posted January 25, 2013 05:15 AM            

It doesn't matter to me. But sometimes you can tell a lot about a person by how their family (and how they all get along), and some people who aren't serious about relationships try to keep their family from knowing.

But of course I have no idea what your uncle is thinking.

posted January 25, 2013 09:05 AM            

What I have learned is that, and this is after FIVE failed relationships in TEN years is that it sure does help alot when the person one is dating has atleast some basic things in common, ie: kids, silimar family attachements, etc.

posted January 25, 2013 11:21 AM            

After all the times I've had my partner's families outright dismiss me on sight... for not living up to their expectations/standards... be it because I lacked the education therefore must be unqualified for their approval, the pedigree (because the slums are no place for their son to be seen hanging out, and a coal miner's granddaughter is not what they envision their possible future d-i-l having to discuss when their high society "friends" come to visit in late fall), the "physical presence" (because spending 3 hours at the salon everyday isn't a waste of time to some people, and wearing "juicy" across ones buttocks makes you so much more desirable), or the humble and censured grace that a "proper lady" should embody (after all you're their child's' new "arm candy" you're expected to match all his other trophies, you know, mouth shut, and sitting perfectly still, while looking like a deer caught in the headlights, bustin a nice wide, shiny smile whenever the men of the house gesture for you to do so)...

yes~ I've had pretty rotten luck with my partner's and their families. ^^;

On, the other hand, they've all gotten off easy in dealing with my relatives! lol My family has few expectations for a partner... although protective, that's due to my flippancy in youth, they're not the sort to pass shallow judgments or make mandatory obligations for my partner...

I guess overall it depends... I want to know how they treat their female role model, their mother figure, or whoever played the "nurturing parent" role to them as a child...
So, although it ends poorly more often than not, I still think it's best to have some connection to those relatives... of course, I can't be troubled to be physically present at every d@mn anniversary, birthday, reunion, holiday, wedding... idc... but, I would effort to make some regular appearance...

Generally though, I avoid their families like the plague... vice versa too I think. ^^

there's just too many opportunities for something to turn sour, either between the relative(s) and you, or getting dragged into a feud between your partner and whichever of his relatives/parents, or having them use whatever they see in your family against you down the road...

but,like hippiechick said, this is probably one of the best ways to really get to know how you measure up with your partner, (if the relationship is anything of a serious sort), to see where you might wind up in the future scheme of things if you continue on with that person...

So in the end, I really would rather know they have a similar relationship to their relatives to that which I have with my own...

Which for me is a mutual understanding that I'm the unreliable and willy-nilly sort of person, who may miss a birthday or baby's shower from time to time,and they'd still get it... they'd understand there's reasons for this... and, know that I'll make it up to them/their child next time around (the next holiday or event after usually). I don't want them to have a lot in common with my own family though... haha just in certain areas... being nonjudgmental, and welcoming would be nice.... benefit of the doubt that their son isn't with a complete lowlife cretin! haha XD

I'd hope to see they have relaxed views, weren't overly political or religious... because that is better for the "what if"-down the road view of things... when it is no longer just one of us meeting with the others family, but family meeting family... ugh - and we know how awful those can go, right? T___T

posted January 25, 2013 06:25 PM            

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Originally posted by sand:
Those juicy sweat pants are great marketing. I'm impressed with the banger sister's business acumen lol!

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ew

so you think it's appropriate for lil 12-15 year olds or younger to be running around with JUICY written on their bums??? I never even liked our school logo on our pants when they changed it in high school! lol

yeah right...

and your sister??? you REALLY like the idea of everyone (man/woman/perv) having their eyes drawn right to her backside?

it's not the words on the rear end that bother me... it's the fact that the families (especially the mothers) of some of these kids... thought this was how their daughters should dress, obsess over their vanity, and weight, and behave around often (much) older men... and likewise... I was being expected to comply with their dress code as well...

I was like... my backside gets enough attention, tyvm... ~__~

most women get enough attention there anyway... I happen to find it really ridiculous and slightly offensive that we're so KEEN on using our butts as f-g billboards...

I'm not being paid to advertise for these rich b@stards, in fact I just paid them by buying their product... if they're going to use me and my body as a marketing tool, I want my f-g share...

<---- CAPPY logic!

posted January 25, 2013 07:18 PM            

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Originally posted by RedScorp:
Well he is older. Maybe he feels like he's running out of time to start building a family and would rather assimilate with one...?

That's what I imagine.

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posted January 25, 2013 07:29 PM            

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I'm not being paid to advertise for these rich b@stards, in fact I just paid them by buying their product... if they're going to use me and my body as a marketing tool, I want my f-g share...

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