posted February 16, 2011 09:24 PM            

Well, I'll tell ya just this one, it should make you feel a bit better at least!

When I was first married to my soon to be ex husband, we rented his mothers house, as she was also getting a divorce.
They didnt have enough equity in the house to sell it yet, so we decided to move in and rent it for awhile.
It was me, my husband and my baby daughter.

My MIL then asks if we could redo the attic (she would pay for the remodeling) and let her younger son live there. It was his first time living away from home as he just got out of the service.
We weren't thrilled, but we thought it would be OK, cos he would help share the cost, and he would have his own very large space.

Yeah, sounds good on paper.

He moved in, and turned out to be the biggest slob ON EARTH.
He had a lil cleanliness problem, and he would wear cowboy boots with NO SOCKS, and then flop on my WHITE couch, with his dirty, smelly feet and literally, run everybody out of the room.
That was the first issue.
We had to tell him over and over to shower when he got home, and to keep his boots in his upstairs apartment.

Even though he had cable, a mini fridge, and all the comforts of a real home upstairs, I couldn't keep him up there!
I felt a bit bad, because I knew he was lonely, and he didn't want to sit upstairs by himself, so I tried to overlook it.

He had a knack of showing up just when I cooked, and he would eat huge amounts, not leaving enough for the rest of us.
He never washed a dish.

Once, I couldn't find any forks, so I had to go upstairs while he was at work, and look for some...
O.M.G.!!!
Up there, it looked like a crime scene!!
Dirty piles of dishes and clothes everywhere.
Empty, and half empty pizza boxes.
and his sheets!!
They were BLACK!
It never occurred to me to see about washing a grown man's sheets. EWWWW!

The last straw was when I walked in my LIVING room, to him.. uhhh.. using my TV for watching some ADULT entertainment, and doing what one does while watching it.
I had my two year old with me!!!

I was so upset I ran into my bedroom, and called his mother.
She said I was overreacting!
I locked myself in my room all night.
Seriously, girl, I was traumatized.!!

My BIL tried to discuss that little incident with me, but what is there to say?
I kept saying, "You have a TV upstairs, why, why, why, on my couch??"

It was terrible.
Shortly after, my MIL's best friend was getting a divorce and needed to move some place ASAP.
I called her, and offered her the rest of my lease.
She accepted.
Those two lived together for about 3 years.
I have no idea how they did it, but they did.

posted February 17, 2011 04:23 AM            

I lived with MIL and husband when first got married - NEVER again - I only moved in with them because it was so awful at home. I was working to support the two of them, with a long commute, and my MIL used to complain that I never did any housework (which wasn't actually true). She never actually spoke to me, used to disappear from the room every time I entered it, so I got all the information 2nd hand from hubby. So I approached her and said "do you need any help with the washing?" and she aid "oh no no no". Then next minute she would apparently be complaining to my ex-husband again.
Same with shopping. When we went shopping on the weekend I used to say "can we go to XYZ supermarket as I want to get something specific from there" and the reaction was "oh, we never go there". I still don't know what to say to that sort of behaviour but what I will say is that I am NEVER living with anyone again with whom I am involved romantically speaking.
Oh, and ex-husband is back living with his mother now!! They just couldn't keep away from each other!