posted July 06, 2022 07:14 AM            

Your natal Neptune is in opposition with:
- Your Sun (7th house ruler!)
- Your Venus
- Your Mercury (5th house ruler!)

Your natal Neptune is also forming a square with your Moon.

I’m sure you know that even one of these aspects can provoke lack of objectivity when it comes to the matters of the heart, heck, I’m going to say it – it’s indicative of overly strong idealization bordering on delusion. You simply are not naturally equipped to easily SEE what is really there, you need to make an effort! That is why these aspects are also connected to a possible disappointment. Based on idealization, people form their expectations, needles to say they can never correspond to reality. That is why it is primordial to use everything you can to approach this rationally.

You mentioned marriage problems, love problems… so I’m sure that you already have more than enough experience with these influences. Pluto in your 8th house makes you a very passionate person. Pluto trines the above-mentioned tree planet in your 5th house amplifying everything I have just said. You feel things at least 20x stronger that they really are. So, you need to be really careful and patient.

One other thing, you 12th house Jupiter is opposing this stelium. Its contact with Venus can provoke certain disillusionment because you have such high empathy and expect others to be like yourself. You might also confront a lack of respect from others, especially in romantic partnerships. It’s contact with the Sun requires that you find a balance between your ego and absolute open mindedness ,and you cannot find it without trying out the waters. And that can be sometimes painful. Its contact with Mercury can lead to poor judgement unless you take the time to examine things objectively. Also be careful about the possible difference between what you preach (and would really like to be) and what you actually do. Don’t lie. Don’ go behind anyone’s back, it may blow up in your face.

OK. That being said, here’s what bothers me in you synastry:
His Saturn is forming an opposition with the stelium in your 5th house. Even though it may give a longevity to a relationship, it can also make two people miserable in a partnership they do not know how to get out of. The problem with Sun-Saturn opposition in synastry is that in the beginning both people can feel that it is a good thing! However, the glitter wears off soon enough and the Sun is suffocated by the Saturn who is constantly trying to change it. The sames goes for Venus, but it’s probably more painful because it’s hitting the emotions. The Saturn person can willingly or not start to hurt the Venus person over and over again, because basically they are so different that there will be always something to complain about. I’m not saying that this is impossible to deal with but it requires so much energy and awareness that it is often impossible to sustain in long-term and it is extremely draining for both people. Simple Venus-Venus conjunction is not enough in this context.

His Uranus is doing the same, but with different consequences. Uranus is exciting, fun, but it is chaotic, unstable and almost never lasting. You may be at different stages in life.

In anay case, with a quick look I think that he has an upper hand because his Saturn and Uranus are opposing your inner planets.
Attractions are beautiful if a person knows what they are and how to deal with them. If you get caught up in the “play” believing that you are more than a temporary character, you will get hurt. Some people need this pain in order to blow up their lives so that they can rebuild them. Some people use this as an instigator to leave their partners they are no longer happy with. And it is okay, as long as they know what they are doing. But, if they believe that this other individual is their “soul-mate” and that is “meant-to-be”, most of them (heck almost ALL of them) get bitterly disappointed. Again, maybe that is what they needed.

And to conclude, you are married he is getting married!

You say: “We never talked openly and directly to each other about our feelings, since the life circumstances are just not allowing it and probably because of the overwhelming emotion.” Don’t count on it! It is called wishful thinking. See what is REALLY there and take responsibility for your life instead of daydreaming. When people want to and are able to do something they do it! If they can’t well than it is impossible. Suffering is avoidable. But people prefere anything over emptiness and boredom (that’s like death!) even drama.

If you want to stay married, then work on your marriage seriously. If you want out, then get busy getting out and say something to your love-interest. But for you knowing what you want is hard, because there are no guarantees. You need to build more self-confidence. It will not “just happen”.

Vso srečo in vse najboljše!