posted April 18, 2021 11:34 AM            

Hi everybody, I'm writing because I'd appreciate any insights on our synastry chart. I have a kind of deep, telepathic connection with this person. I've felt if we've thought about the other at the same time, and such things. He has a 12H stellium and ghosted me for a few months –allegedly, because of BPD, but still –0 emotional responsibility. Then he came back and I'm now much more cautious.

But I need to understand what makes this so INTENSE!!!! I think it might be a karmic relationship.

Thanks for any advice or comment and for your time.

posted April 19, 2021 01:13 AM            

I can imagine your Moon/North Node conjunct his Pluto/Vertex could reflect/account for a lot of the intensity you experience connected with this relationship

I also notice these aspects:

your Mars/Descendant conjunct his Lilith
Your Venus opposite his Jupiter
Your Chiron square his Uranus/Neptune

Could you post your composite, without the “s” in https? This just makes it a link which makes it a bit easier on my phone than copy & paste :)

I think you might have Moon square Pluto in your composite which can feel quite overwhelming too I think

The Lilith-Descendant aspect, and Uranus-Chiron aspect could also reflect that lack of stability or groundedness on his part towards you

posted April 19, 2021 03:39 PM            

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Originally posted by livvywatermonkey:
Yes, good points moonlightavenue

I can imagine your Moon/North Node conjunct his Pluto/Vertex could reflect/account for a lot of the intensity you experience connected with this relationship

I also notice these aspects:

your Mars/Descendant conjunct his Lilith
Your Venus opposite his Jupiter
Your Chiron square his Uranus/Neptune

Could you post your composite, without the “s” in https? This just makes it a link which makes it a bit easier on my phone than copy & paste

I think you might have Moon square Pluto in your composite which can feel quite overwhelming too I think

The Lilith-Descendant aspect, and Uranus-Chiron aspect could also reflect that lack of stability or groundedness on his part towards you

Hope this helps

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Hi!! Thanks for your time to see the chart, I'm very grateful.

posted April 19, 2021 07:20 PM            

Lilith conjunct South Node
Neptune conjunct North Node
Moon/Saturn opposite Chiron
Chiron square Pluto

I would be careful of being steamrolled by him, my experience of people with BPD is its difficult to operate on an even playing field, it’s hard not to feel like you’re always trying to find an equilibrium & the illusion of equilibrium can feel good but if/when things deteriorate, you can feel the impact very heavily while the other person seems to think you instigated all the conflict or drama, which is very unfair. Maybe he is aware of his triggers/patterns & didn’t want to put that on you, so retreated for a while?

I can see the kind of instability & intensity you describe reflecting in your composite chart, & maybe I am projecting my own concerns into it, but sometimes we can take on all the responsibility for nurturing in relationship or getting things “back on track”, yet in so doing, also put ourselves in situations which are emotionally dangerous & do not nurture us in return, & I don’t want you to experience this interaction negatively more than needs be if there is any danger of that

I think you could potentially help one another, it seems like there is a connection, vulnerability, sensitivity & intensity in this relationship, but I would also be careful of taking on too heavy a load on his behalf, before he knows within himself he can sustain connection with you. If you take on more responsibility for him than he is prepared to trust you with, the relationship may necessarily implode because of the unconscious issues at play with BPD (having said that, this is just my understanding!)

posted May 19, 2021 06:56 PM            

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Originally posted by livvywatermonkey:
Hi moonlightavenue, these are aspects I notice in composite:

Lilith conjunct South Node
Neptune conjunct North Node
Moon/Saturn opposite Chiron
Chiron square Pluto

I would be careful of being steamrolled by him, my experience of people with BPD is its difficult to operate on an even playing field, it’s hard not to feel like you’re always trying to find an equilibrium & the illusion of equilibrium can feel good but if/when things deteriorate, you can feel the impact very heavily while the other person seems to think you instigated all the conflict or drama, which is very unfair. Maybe he is aware of his triggers/patterns & didn’t want to put that on you, so retreated for a while?

I can see the kind of instability & intensity you describe reflecting in your composite chart, & maybe I am projecting my own concerns into it, but sometimes we can take on all the responsibility for nurturing in relationship or getting things “back on track”, yet in so doing, also put ourselves in situations which are emotionally dangerous & do not nurture us in return, & I don’t want you to experience this interaction negatively more than needs be if there is any danger of that

I think you could potentially help one another, it seems like there is a connection, vulnerability, sensitivity & intensity in this relationship, but I would also be careful of taking on too heavy a load on his behalf, before he knows within himself he can sustain connection with you. If you take on more responsibility for him than he is prepared to trust you with, the relationship may necessarily implode because of the unconscious issues at play with BPD (having said that, this is just my understanding!)

Hope this helps

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Hi Livy, thank you so much!!

And sorry for taking such a long time to answer. It was for a reason, and is because I traveled to his home country for two weeks of holidays and we finally met in real life. It was AWESOME!

The day of the meeting I had the north node conjunct my IC. And I took a deeper look into our synastry chart, and I saw that his south node is in my DC, and my sun in his DC. Does this give a hint of anything at all?