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Topic: This is why people shouldn’t base their relationships solely on synastry
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ChildofVenus
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posted June 10, 2023 08:04 AM
  
Synastry between this poly guy (I know his birth time) and I we have conjunctions even the Sun/Moon conjunction that everyone says is so powerful. And we also have angle conjunctions. And yet it still didn’t work between us. Because he's more into the Scorpio chick (their synastry is posted below). And their synastry has many squares. (I don't have her accurate birth time). But his birth time is correct. Even still you can see the aspects they have versus the aspect we have. On paper we are more compatible. Yet still that means nothing. This is why when people tell me it's not going to work out between me and so and so. Because we have “bad synastry” it makes no sense to me. And this proves that having hard aspects in synastry. Does not mean it won't work. Don’t let people tell you having bad synastry doesn’t work. Because this is clearly an example of why that’s not true.  The synastry between him and the Cancer chick (again I don’t know her birth time) 
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vansio
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posted June 10, 2023 05:20 PM
perhaps house overlays explain the reason behind a relationship? that this should match what people are looking for?i attract a lot of virgo men (my IC) because i adore having considerate guys around, to feel and literally-hang “at home” with, and emotionally understood. knowing that your birthtime is correct, i notice you and him have no 5/8H overlays, and from what I gather, you are pretty sex-positive person, generally looking for a sex partner. maybe thats why this synastry with him didnt make the cut—to match the IRL/objective reason for the connection/interest? he’s all up in your sixth house your sun moon conjunction falls in 3-6 house. & perhaps this issue explains how the trines/sextiles work better for some people’s luminaries, depending on their natal house placements. like for example, i have Capricorn Moon 8H. i’m rarely attracting Capricorn Suns, however, a Virgo Sun trine from my 4H suits me better. i have currently 5 virgo males closeby, no taurus sun males whatsoever. to each their own! worth considering the houses activated through the synastry as well IP: Logged |
frankie2912
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posted June 10, 2023 08:34 PM
This dude's aquarian af, sure he's not just an alien?IP: Logged |
frida
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posted June 11, 2023 04:02 AM
Hm, some squares are good for sure because they generate sparks, a bit of tension, make things dynamic.
But I get what you’re saying… this is a puzzle to me too. My ex and I had amazing synastry and we’re exes now. Like you, I don’t read into it too much anymore. It really depends on what the person is looking for. And I think sometimes it’s hard to tell even based on the natal chart because it depends on the persons family history, stage in life, maturity etc.
E.g. I lack earth in my chart and have a lot of friends in earth signs. I fell really hard for a Taurus man despite “horrible” synastry (I’m aqua/Leo) because he’s like my Taurus mother in many ways and he has exactly what I don’t have. IP: Logged |
PlutoWasHere
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posted June 11, 2023 10:48 AM
It also depends on the type of relationship someone is looking for. He has his Aquarius Venus (7th house ruler) square his Pluto and north node, this man is likely a pleasure seeker and probably really enjoys the Scorpio energy she’s bringing. Besides her Scorpio Sun and Mars, the ruler of her Virgo Venus is Scorpio Mercury conjunct Pluto, these are conjunct his Ascendant. Her Cancer Moon also falls into his 8th house. This man possibly really enjoys having something “on the side”, his Jupiter in his 12th house, the house of hidden secrets and fantasy. He has his 5th house in Aries, the Scorpio has her Sun conjunct Mars and puts them in his 12th house square his Aquarius Mars (5th house ruler). So besides his 7th house needs she also fulfilled his 5th hose needs and his 12th house preference. Don’t fixate on classic aspects of attraction but look at the type of person and relationship needs that are indicated in their chart. Match that with how the personality actually shows up in real life and then look at the way the synastry connects to that. Not everyone is looking for the same type of connection. Some people are looking for different qualities in a mistress than a wife. And sometimes things just don’t work out for whatever reason that can’t be seen in the synastry or composite chart. IP: Logged |
Librapurr
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posted June 12, 2023 12:38 AM
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Originally posted by frankie2912:
This dude's aquarian af, sure he's not just an alien?
Ha. It should be jokes here like that dude is so Aquarius even synastry doesn’t work the right way with him lol2)That dude is so Aquarius so Mercury is enough to make him fall for. 😃 IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
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posted June 16, 2023 09:15 PM
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Originally posted by vansio:
perhaps house overlays explain the reason behind a relationship? that this should match what people are looking for?i attract [b]a lot of virgo men (my IC) because i adore having considerate guys around, to feel and literally-hang “at home” with, and emotionally understood. knowing that your birthtime is correct, i notice you and him have no 5/8H overlays, and from what I gather, you are pretty sex-positive person, generally looking for a sex partner. maybe thats why this synastry with him didnt make the cut—to match the IRL/objective reason for the connection/interest? he’s all up in your sixth house your sun moon conjunction falls in 3-6 house. & perhaps this issue explains how the trines/sextiles work better for some people’s luminaries, depending on their natal house placements. like for example, i have Capricorn Moon 8H. i’m rarely attracting Capricorn Suns, however, a Virgo Sun trine from my 4H suits me better. i have currently 5 virgo males closeby, no taurus sun males whatsoever. to each their own! worth considering the houses activated through the synastry as well [/B]
You’re right thanks for your input I agree with. The natal charts are important and it does depend on what's going on. I feel that 8th house synastry is a better fit for me. He would talk to me about sex and would say how he thought I was attractive. I thought he was cute and we did talk about sex. But I don't think I really felt sexually attracted to him. IP: Logged |
mee_chryssa
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posted June 17, 2023 03:51 PM
The only planet that he really sees from you is your Moon. Meanwhile, with that girl, Sun/Mercury/Mars are on his ASC. Venus and Jupiter are in his 11th house which is a great place for Venus overlay. All her planets are being seen by him. I'm not even going into how different the 5th house is between you two using the whole dign system. Yours has saturn in it and his is going into the ASC. Or how different the Scorpio/Taurus axis on the ASC/DC is from the Leo/Aq axis. But whatever... You've been on this website longer than I did and still you are clueless of some basic astrology. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 18, 2023 09:42 AM
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ChildofVenus
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posted June 18, 2023 01:55 PM
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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
The only planet that he really sees from you is your Moon. Meanwhile, with that girl, Sun/Mercury/Mars are on his ASC. Venus and Jupiter are in his 11th house which is a great place for Venus overlay. All her planets are being seen by him. I'm not even going into how different the 5th house is between you two using the whole dign system. Yours has saturn in it and his is going into the ASC. Or how different the Scorpio/Taurus axis on the ASC/DC is from the Leo/Aq axis. But whatever... You've been on this website longer than I did and still you are clueless of some basic astrology.
You are only calling me clueless because I don’t agree with you. That shows your character and what type of person you really are. You’re the one who’s clueless because you think astrology trumps real life when it doesn’t. The fact that you think having Sun/Moon contacts or angle contacts automatically means great compatibility shows that you are the one that’s clueless. I’m not sure why you are even still commenting on my posts. I don’t take you seriously and I also don’t take your advice because I don’t think you know what you’re talking about. I mean the fact that you told me I’m compatible with a Leo and was nonchalant about the fact that I said he abused me. Shows that no one on this forum should take your advice. Have a good day. IP: Logged |
SophieMina
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posted June 19, 2023 01:06 AM
Thanks for this!
Comments like this are so helpful for me. I started looking at my own synastry with the man I'm seeing and comparing the ASC/DC axis to see what you meant. Changing the charts to whole house, etc.I know it's basic, but for those of us at the beginning of the learning curve, it's awesome.  quote:
Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
The only planet that he really sees from you is your Moon. Meanwhile, with that girl, Sun/Mercury/Mars are on his ASC. Venus and Jupiter are in his 11th house which is a great place for Venus overlay. All her planets are being seen by him. I'm not even going into how different the 5th house is between you two using the whole dign system. Yours has saturn in it and his is going into the ASC. Or how different the Scorpio/Taurus axis on the ASC/DC is from the Leo/Aq axis. But whatever... You've been on this website longer than I did and still you are clueless of some basic astrology.
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sassaqua
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posted June 19, 2023 04:11 AM
Haha... well, wadda y'know.... my two favourite people in a spat.I'll see if I can help out When astrology says you're "compatible with a Leo" or "XYZ factors", I'm pretty sure the caveat is: "theoretically". Theoretically you are compatible, given other socially influencing factors - eg: how attractive you are, how rich you are, or tall, how abusive you are, smart, clean, or dirty you are..... etc. Everyone kind of knows this. I hope that was helpful  IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
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posted June 19, 2023 09:39 AM
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Originally posted by sassaqua:
Haha... well, wadda y'know.... my two favourite people in a spat.I'll see if I can help out When astrology says you're "compatible with a Leo" or "XYZ factors", I'm pretty sure the caveat is: "theoretically". Theoretically you are compatible, given other socially influencing factors - eg: how attractive you are, how rich you are, or tall, how abusive you are, smart, clean, or dirty you are..... etc. Everyone kind of knows this. I hope that was helpful
No, her opinion was that I'd be compatible with a Leo. Because I was talking about the situation with the Cancer guy. She told me he wasn't for me based on astrology. When it's simply not that easy and there is plenty of synastry where people think two people aren't compatible. But in real life, it's the total opposite. And when I mentioned that I had already had that experience with a Leo. And that it turned out to be bad and that he was both mentally and physically abusive, Her response was "well it works". Astrology isn't that simple and everyone knows that it depends on the natal charts as well. I'm a Taurus Sun with Leo rising just because I have Leo Rising doesn't automatically mean I am compatible with a Leo. I think Leo Suns are self-absorbed and attention seekers. And their Sun also makes an opposition to my Moon. IP: Logged |
Librapurr
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posted June 19, 2023 09:41 AM
It’s a preference for hard aspects (not conj.) . Especially, he has almost everything in one sign. He needs variety.
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ChildofVenus
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posted June 19, 2023 09:46 AM
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Originally posted by Librapurr:
It’s a preference for hard aspects (not conj.) . Especially, he has almost everything in one sign. He needs variety.
Usually, I’m interested in conjunction only if there’re enough Pluto and Neptune, Fire and Water. I could better tolerate the hard aspects BS than my own placements things 😏🙃
So what's the reason for him wanting to meet me in person, wanting to introduce me to the couple that he's involved with? IP: Logged |
ChildofVenus
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posted June 19, 2023 09:53 AM
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Originally posted by frida:
Hm, some squares are good for sure because they generate sparks, a bit of tension, make things dynamic.
But I get what you’re saying… this is a puzzle to me too. My ex and I had amazing synastry and we’re exes now. Like you, I don’t read into it too much anymore. It really depends on what the person is looking for. And I think sometimes it’s hard to tell even based on the natal chart because it depends on the persons family history, stage in life, maturity etc.
E.g. I lack earth in my chart and have a lot of friends in earth signs. I fell really hard for a Taurus man despite “horrible” synastry (I’m aqua/Leo) because he’s like my Taurus mother in many ways and he has exactly what I don’t have.
Yeah, for now on I am going to just go with the vibe I get from them in real life. And then if things start to get complicated I'll check the synastry. Because every time I seem to like someone I have bad synastry with them. But with the people who I'm supposed to be compatible with I'm not really into. I had Moon conjunct Moon with a guy in synastry. And it just seemed like we were too much alike. To me that feels like a sibling connection. IP: Logged |
Librapurr
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posted June 19, 2023 11:52 PM
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Originally posted by ChildofVenus:
So what's the reason for him wanting to meet me in person, wanting to introduce me to the couple that he's involved with?
It didn’t mean he wasn’t attracted to you. You have nice thing as compatible Mars, shared Moon, bunch of soft aspects, overlaid axises. You asked why he is into her more.
Composite could play part also.
Anyway, see how long he is gonna be into her.
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Randall
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posted July 06, 2023 01:56 PM
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