posted September 27, 2019 09:05 AM
I'm coming to understand Nessus as Soul-Strengthening.
For some people, experience of abuse may be 'required' for soul-strengthening,
however we want to relate to this (possible but not definite) fact.
For others, there is another way.
For me (Nessus conj 5th house cusp), I've been going through life until my 30s without any significant relationship.
Why? To strengthen my soul.Sabian for my Nessus:
A LARGE CAMEL IS SEEN CROSSING A VAST AND FORBIDDING DESERT
Self-sufficiency in the face of a long and exhausting adventure
You may want to check the Sabian symbol + House to clarify things further.
LUCIFER is related to VENUS in some teachings. May not be necessarily negative.
Dejanira is not a 'bad' asteroid but the interpretation have fallen victim to certain fear-mongering. There should be no reason to get overexcited with worry if the general relationship give you good vibes. Dejanira in fact made all her own choices, looking purely at the mythology. If you identify with something, you tend to attract confirmations of that identification.
So, what was noted by virgoscorpio above I believe is right: no room for negativity.
You may want to keep an eye open though, and be vigilant to warning signals in the actual dynamics of the relationship. That goes for all relationships, regardless of asteroid positions.
If you absolutely want to know astrologically, I think you should have a full synastry/composite reading, where further data is taken into consideration.
I any case, there is only room for growth.
Enjoy your life-exploration!