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Topic: Venus square Pluto in composite - simmering jealousy
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SimplyLuna
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Registered: Jul 2017
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posted July 20, 2021 10:28 PM
  
I need help, please don't judge me. I'm usually not uncontrollably jealous - not until I met this guy. The thought of him texting his ex, they're good friends... but it makes me feel uneasy and super anxious I couldn't sleep. It's out of my character to lose sleep over it. My typical self gets over it, but I couldn't.... I would sabotage myself... telling myself what we have is the one and finding evidence for it.What's worse is he voluntarily gave me her birth info and their... synastry was amazing... Sun conjunct ASC, Venus conjunct Mars, Mars trine Pluto, IC conjunct ASC and some more. Angles are important right? I feel like this is a pandora box I didn't want to see.
Their composite has Pluto conjunct ASC square Venus and I cant help but to feel there's some attachment he has with her, maybe Pluto flavor attractions. We all know the hype with Pluto. He contacted her after a break up, but this is before we met. I just feel... my jealousy simmering... when I see her on his phone. I can feel it's unnatural of me. No matter how I tried to rationalize they're friends, I feel a darkness lurking. This is the best I can describe it. We don't have any 8th overlay and mediocre Pluto aspects - His Pluto trine my Mercury/MC. My Pluto trine his NN. But our 8th rulers conjunct each other (Venus/Saturn). Can this alone be a contributor? Or is it the Venus square Pluto/IC in our composite is what making it unbearable? Please help me understand what's going on with me? transit Pluto is also squaring my Venus/Moon midpoint. I'm exhausted. I feel so silly. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted July 21, 2021 07:17 PM
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Hikaru29
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Registered: Nov 2018
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posted July 22, 2021 06:13 AM
I don’t think there is anything wrong with how you feel. I wouldn’t like it if my guy still contacts his ex, good friends or not. Also, analysing charts and making something out of it is detrimental. I used to think my guy likes my friend and it worried me when I saw her Sun/Moon conjunct his ASC-DSC axis and her Vertex conjunct his IC. Truth was he felt nothing for her. IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted July 22, 2021 09:44 AM
I don't have Venus/Pluto but I do have Moon/Pluto. Not sure if it's the same. Either way, my husband considered his best friend to be his ex, before we met. She was always mentioned, constantly, about how much she had helped him...what a good person she was....I should be friends with her. On our wedding day he started talking about how THEY almost got married but utlimately didn't. The list is LONG regarding her "goodness". The fact that she cheated on him once upon a blue moon is not part of the talk..Anyhow, one day I got effin fed up and said: listen, you wanna have her as your best friend? Fine. Just don't think that I won't do the same. I will." And it all stopped. I am one of those that feel having a BEST friend of the opposite sex, when married in my case, and above 40, that my husband will chit chat with non-stop about endless things. And have dinner with. And coffee. Is a no-go. Shoot me. I won't change my opinion! Back to OP. Pluto relationships WILL be hard to handle to some and they WILL bring out sides we don't necessarily like. It's up to you how you want to proceed with him. IP: Logged |
SimplyLuna
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Registered: Jul 2017
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posted July 24, 2021 12:12 AM
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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
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Thank you Hikaru it's reassuring. With so many info out online, I think it's hard not to look to find answers. You get one side it's a soul-mate synastry and then where they don't feel anything (which you don't hear or read from people's experience.) Which makes Astrology (Synastry/Composite) tricky to learn. I hope my jealousy doesn't get out of control... I don't want to be the person to play mind games.
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Originally posted by charlie:
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I kind of want this kind of results too if we do reach to the point I can't handle. I spoke with him about how I feel, he reassure nothing is between them and no attraction on his part.
I'm not sure if this would be enough... it seems Pluto/Venus cant have it other way. I guess this what happens when you date Gemini/Sag placements. He has it in Moon/Venus. I dont want to be that girl that tells him who not to talk to. Hopefully I'll survive. If not, then... 
It's seriously intense, I had to go on walking exercise and meditate through music. Maybe some sorrow here and there. Will this get better?
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