posted January 22, 2022 11:44 AM            

I would like to hear your experience with Pluto transiting the ascendant. This transit will happen to me in few years, currently it's 6deg away from my aqua ascendant.
My father currently went trough this transit. The main thing that happened is his mother going to an elderly home, and since he took care of her all his life this was definitely a big change. Also he went trough some medical issues, but nothing major. I see him changed however, he is more calm and more at peace with life I think than ever before.

My natal pluto is in the 8th house on last degree of libra. It trines my sun, mercury, venus stellium in 5th and bQ my. Chiron and semi-sextile my MC.

posted January 22, 2022 12:42 PM            

But to answer your question, my partner of 20 years is now going through this. It's been um..interesting. She's having to face her shadow more directly than in the past, but with a more sensitive and amplified ego as well, she is not too prone to doing this. So guidance/her Expanded self via "life" (especially, but not only, interactions and relationships with others) has to kind of force her to do this.

Besides unusual situations, she has had a number of dreams telling her that she really needs to directly face and plumb her shadow more.

posted January 22, 2022 03:00 PM            

Not all people and not all relationships are cut out for it. And if you want to stir up your own shadow and the shadow of your partner, then nothing better than an open/poly relationship.

But while Pluto is conjuncting your Asc and in your 1st, I would avoid placing too much emphasis on sex and attachment to same. Sex can easily become an addiction and/or a psychological crutch and ego prop during such a cycle.

In general, I have noticed there are two main types of people that are attracted to open relationships. There are those that are already sex addicts and want an excuse for and/or live same more honestly, and then the somewhat more rare/minority type folks that are very Aquarian and/or Piscean type attuned, that approach it more from a spiritual and higher picture perspective--and for them, it is more about honest, deep connection with people, that CAN include sex but is NOT focused on sex/lust.

posted January 22, 2022 04:27 PM            

As to your partner and you, either you can accept him and the relationship as is, or honestly and fearlessly break up with him and eventually look for another partner that shares more of the same ideals and core beliefs.

posted January 23, 2022 02:07 AM            

Anyway in a sense I'm looking forward to this Pluto transit but I'm also a little intimidated. At the end we have no choice but to go trough it all and come out on the other side... Changed.

posted January 24, 2022 08:34 PM            

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Originally posted by DeepBlue:
Ha, that's funny...

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Nice to meet you as well, DeepBlue.

This part, "...but I don't like to feel people need me to be whole and happy (except my children - I have 2 amazing children). So when I start to feel possessiveness and jealousy from a partner or friend for me it's the start of the end...", sounds like it is probably correlated to something like strong Aqua.

No worries, I enjoyed you getting "carried away" with going into all that. Again, can very much relate. I'm your opposite Sun sign btw, Capricorn, but I have moderate Aquarius and strong Uranus, and a combo of strong Jupiter, Neptune, and angular Pisces SN.

To answer your other question, well that is hard to answer, and a full one might take awhile, but I will "try" to be brief (smile).

posted January 25, 2022 02:27 AM            

Haha, I love how you seem to also be very accepting of your partner. I guess it really takes a lot of self awareness to be able to have this kind of freedom in a relationship, among other things.

posted January 25, 2022 05:15 PM            

I’m with someone with a sun conjunct ascendant in Capricorn. The sun is conjunct from the 12th house. He has Venus (Sagittarius) conjunct Neptune (11th house) opposite his moon (Gemini) conjunct mars (5th house) in a kite/mystic rectangle formation with Pluto (Libra) and mercury (Aquarius) (Jupiter in Aries). Im sorry, I know it’s hard to visualize without pictures. He has a 10th house NN in Scorpio too. Let me know if you’d like me to ask him any specific questions.

This Pluto transit is passing already (just over 3 degrees conjunct). He describes the past few years as being very transformative. Cheating (not him). Divorce. Dating. Relationships. More cheating (again not him). Met a woman that helped him explore his sexuality. He has had many sexual experiences over his lifetime (+100 women). He said he’s never had a one night stand… that he had a connection with everyone he slept with. I don’t quite understand this because I don’t connect with very many people. When he tells me this, I cannot help but wonder how superficial these “connections” really were. But, they’re not my experiences. They could’ve been superficial experiences to me…Superficial experiences to the women involved, but if it changed him, that’s all that really matters.

He said he’s now better at letting things go… surrendering to the process type of thing. Admitting and accepting what is out of his control. Things that previously bothered him doesn’t control him anymore.

He has many female friends. Some he slept with. Some he met with the intention of dating. One he calls a best friend. He also says he has never and will never cheat. We’ve discussed 3rd parties in our relationship. Besides self-awareness, I think these types of relationships requires lots of self-honesty. Can I ask something… is it worth it?