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Topic: Synastry with his ex and him
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andrea22
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posted November 09, 2020 10:32 AM
  
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andrea22
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posted November 09, 2020 12:57 PM
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mee_chryssa
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posted November 09, 2020 06:31 PM
You shouldn't worry so much.He's not with her anymore. He's with you.
We all have stories and we spend our time with other people. Just let things as they are and enjoy your time with him. His DC is in Scorpio and her planets made some aspects to his DC. His DC being in Scorpio, he likes profound women with whom he can share deep intimacy and a profound connection. But Scorpio is not only about this, but also about possessive behaviour, obsession. IP: Logged |
mee_chryssa
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posted November 09, 2020 06:35 PM
You could post your composite with him too, since you are a couple already.IP: Logged |
andrea22
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posted November 09, 2020 07:16 PM
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mee_chryssa
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posted November 10, 2020 09:15 AM
I have hard aspects to my Venus and I don't like when someone is making hard aspect to it too, even with the conjunction. Mostly because they will open up my insecurities. Maybe if I wasn't aware of them, I would have gone all the way. It is true, thou, that we keep attracting people that will open up our wounds until we heal them. I can't say more since I'm a beginner too. She is very plutonic and he has his Moon in Scorpio. Aspects made from a planet to another planet are mutual. Probably, he really was obsessed with her sincer she has 3 personal planets in Scorpio and that's his DC. IP: Logged |
mee_chryssa
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posted November 10, 2020 09:18 AM
"and what you think about his and mine synastry? do i ever stand a chance to be also close to what they had?" Why would you want him to be obsessed with you? Obsession is not closeness. IP: Logged |
andrea22
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posted November 10, 2020 01:54 PM
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mee_chryssa
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posted November 10, 2020 04:06 PM
She had her Saturn conjunct his Moon so probably she had big expectations from him. With this aspect, probably she was putting some pressure on his emotions, restricting them, I think. IP: Logged |
mee_chryssa
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posted November 10, 2020 04:12 PM
Your Saturn being in his 7th house will restrict the relationship.
Usualy, Saturn in relationship house is harsh for a couple because it will put restrictions and limitations to learn how to be with one another. But it is binding too.I have Saturn in the 5th house of someone and I am teaching him about arts and kids and stuff of 5th house, but also we can't have fun together sometimes, I am being critic about his knowledge in arts, him being more of a technical guy. He has his Saturn in my 9th house and sometimes I feel I'm not enough educated for him. So you are probably teaching him about relationships. IP: Logged |
anska5
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posted November 10, 2020 04:44 PM
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Originally posted by mee_chryssa:
Your Saturn being in his 7th house will restrict the relationship.
Usualy, Saturn in relationship house is harsh for a couple because it will put restrictions and limitations to learn how to be with one another. But it is binding too.I have Saturn in the 5th house of someone and I am teaching him about arts and kids and stuff of 5th house, but also we can't have fun together sometimes, I am being critic about his knowledge in arts, him being more of a technical guy. He has his Saturn in my 9th house and sometimes I feel I'm not enough educated for him. So you are probably teaching him about relationships.
saturn in 7th yes can mean that, teaching about relationships, but it may also scream to the 7th house person that you want to get serious...even if you say otherwise. I've had my saturn on someone's dc before and even though I never expressed the wish to be in a relationship with him,he immediately assumed...and ran from it, as he really didnt want one. So here the the guy expressly says that he does not want a relationship and maybe this is in reaction to him feeling the need to declare that given the (how he may perceive it) pressure on him to committ with her saturn in his 7th. One way or another, it really sounds in no way healthy him basically declaring that he is still obsessed with another woman and rubbing it in that he will only enter a relationship when a woman is special enough. Sounds manipulative to a t and it clearly is working as you are hooked..
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mee_chryssa
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posted November 10, 2020 05:16 PM
Yes, the teaching is the good part of saturn in the 7th house.
That's how I feel with my saturn in the 5th house of a guy. It's like I "ask" him to care about me more than he does... I didn't say it, but I can feel it in the air. With guys that are younger than me with a year, or two, they fall into my 8th house with saturn and I don't know how they feel, but I always wanted to be closer to them, but we couldn't be close enough. Adding that they taught me some things about taking things slow. I don't know if it is because of this placement or because they had Capricorn placements. I think it was because their Saturn fell into my 8th house. (I should say that they were both kinda toxic for me) IP: Logged |
andrea22
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posted November 10, 2020 05:40 PM
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mee_chryssa
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posted November 10, 2020 05:57 PM
And how do you feel about this?IP: Logged |
mee_chryssa
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posted November 10, 2020 06:03 PM
I think you hurt yourself too much with all of this. You shouldn't listen to his romantic relationships if he's not over them already. This is not a good sign for someone to speak like that about ex gf to their actual gf.If you want, you can post the composite in this forum and maybe someone can give you a detailed analysis and you can know if this is going to last or not. Synastry is for normal interaction between people, not for a couple. IP: Logged |
andrea22
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posted November 10, 2020 06:18 PM
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mee_chryssa
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posted November 10, 2020 06:21 PM
Don't ask questions that you don't want to know the answer. If they were meant to be, they were still together, so... IP: Logged |
mee_chryssa
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posted November 10, 2020 06:25 PM
It is normal to feel like that and I understand you. Post the composite too in a new thread so someone will look at it. IP: Logged |
andrea22
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posted November 10, 2020 06:31 PM
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Librapurr
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posted November 10, 2020 09:00 PM
He has Uranus on DC and Venus Uranus , it might take him a long time to commit. He could be happy with long-distance or some other non traditional arrangements.Often you cannot know 100% who feels it more.
Their relationships didn’t work! Why would you want to have the similar... If she was that special why he let her go.. It’s Scorpio. They keep secrets. Don’t expect him to tell you the whole truth.
Also, this is a typical Scorpio thing : She might be his first serious girlfriend who leaves that’s why he remembers her forever. She was Pluto and Saturn. She had the upper hand in relationships. He didn’t behave right. She needed to punish him or teach lessons so she left. IP: Logged |
Hikaru29
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From: Asia
Registered: Nov 2018
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posted November 11, 2020 03:45 AM
It’s hard to tell how she felt about him because her houses are unknown. We also don’t know which planets rule her relationship houses. Her Moon/Mercury conjunct Saturn could be the reason he found it hard to understand her mind. She has a serious mind and may not be fully open with her thoughts and feelings.Personally I’m irritated by guys who can’t stop talking about their exes. When I got to know my guy he also did the same. He liked me yet couldn’t stop talking about how much he missed his ex. I got ****** off naturally (not interested to be anyone’s replacement lover) so I said I wouldn’t see him again. That woke him up because he started missing me! I know you’re the one who made him tell you but it’s not a good feeling to know. You and him are still casual and considering this is long distance, you better don’t give your heart away. IP: Logged |
andrea22
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posted November 11, 2020 05:03 AM
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mee_chryssa
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posted November 11, 2020 05:18 AM
well, he has his Mercury in Pisces and people with this placement don't seem to understand well how they affect other people with what they are saying. He doesn't like drama especially because his chart is full of squares. When someone has a problem, doesn't want the problem to be bigger. That doesn't mean that he will have a chill interaction. I can't say if your chart is better than the other one because it's up to the people involved. You have to take into consideration the culture, race, tradition of the guy. If he is of a different culture, it is harder for you to be with him. The squares from Pluto are really hard to handle and you can see the obsession that comes with them. You seem to find excuses for what is happening. I have my pluto in the 5th house and I enjoy being with Scorpios, that just sums up that you like being with him (he having his Moon in Scorpio).
The cusp of a house counts the most. This is just over my ability to understand and make a sense of this situation. I wish you all the best to solve it! IP: Logged |
andrea22
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posted November 11, 2020 05:36 AM
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andrea22
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posted November 11, 2020 05:38 AM
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