet. It upsets me very much because there is a time limit to it. If someone don't want to have childeren,that's their choice. For religious people the bible tells them otherwise. IP: Logged |
Quinnie Knowflake Posts: 494 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 09, 2010 02:57 PM
I saw this reply to a friend from one of his friend's regarding the very same sentiments... he wrote... All credit to your parents, they brought you up well! You don't need to have kids to prove your worth, you are worthy enough.. So nothing wrong with you from my point of view... We luvs you IP: Logged |
BiBi DeAngelo Knowflake Posts: 479 From: Los Angeles, CA, USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 09, 2010 02:57 PM
Randall....Perhaps the NO NEED of having children... is that your life purpose doesn't include children... like Oprah's didn't (would you label Oprah as having something wrong with her because her path nurtures the planet and not her own birthing of a child? - no)... you nurture the planet simply by having the passion of this site which nurtures souls all around the globe... Just because more souls choose to birth other souls doesn't mean that is 100% the purpose of all souls.. think how many souls on the planet didn't have this life journey! Member's: Let's start a list & keep adding names of magnificent souls that didn't have children 1. Oprah
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AbsintheDragonfly Moderator Posts: 1216 From: Gaia Registered: Apr 2010
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posted September 09, 2010 03:15 PM
Are you early or late Cappy Randall? I can't remember.All I know is that Pluto is busy re-arranging everything in our sun sign right now, so that might be triggering this questioning. Nothing at all wrong with you, and no you aren't broken. ADfly ------------------ We justify ourselves each time we take a breath... Me IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 1301 From: Columbus, GA USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 09, 2010 03:17 PM
Late.------------------ "Nurture great thoughts, for you will never go higher than you think." Disraeli IP: Logged |
WinkAway Moderator Posts: 1098 From: here, there & everywhere Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 09, 2010 03:39 PM
Randall... At least you can see that in yourself. If only everyone was that honest with themselves..
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remixel-pixelpixie Knowflake Posts: 3 From: Registered: May 2010
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posted September 10, 2010 01:28 PM
Yes.Just kidding. I know you missed me. Whatev. You don't want kids, that doesn't mean anything-they're a huge responsibility for ever and ever and ever. Plus- they poop and can't do much about it themselves at first. You have to find other people to watch them when you go to work or go to fun, and it costs boatloads of money. They will also give you the most pain and longing and heart-densifying love you can even imagine, so for me, the cost is way beyond the yearning. But I totally get if one doesn't long for it, because on the outside it's not entirely appealing for many reasons. On the inside it's squishy and perfect to me though. I'd have seven billion more kids. Er... or less. The view from within is multi-layered and not only in a good way, but it's easy to dismiss the notion when looking at it form with-out. IP: Logged |
WinkAway Moderator Posts: 1098 From: here, there & everywhere Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 10, 2010 01:35 PM
I can honestly say that I'm just too selfish to be the perfect mom everyone says I should be...or media says anyway. I can admit that and if anyone has a problem with it....tough.If you decide you don't want to have kids of your own that's your choice. Don't let anyone pressure you into thinking otherwise. If I could rewind things I would have waited much longer and even then I'm not sure I would have had any. I'm okay too with dating someone who has kids but no more for me. For one I'm too damn old... turning 40 in a couple of weeks..
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