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Topic: Talking during sex - yay or nay?
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downtomars
Knowflake Posts: 990
From: NY
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 14, 2012 12:59 PM
  
I was inspired to start this thread after answering a post in Astrology 2.0 about 5th and 8th house rulers and if they determine sexual needs. Well, Mercury rules both my 5th and 8th house and it is located in my 7th house in Leo conjunct the Sun, Venus, Jupiter and square Uranus and trine Neptune... I really didn't see much Mercury going on accept for traits of the men I attract/am attracted to (highly intelligent, light hair & eyes, tall, slim, nice hands). I forgot that Mercury is about communication too so with the planets involved (Mars is in my 5th trine Pluto in my 8th) it made me think of sex talk... I do like talk in bed, BUT, not phony dirty talk. There are no cameras around (hopefully) so porn-like talk is just silly. I like sweet talk and it can get pretty dirty as long as it stays respectful. I'm not into degrading talk. As for stories: One time the Best Lover Ever Leo said "talk to me" with his thick Serbian accent. I thought I was being vocal enough so that really threw me off and I felt weird and was pretty much like "hey, you, I don't know, what's up?"  . Luckily he didn't mean the phony dirty stuff either, he just wanted, well, you guys know, but more of that. Once, a Gemini wanted me to repeat after him, like, "tell me you like...". That was so comical to me, I couldn't even do it and you don't even want to know how I went about avoiding it (eww, nothing too dirty)...The Taurus I Can't Get Over was great though, he used to ask yes or no questions so that was cool. It was shocking though. The first time we made out heavily (first date - Yeah, yeah, no kind of sex was involved though, but I couldn't help it, he was so freakin' cute) he asked a yes or no question that took me by surprise, yet turned me on at the same time. I didn't think that sweet nerdy lawyer boy would talk that way so it was really sexy. Good thing I had the strength to say "no" to the second, third and fourth questions (I can be a quite a tease - a Libra thing, I've heard). He also would say the sweetest things too (his Mercury is in Taurus), thinking about it, just,  ... So how about you all? Do you like to keep it light or XXX? Is it sexy, fun or awkward? Or all three (that is my take on it)? Any stories to share? IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan
Knowflake Posts: 601
From: Boston
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted January 14, 2012 01:43 PM
 Nay. The boudoir is not the place for conversation or words in general (IMO). It's a major distraction for me, I really don't like any talk during sex, not even sweet things, I just want to be in the moment and not distracted, gasps and others noises are okay but that's about it... I've got Mercury in the 8th house nestled with a couple other planets there and Mars in Aries.  IP: Logged |
ElizabethO
Knowflake Posts: 468
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Registered: Nov 2011
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posted January 14, 2012 01:59 PM
Nope. Creeps me out.IP: Logged |
TrueTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 201
From: California
Registered: Nov 2010
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posted January 14, 2012 02:18 PM
Perhaps it's influenced by my Venus in Gemini and Mars in Aquarius. I like to be told I'm sexy and hot, well, sweet things during the deed. However, I do not like degrading comments or names. In fact, I like politeness. I'm more for a reticent person, but in bed I do make sex talk. My Venus is in 12th, and Mars in 10th. IP: Logged |
sand
Knowflake Posts: 2143
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Registered: May 2011
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posted January 14, 2012 03:03 PM
i have no air so no talking for me lol!listening to them breathe and make noises is kinda sessy. they can talk i don't mind. but i don't like instruction or asking if it is good. IP: Logged |
NativelyJoan
Knowflake Posts: 601
From: Boston
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted January 14, 2012 04:14 PM
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Originally posted by sand:
but i don't like instruction or asking if it is good.
Lol Sand. I agree, instructions are a big no-no. I've never had someone give me instructions, but if they did I'd probably blow a fuse and walk out. Not because I'm superior at the deed but because instructions are annoying and distracting and based on individual preference. By instructions I don't necessarily mean suggestions, but again I prefer no talking during the act so either one is a no-no for me. Sidenote: I'm probably one of very few Air dominant individuals who doesn't enjoy talking during sex. IP: Logged |
downtomars
Knowflake Posts: 990
From: NY
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 14, 2012 04:37 PM
Yikes! Instructions?! I didn't know that people actually did this because I think it would be a giant mood killer. Plus it is just plain rude...Another mood killer: baby talk. Blech, gross, disgusting. Serious psychological issues there, time to run. I was just thinking about that episode of Sex and the City where Samantha was with the guy who did that and, yucky. The episode is called "Baby, Talk is Cheap", lol. Asking/telling if it is good though, I like that, and any variation on that.
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downtomars
Knowflake Posts: 990
From: NY
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 14, 2012 04:37 PM
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Alma Sun
Moderator Posts: 882
From: The East Coast
Registered: Mar 2011
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posted January 14, 2012 04:45 PM
Dirty talking and moaning, yay.  But no name calling or anything too degrading. ------------------
"The better you feel about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off." — Robert Hand "I am not absentminded. It is the presence of mind that makes me unaware of everything else." ― G.K. Chesterton IP: Logged | |
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