posted January 25, 2020 05:54 AM            

Thoughts on this synastry??
We started dating for some time now, and I'm starting to like him...
He expressed his emotions to me, but me on the other hand I'm not that expressive when it comes to feelings. So he feels like if I'm not serious in the rs, even though that I am. I don't understand where his confusion is coming from.

Does our synastry look good?
Named Asteroid for him : Mammuthus
Named Asteroids for me : Yasue & Yasminezubi

Edit : One thing I wanted to mention is that, there's this weird thing that keeps happening. A part from sharing same ideas about many things. Each time he expresses his thoughts or just says something randomly, I would've had the same idea/feeling but I didn't express it out loud at that moment. And vice versa. It feels like he's stealing my thoughts. And he feels the same way when I say something. I like it, but it creeps me out a little. Because it moves me but at the same time I'm afraid to like him too much.

posted January 25, 2020 03:50 PM            

But with the planetary aspects, I really don’t like this synastry. It looks extremely toxic and even potentially dangerous.
That t-square you two are making with his mars, your mercury/mars, both your Pluto’s and his Jupiter SCREAMS arguments, conflicts, ego battles/struggles, annoyance, irritation etc. just incompatibility in a nutshell. And since his mars squares his own Pluto/Jupiter and he has moon in Leo, he has a tendency to overreact (moon in leo), and be violent/have anger issues which is a strong hallmark of mars square Pluto, and with his Jupiter there this is just exacerbating all this for him. With your mars and mercury added to this mix, triggering his natal dynamics into a t-square with his MARS as the apex 🙃, this is a deadly cocktail. You saying (mercury) or doing (mars) the wrong thing; could really set him off. And you will (because the planets are squared), he will take things the wrong way and become easily annoyed and frustrated with you and things could escalate quickly.
I just noticed Saturn is actually involved here too, making this t-square into a grand cross. Yikes. So add him being critical, cold and condescending etc. during these conflicts or moments of annoyance to the mix as well. And you feeling inhibited and insecure around him like you can’t express yourself fully because of his disapproval. Even if it’s just the energy you sense and he hasn’t voiced it right away, you’ll feel blocked/restricted by him. He might also be controlling with mars/Saturn. Saturn touching your mercury/mars Iike this won’t feel good at all in the long run.
I suggest you run tbh lol. I have a strong bad feeling about this, and honestly it doesn’t look like you’re that into him to begin with, he’s not your type (unless he’s a Taurus or Gemini rising), so why risk it.

posted January 26, 2020 01:37 AM            

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Originally posted by itsmeyaz:
Aspects.

@Soika, sorry if I show you this again. At first I wasn't sure I'd date him... but I don't know how it all happened..

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Oh I see, I suspected I had seen this already, but I cant remember at this moment... did I check the composite already as well ?

posted January 26, 2020 09:40 AM            

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Originally posted by LunaIscariot:
Well since we don’t have his TOB, a lot of my analysis is going to be missing.

But with the planetary aspects, I really don’t like this synastry. It looks extremely toxic and even potentially dangerous.
That t-square you two are making with his mars, your mercury/mars, both your Pluto’s and his Jupiter SCREAMS arguments, conflicts, ego battles/struggles, annoyance, irritation etc. just incompatibility in a nutshell. And since his mars squares his own Pluto/Jupiter and he has moon in Leo, he has a tendency to overreact (moon in leo), and be violent/have anger issues which is a strong hallmark of mars square Pluto, and with his Jupiter there this is just exacerbating all this for him. With your mars and mercury added to this mix, triggering his natal dynamics into a t-square with his MARS as the apex 🙃, this is a deadly cocktail. You saying (mercury) or doing (mars) the wrong thing; could really set him off. And you will (because the planets are squared), he will take things the wrong way and become easily annoyed and frustrated with you and things could escalate quickly.
I just noticed Saturn is actually involved here too, making this t-square into a grand cross. Yikes. So add him being critical, cold and condescending etc. during these conflicts or moments of annoyance to the mix as well. And you feeling inhibited and insecure around him like you can’t express yourself fully because of his disapproval. Even if it’s just the energy you sense and he hasn’t voiced it right away, you’ll feel blocked/restricted by him. He might also be controlling with mars/Saturn. Saturn touching your mercury/mars Iike this won’t feel good at all in the long run.
I suggest you run tbh lol. I have a strong bad feeling about this, and honestly it doesn’t look like you’re that into him to begin with, he’s not your type (unless he’s a Taurus or Gemini rising), so why risk it.

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posted January 26, 2020 09:47 AM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Hi itsmeyaz!

Well, he's quite into you mainly cause his NN/Venus is conjunct your ASC/Vesta and his Juno conjunct to your Ceres... Then obviously your Moon trine to his Venus and his Lilith in your 7th house opposite your Pluto... so he strongly feels you're his type and has strong attraction, and obviously feelings with the Moon/Venus aspect... Yes your Mercury/Mars is afflicted by his Mars and Saturn, so this might cause you a block in expressing yourself but also not so strongly attracted as he is, even though there are a few aspects in enjoying in his company, such as his Venus trine your Jupiter and the named asteroids contacts... I cant see how you would be so much into him though and with your Saturn square his Sun/Mercury he's going to feel frustrated as well... There's some glue with your Saturn trine his Pluto, but I am not sure this is going to last... Post a composite please :-)

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He does seem to like me a lot. But I don't know. I am starting to like him, but I feel like I don't like him as much. And he keeps asking me if I have doubts about him or why I behave in a reserved way. While I'm just a slow person when it comes to emotions. I don't know how to explain it.
I got his TOB, so I'll post the new synastry, as well as the composite.

I'm inside. He's a 29° Sag. I thought he was a cap

posted January 26, 2020 03:29 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Oh I see, I suspected I had seen this already, but I cant remember at this moment... did I check the composite already as well ?

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Sorry itsmeyaz, would it be annoying for me to interfere and ask for Stoika's opinion on a superbly confusing synastry + composite in another thread here? http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/009833.html

Sorry sorry! Now I disappear!

posted January 26, 2020 08:58 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
but with node on the ascendant there is a psychic connection and with the emoon square the node and opposed to Uranus, they have an amazing astral channel opennm also. this increases the psychic energy anfd shows they have [b]common dreams and likely communicate directly in these dreams.
todd

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That is heaven on earth. Even coming from a DW Node-Asc conjunction making it double powerful. This aspect on itself is already such a huge pull so let alone this..

posted January 27, 2020 03:11 PM            

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Originally posted by HieronymusTush:
Sorry itsmeyaz, would it be annoying for me to interfere and ask for Stoika's opinion on a superbly confusing synastry + composite in another thread here? http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum35/HTML/009833.html

Sorry sorry! Now I disappear!

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posted January 27, 2020 03:25 PM            

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Originally posted by todd:
wow this composite is a bit overwhelming. I don't have time now to go into yin and yang of the influences but with node on the ascendant there is a psychic connection and with the emoon square the node and opposed to Uranus, they have an amazing astral channel opennm also. this increases the psychic energy anfd shows they have common dreams and likely communicate directly in these dreams.
added to that, eros on the node and the eris/psyche midpoint conjunct the south node and dejaniera and they have a very intense electric sexual /emotional attraction.

but as I mentioned there are two sides here and I will go into the darker side tomorrow.
todd

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posted January 27, 2020 03:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Thanks for posting the new charts with his TOB!

Oh, this is interesting...I see a karmic link here, the Composite Saturn in Pisces conjunct Sun forming the kite with Pluto, it seems he feels committed with some kind of subconscious obligation to you, but Venus in 10th quincunx Sun and Uranus suggests a big challenge in making things work out, and NN in 12th house square to Neptune is not a good omen for this relationship to take off the ground... Nessus/Pluto square to Venus is also a big concern, this suggests a negative energy is against the relationship armony and negative feelings of oppression given by overwhelming control issues might arise...With the stellium Sun/Saturn/Mercury in Pisces square to Jupiter and trine to Pluto/Nessus, I think there's an underlying subconscious dynamic of attraction/repulsion in this relationship... and I suspect this be cause he's projecting some unfulfilled desire over you (his natal Saturn square to his Lilith/Mars opposite Pluto conjunct your Pluto and sextile your Neptune, which is conjunct to his Uranus in his 4th house, suggesting he has some emotional issues rooted in his family environment with also natal Moon square to his Venus/NN), but it all turns out like a strong sexual hook rather than an emotional one with the Moon opposite Uranus and Venus square Pluto... Yes there is a strong intellectual and psychic connection with the Nodes on the ASC/DSC, so this is again a karmic or subconscious suggestion of unsolved issues but since the Nodes are square to Moon and Neptune, I'm afraid there wont be real awareness in order to solve them, even though those issues is what your bond is made of (Comp. Sun/Saturn in Pisces)... and yes, the Nodes on the axis explains those "weird thing that keeps happening"... btw, the Kite is a strong draw to each other and even though it suggests a potential deep feeling of merging and soulmate, it might stay emotionally unsatisfied and potentially triggering negative feelings in the long run, cause of Nessus square Venus... Venus trine Jupiter is a sign that an harmony can be found here, but they are mainly in earthly position (10th and 2th house), so it looks like such an harmony might come more from earthly aspects than emotional ones... then in 7th house we have only Psyche sextile Neptune, so there is a wish to make this relationship work out, but 12th house is in Libra and the NN/Eros is there, so I assume this all might get to a strong sexual level but it wont be enough for a stable/happy love relationship.

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Thank you for your feedback, Stoika

To be honest, I do enjoy him a lot. I am starting to like him. It's just taking me a longer time to like him compared to him. He admired me before he tried to approach me. While I started liking him as time went by. I feel like the negative energy can possibly come from our surroundings. Especially the work place. A lot of people keep watching us and making up stories about me & him. You can imagine how it's like.....

Both of us felt like we know each other from a past life. Even if he's not that much into astrology, he was the one who said that he feels like we've met before. He explains it with the fact that he keeps "having deja" vu when he's with me. Which is quite... odd.
I'm sure there is something for me and him to learn from this relationship. I don't know what it is. I tried to run away from it tbh (considering the fact we met at work), but I don't know how the more I tried to run away, the harder he pulled me back until I found myself in it. Do I make sense?

posted January 31, 2020 04:58 PM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Yes you do, the Composite Kite nature here is a strong pull no matter what, and Venus trine Jupiter adds the feeling of enjoyment in hanging with him. Then of course the NN/ASC in twelve is a strong karmic suggestion of fated meeting, past life, deja vù, psychic connection and so on... Also, the Saturn/Mercury/Sun conjunction talks of strong familiarity and past connection, and this is square to the Vertex in Gemini.
Comp. South Node in 6th house might point to those work environment issues which might held things back, but such environment doesnt look so influencial to me, since MC is also opposite Juno, this is actually a strong potential for long term.... what is most concerning, I think, is the Saturn/Jupiter square, since it also involves the Sun, it has a strong divisive unstable trait, together with the Venus/Uranus/Sun "finger of God"...
North Node in 12th Libra suggests a karmic meeting about solving subconscious relationship issues, and it involves Eros and it is square to Moon and Uranus, so it might have to do with an "emotional versus sexual" issue.

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Thank you for your time, Stoika

This is helping me a lot understand the dynamic of our relationship. I hope we will be able to make that Saturn/Jupiter square work positively for us. Somehow.

Sometimes I feel like me and him are like the same person, so maybe the karmic lesson here is to face our worst flaws?

The emotional vs sexual issue you brought up, I can feel it. Sometimes I don't know if he's into me emotionally or rather drawn to me in a sexual way only. Because I've had a lot of bad experiences where Men would act in a sexual manner with me, even if I show 0.0000 interest. Should I blame my 8th house? Haha.

posted January 31, 2020 07:48 PM            

mars is square to eris which is very sexual but does not promote a steady relationship.
the midpoint is opposed to nessus and pluyo which again does not point to emotional sympathy that might be expected in a loving relationship. is quite a selfish aspect usually shows a interest sex mainly. .Venus and pluto square often starts off very intensely but as emotional bonding does nor usually follow the sexual intimacy, this aspect can lead to a loss of physical interest and actually become celibate.

the sun/moon midpoint is also opposed to pluto and nessus which really indicates the deep level of selfishness in the relationship. I think the electricity is masking a underlying emotional isolation and this distance will not likely ever change.

the mars/Neptune midpoint is also loosely square to eris which should he does have a devoted nature. with the mars/Uranus midpoint square to the eris/node midpoint , his independent emotional nature is again shown. he is not likely become emotionally intimate in a real sense.

posted February 01, 2020 05:10 AM            

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Originally posted by todd:
the sheer intensity of the composite and with Uranus involved make this a very unstable relationship.
in addition there are a few difficult emotional aspects.

mars is square to eris which is very sexual but does not promote a steady relationship.
the midpoint is opposed to nessus and pluyo which again does not point to emotional sympathy that might be expected in a loving relationship. is quite a selfish aspect usually shows a interest sex mainly. .Venus and pluto square often starts off very intensely but as emotional bonding does nor usually follow the sexual intimacy, this aspect can lead to a loss of physical interest and actually become celibate.

the sun/moon midpoint is also opposed to pluto and nessus which really indicates the deep level of selfishness in the relationship. I think the electricity is masking a underlying emotional isolation and this distance will not likely ever change.

the mars/Neptune midpoint is also loosely square to eris which should he does have a devoted nature. with the mars/Uranus midpoint square to the eris/node midpoint , his independent emotional nature is again shown. he is not likely become emotionally intimate in a real sense.

the Saturn/Jupiter squares midpoint is conjunct to juno which indicates problems informing a serious relationship .

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Hello todd, thank you for replying

I'm kind of confused to some of the things you mentioned in your reply. During these past 2 months, I have been the one being unsure of my feelings and our relationship. I don't know why, but I keep questionning the longevity of our relationship, because I'm not into flings or short term rs. I rather stay single.
But he on the other hand, have been the one who's expressing his feelings and admiration to me. In a non sexual way. Of course he is physically drawn to me, but considering how he expressed it all, I figured it's more emotional than sexual...
So I'm confused.

These past two months were very good to us, he did show he was devoted and serious about this whole thing. But now I'm just.....It feels like it all doesn't make sense.
The way things were during this period and are, is like the opposite of how it's described to be here. I don't know how it could be..

Add to that the way we are connected/ in sync in a psychic way, is helping me be more comfortable with the rs, and help me express myself more. And I don't want to lose that or for it to turn out to be a sex driven rs, that would break my heart.

I understand there are no supporting aspects shown in the composite/synastry ???

posted February 15, 2020 07:18 PM            

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Originally posted by itsmeyaz:
Hello todd, thank you for replying

I'm kind of confused to some of the things you mentioned in your reply. During these past 2 months, I have been the one being unsure of my feelings and our relationship. I don't know why, but I keep questionning the longevity of our relationship, because I'm not into flings or short term rs. I rather stay single.
But he on the other hand, have been the one who's expressing his feelings and admiration to me. In a non sexual way. Of course he is physically drawn to me, but considering how he expressed it all, I figured it's more emotional than sexual...
So I'm confused.

These past two months were very good to us, he did show he was devoted and serious about this whole thing. But now I'm just.....It feels like it all doesn't make sense.
The way things were during this period and are, is like the opposite of how it's described to be here. I don't know how it could be..

Add to that the way we are connected/ in sync in a psychic way, is helping me be more comfortable with the rs, and help me express myself more. And I don't want to lose that or for it to turn out to be a sex driven rs, that would break my heart.

I understand there are no supporting aspects shown in the composite/synastry ???

Thank you for your time again, todd xx

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hi itsmeyaz

I have to apologize, I missed a most important pattern. I was under extreme duress at the end of January and I finally had to relocate 2000 miles because of the tension. i remember that it was very hard to concentrate on astrology then. my apology again.

moon trine to the sun and pluto/nessus and sextile to chiron,and opposed to Uranus this pattern of sextile and trines stabilizes the volatile moon/Uranus opposition. in addition the node is square the moon and Uranus which energizes the entire kite pattern.
the mars/eris midpoint isalso part of the setile pattern, giving the charta grand sextile. this is a very favorable pattern,

the effect is to gives a harmony and deep supporting feelings to the chart. pluto and nessus allows deeper emotional issues to arise and be expressed. the trine aspect with Nessus and Pluto tends to give very protective feelings.chiron add intelligence and deep understanding of each others feelings and ideas. chiron has a healing touch and can heal your hidden issues.

the node on the ascendant ,giving the strong psychic connection, adds the dimension of higher planes of awareness pattern.

these patterns of energy are not sexual driven but are tapping into higher planes of awareness.

i would think the astral/psychic connection you share has affected him also. mars is square to eris so there is a very strong sexual energy from him, but the midpoint is opposed to Nessus/Pluto and becomes a part of the kite pattern

actually the addition of mars/eris midpoint turns this into a very favorable pattern as the sexual attraction is added to the common psychic experience yet does not upset this awareness but adds a emotional cohesion.

he definitely has physical feelings for you but respects you and the energy you two generate too much to allow the physical attraction to hinder the relationship.

the composite has Venus square to pluto/nessus which actually shows you have deep issues with affection and sexuality, so he is being sensitive to your emotional reticence.it seems he is waiting until you have the confidence in him before he tries to further the physical side.

the mars/venus midpoint is square to psyche. this shows that the physical ardor of the affection between you is colored by a highly romantic, idealist affection. psyche can add almost childlike feeling.....it can bring a pleasure just in physical proximity .

juno is opposed to the mars/venus MP which gives a possibility that the affection will turn to love and a serious relationship.

i think you are lucky that he has the sensitivity to feel your doubts and issues and his devotion is showing by his waiting for you to be comfortable with the relationship on another level.